Men get attached after sex. Then how does hookup culture work?

For men sex is physical act and for women it is emotional.

Then is it true men get attached after sex, even to a hookup? Also will that go back once hormones are normal?

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  • You're sort of right but you're nearly there. It isn't that sex is physical for men and emotional for women. Sex, for men, is how we develop our intimacy with our partner. It may well be a strong urge for us, but its also how we develop our intimacy. Its the one time men are vulnerable around a woman, we allow that and when our faith in our trust is affirmed by our partner, that she won't hurt us, we develop closeness and intimacy as a result. Sex is how men develop intimacy, sex IS physical for men but also intimate. I keep saying intimate because I want it to be heard and understood. Also, thats probably why hookup culture is hard for a lot of men, that and women have all the power regarding sexual access.

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  • While women tend to be more emotional and men more physical. It's not like one is exclusive one, and other is the other.

    Guys are just simply BETTER at separating the physical and the emotional aspect of sex then women.

    To guys that think the number of women they bed are a measure of thier manhood and pursue women to that end, there is little if any emotional connection. On the flipside women who use poor judgement, are easily manipulated, or have little self respect choose these men. Because she frankly doesn't know any better (even if she knows he's just trying to f*** her.😆) THAT is how hookup culture works.

    So to simplify this for you. A man only gets attached to a woman after sex if he values her, valued her to begin with. This is why so many women get f***ed and tossed to the side. These women simply are not smart enough to tell the difference.

    • Most women HOOKUP as they want casual sex. I think the category you mentioned are women running after fuckboys. Or the type of men who uses and throws away women.

    • Hun I'm using the biggest demographic. I didn't say this applied to all women or all men. Just the largest demographic of both genders.

    • Even with that there are varying degrees.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • In my personal experience. To me, sex is sex. Nothing more. Iv never "made love" even with my boyfriend who I love. When I was single I would meet a different stranger every other day, just for sex. I would never get attached. If they were good in bed I would see them again and if not then I wouldn't. Some guys were the same but a few would catch feelings after.

    My boyfriend was one of them. But he was soo good in bed, I thought I'd give a relationship a try and I'm glad I did

  • Kinda both get attached and it really does not work! Look at colleges people constantly dropping out.

    Women as mom's and boys cause they can't handle school work and a social life. Ending up with some girl they banged as a joke then divorced after 2 kids...

    For me it is work and I'm a mistress no feelings other then pay me for doing this to you! With 4 kids to provide for I don't really feel anything but bored.

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  • That's why for men is called "pussy power" 😉

  • for some yes. sex can incur a greater sense of attachment

    for some no. sex does not necessarily lead to a sense of attachment

    for those who do not get attached hookup culture can exist

  • Just like with women, as the number of people you have had sex with increases, your ability to be attached to them decreases.

  • Most men don’t get emotionally attached during a hookup.

    If he did it’s usually not a strong bond type attachment that’s easily dismissed as just someone in passing.

  • no men do not get attached after a single session of sex

    it takes multiple instances of sex for a guy to get attached

    this is because biologically there is no assurance of paternity thus it takes multiple tries to ensure the "kid" might be his even if he doesn't actually want to have a kid