Men getting off on rape victims?

I’ve been on this app for a while, and every now and again there’s someone asking about sexual assault and sexual harassment.

I answer them, with my account not anonymous, because I as a person have right to not have to hide myself.

Because of this I get private messages, only ever men, and they’re always replying to my reply from the question about sexual assault. Then they ask if I’ve ever been in that situation.

It’s men of every age, and they always ask the same thing. It’s like they get off of knowing somebody who’s been assaulted and they like ripping every detail out of you.
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  • also have sexual trauma and i've gotten that too before, not really on here bc i don't really ask stuff related to it, i mean this isn't exactly the most empathetic place ever lol. but yea i've had that like happen maybe 10-13 times, even irl.

    i've had guys who pretended to want to help me on like self help apps when i was struggling, but really all they just wanted fap material. like at first they're all like 'oh i'm so sorry, boohoo. who did it? exc.. " but then it gets very obv real fast.

    i've also had guys not even trying to hide that they liked that shit. some answer posts saying that was hot & it turned them on. had a guy who said he wish he knew me at that age so he could have done that to me. had another guy send me a dick pic mid convo saying he was hard. had a guy pretending to have the same trauma, video chat me. only to orient the convo 10 min in & show me he was half naked jerking off. had 3 guys irl who said disgusting shit too. and it's not like i talk about that with people ever at all, so probs there's a lottt more.

    and yea now that i think about it i think i did have that on here on my old acc or something. vaguely remember it happening.

    anyways there's a lot of shitty guys out there who just want to use your trauma to get off, so tbh you should stick to girls unless you trust the guy or really just other victims of similar stuff (honestly you should just vent or get help from people who get you)

    • Oh that’s really disgusting. Nothing like that has happened to me, mostly because I ignore nearly everyone who pms me (considering they always start the conversation with the same sentence). Honestly I feel sick reading your comment, men can be really sick sometimes.

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  • There are some really sick puppies out there. Don't talk about anything like that on here, I've noticed the same. A lot sick demented males on here.

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  • My girlfriend was raped, by multiple guys
    as a teenager growing up, While we were together and i had no idea.
    RAPE is NOT!!! Somthing To be taken lightly. And it can leave deep scars on victims.

    she ended up pregnant with one of the guys who raped her,

    we have no clue who the dad is, but we bolth take part in raising the kid.

    she kept the child, so thats gunna stick around forever now to remind her of what happened.

    People did get caught.
    Multiple Men from 18-50+ years old.
    including her step dad

    years later we are still together.

    in bed when we have sex. Il do Somthing or say somthing that makes her have bad flashbacks if what happened. And shel start to cry.

    When we get intimate, She still has a hard time with it even though its just me.
    but she's gotten better about it.
    and we actually can enjoy sex now.


    so when guys ask rape victims what happened to feed their sexual fantasies

    just remember what that can do to a girl, mentally, Your reminding her of somthing she can't change, And is trying to forget

    i think its very inconciderate. And messed up.

  • As someone who was raped and sexually assaulted as a 13yr old by females, I can't say my first thought to the question "have you ever been raped?" Would be is this person getting off on this, if they start asking for more details then I might start thinking this person is looking for images to get off to. My experience with females and them asking me "if I've ever been raped" and I answer yes when I was 13 and 14 by females, I've been told countless times by females that it's not rape unless it's a guy doing it. I even had 2 cops laugh off my situation when I was 13, the female cop even asking "isn't that every boys fantasy?"
    So it seems that from our experiences females only believe men can rape and that guys get off on rape stories. We can either let it ruin us or overcome it.

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  • Well get on off it is wrong. But asking if you have been is not. But yeah probably don't trust guys so much who just message you because you said, you have been so.

  • I’ve gotten asked the same sort of shit...

  • Some guys have rape fantasies and probably get off hearing the details of a real assault. It's sad some guys can't keep their fantasies to themselves and treat real victims with respect and compassion.

  • Well have you, kid?

  • You should start blocking anyone who does that.

    • They usually give up when I don’t reply. Besides, if they’re persistent, their accounts end up being removed.

    • That's good. :)

  • Some guys do, and I think it is disgusting to get off on things like that. Unfortunately this app seems full of those kind of "men". I'm sorry you and others have to be on the receiving end of the horrible behavior

  • That’s disgusting, I would block everyone that did that.
    Some people like myself want to help, and they overpower and dislike my help.

  • I dont like neither rapists neither people who get off on that, i even made a question about it, and the reason i did was bc i saw so many women saying that they wouldn't mind being raped, as long as the guy is attractive, which i think is disgusting

  • That so uncool

  • Can't say that I do but have ran across some crazy fetishes so who am I to judge

  • Get over yourself already.

  • They want to know everything and sometimes their questions makes you uncomfortable it’s so weird I didn’t know some men gets off rape, why though?