Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Men, I know this title sounds like I'm about to drop a link to some scam, but nothing at all is required of you except an open mind. I don't have much interest in spending a lot of my time on a take and you don't have much interest in spending a lot of your time reading it so let's get right to it and get out:
- Men need to improve mentally much more than they need to improve physically.
We love women's bodies. It can make all of the difference in terms of how much we enjoy sex if the woman is hot (to us) or if she is less physically attractive. This does not include physical attraction resulting from emotional bonding, but pure animalistic desire. Yet, we have porn. We can see and enjoy a female body that far exceeds any body that we'll ever meet let alone have sex with. So why do we bother to have sex when it's time consuming and sometimes soul crushing to get, has the risk of STDs and pregnancy, and is far less private than masterbating is? Because a vagina feels that much than our hands? There are things that imitate that as well, but those things are used mostly by "sex perverts" and those who just have an unusual interest in sex. No, we do it because of the psychological impact of having sex with an actual woman activates in our brains. Our minds want to touch an actual woman, this releases chemicals in our brain that our own hands can't match. It's all in our heads and this makes a much bigger impact than how tight a woman's vagina is. To put it another way, it's not so much that the woman has a tight vagina that makes sex with her so awesome, it's the fact that we know we are having sex with a vagina that is really tight which quadruples how happy we are when having sex with it.
Women tend to be less stimulated by the visual. This is good news for the fat boys and maybe annoying for the handsome men who've put in hard time at the gym. While having a six pack does help you come off as more dominant to a woman, a fat guy who can turn on a woman's mind through whispering to his girlfriend how he's going to plow her that night while she's standing in front of him in the starbucks line, is going to be a much better lay for her. She is horny for the fat guy and fantasing about his dick and the fatness becomes irrelevant as a bad personality is irrelevant on a hot women to a horny man.
Tip 1: Talk DIRTY
This one takes some time since most men don't really get that turned on by dirty talk. You'll make little mistakes which might make the girl giggle instead of be aroused, but the more critical part will be getting comfortable telling her that she's like your big dick inside of her/ she likes being your little slut. Your social training has taught you not to embrace this side of you that loves a slut. What you need to understand is you are the leader in sex and and girls, especially the classy ones, thirst to be dominated mentally as well as just getting pinned down by a man. You'll have to experiment...some girls even like being called a rotten bitch...some girls won't bite. It's easy enough to escalate and if you reach that point where a girl isn't game, then just fall back a little in your aggresision. Try this before you knock it. You'll be suprised by how kinky it is to a girl to be your slut (ONLY IN THE BEDROOM!!!)
Tip 2: Pull her hair / Slap her ass
I'm not a big fan of technical move advice. I think it can get a guy out of his head and make it more like science than passion. Yet, it's good to know a few typical things that girls love that many guys are timid or don't know to do. Pull her pointail back especially when you're doing her doggystle. This won't hurt her. She'll like it. Again, if for some reason she's very sensitive and it hurts (I've never, ever encountered this) it's fine just to pull more gently or stop all togehther. Also, slap her ass as hard as you want to. I don't know if it's all the fat or the pleasure of being slapped like that is so arousing they forget the pain, but I slapping a girl's ass is almost always a safe bet. If you think she might be secretly S and M...you can try slapping other body parts, but proceed with extreme cautioun. In fact, just wait for her to tell you to slap her there. An inappropriate slap could mean the end of that sexual encounter, but probably not much more.
Tip 3: Be rough on that vagina
If you're trying to be tender because you're being romantic I guess it's ok to go gentle, but understand that a woman's vagina is usually far less sensitive than most guys imagine. If a girl wanted her vagina treated gently, she'd be with a girl. Even when you're eating her out suck on that clit super hard and listen up if she's too sensitive (again never encountered this.) Push your lips on it hard and pull her lips open wide so you can really get in there.
Tip 4: (When men get nervous, they can't get erect. When women get nervous, they can't orgasm.) Don't get discouraged if she seems like she's taking forever. It just means she's a timid broad.
Don't make a woman feel bad and don't feel bad yourself if she isn't orgasming in a reasonable amount of time. I wouldn't kill myself over trying to make her orgasm either. It's her issue not yours, assuming you did everything you were supposed to do. The problem I think is that some women have their first few times with sex with guys who are douchebags and didn't make them feel comfortable so they didn't orgasm. Then they created a complex in their heads that there is something wrong with their body that they can't orgasm. This complex becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. If you ask her why she hasn't orgasmed yet you're just making it far worse. Do you thing and don't take that shit personally or it could screw wiht your mind for the next girl.
Tip 5: Change positions when you're about to orgasm or when you think the sex is getting boring
I tend to favor missionary. I used to watch a lot of porn so it's too easy for me to feel like I'm acting out some corny amatuer video if I do anything fancy. Yet, this position makes guys come the fastest of all the positions (cowgirl makes girls come the fastest) so when you're about to blow, just change positions and you'll be suprsied how much your penis resest itself. Also, you really should avoid only having sex from one position. Girls like a variety. Again, some guys know that doggystyle is better for guys with smaller dicks because it allows for more penetration than the other positions. If a girl asks you to do her doggystyle don't freak out. Assume she just likes that style even if it somthing more. Doubt will absolutely murder your sex game.
Tip 6: (Optional) Music can be good if you're just hooking up because it distracts your mind from worrying or feeling uncomfortable.
Since you can't hear your own thoughts, you can stay more present to the moment. Also on this, if you start to worry try staring instensly at the girl for a short period. This is a form a meditation that will allow you to become present when your mind is drifting.
Tip 7: (Optional) Watch amateur porn videos
Concentrate on how much the girl loves getting dick and how the guys aren't really doing anything you can't do. You need to understand that women love sex, they love dick, contrary to what society portrays since doing so makes them "sluts" or whatever. You need to believe that what you're doing is bringing the woman even more pleasure than you're getting. This is the ideal mindset that will help you maintain a strong erection and also not just "masterbate" into her meaning you are really just trying to get an orgasm for yourself and aren't actually connecting with another human being through sex.
Ok, we're out. There are a lot more tips I've learned from experience and let me know if there are more tips that you have that weren't talked about. If you disagree, please refer to your own experiences and not what you just "think" ie. its wrong to be rough with a woman in bed...women don't like that how dare you! Instead maybe phrase it more like "from personal experience, most guys I have sex with are too rough with me" or something like that...
Note: For those of you who picked up on it, I used Chuck Bass as the avatar for the tips in action. I mostly did this to f*ck with the guys on here who hate on my sh*t and give them something to whine about, but also so as not to estrange women who don't like all this dirty talk. Also, I think it's kind of distracting when the people change in photos constantly throughout a Take.
What Girls & Guys Said
20 23I'm a kissless virgin and even I feel like this advice is terrible, especially with that 've rough with the p***y part. *if* and when I ever get the chance, ill probably just ask her what she likes.
the fact that you're a 22 year old virgin and disagree with me is actually perfect. Men look here... this guy has a bunch of likes from girls and fully disagrees with me and is a virgin after being or almost being out of college. I am so glad he disagreed because it would have discredited everything. so men be the Virgin who gets likes or be the guy who girls are begging for more sex
Yeah I'm sure you get lots of women begging you for sex.
Good read. Ill try some of these tips out.
thanks man
Da fuk? This is bullshit.
yeah you look like you know what you're talking about
I can't help it, dont judge me, but this made me laugh
seems like you watch A LOT of porn
the bold claim in the headline brought me here
but there is some science that sexual performance is mentally dependent like its organically dependent. But I will pass on your tips
Someone watched 50 shades of grey way too much
poor advice. how people like sex is purely subjective.
there's a primative desire that's universal... not going to argue with you though I'm just fully sure you aren't making girls have multiple orgasms per session
lolol... sorry, but it's clear you dont like opinoins. however, it's fact not every woman does and can have multiple orgasms. the fact you base your sex knowledge on porn is telling. sorry, just my view. i don't get the universal law i cnnot cite it, despite you being some kind of 'dude'... retard/asperger's..
I think im gona go with what the girls say not this stuff.
your loss well really any girl dumb enough to sleep with yous loss
Actually, I would be more willing to sleep with this guy because he might actually listen to what I like, making me more eager to listen to what he likes and do it...
thats just sad, im pretty sure you have never even saw a girl naked.
better to use vigra..:P
"Women tend to be less stimulated by the visual."
Keep on dreaming. We have eyes and for random sexual encounters all we care about is looks and dick size.
I stopped after tip 3. That is the worst of the worst advice you can give and it shows me that you watch too much porn and have no actual real experience with a female body.
After reading this take and all of your comments, it's obvious that you're just really inexperienced and watch too much porn. Any girl that told you that you were good was probably just faking it.
yeah her being soaking wet was probably fake too. get off my take
Oh that's easy to fake sweetie. Looks like someone sounds butthurt that he can't get laid. :P
True, even if you're not turned on, the vagina just lubricates itself. I've had a lot of sex where I just wanted it to be over, yet I'm dripping wet.
Tf? dripping wet seems extensive... lubrication I get. Why are you hating? Why are girls with glass vaginas the only ones who use Gag? Why am I to blame that you haven't gotten a good lay in years maybe ever? Get off my take.
Actually you're the one who sounds like you can't get laid. :P
HAHA WOW this is one of the most douche baggy posts about how to be better in bed... PLEASE DO NOT listen to this post if you actually want to be good in bed!
I am actually curious if this is a joke?
Right off the hop:
1. Do NOT talk dirty... treating a girl like a whore, not a good idea.
2. Do not Pull her hair/slap her ass... you might find a few women who have low enough self esteem that this is fun for them, but in general, respect and compassion works better. Treating her like she's a porn star/fuck toy is a pathetic lover move.
3. DO NOT be ROUGH on the vagina!!! That area has some major sensitive tissue, you can cause some damage! How about don't treat your girl like a fuck toy and ASK her what she likes.
4. Yeah if you are acting like the top 3 points... chances are you simply suck at sex and can't get a female off properly! and that's why we are not cumming.
5. The ONE actually good point in this post!
If this take is serious... I think you really need to work on how to please a female properly and if you have had a female actually let you get near her and has given you a pat on the back.. she was fluffing your ego because she felt bad but I can guarantee she told her friends about how awful it was later.
it's because of girls like you that men suck so much in bed
wtf? what kind of boring ass sex are you having and telling all other men to have with their lovers? like everyone is different? all you're doing is listing YOUR preferences while this take lists HIS preferences and what has worked for him in bed a lot of women love to be treated dirty and talked dirty to, love to have their hair pulled/ass slapped, etc. etc. i don't personally like to be treated like a whore unless i'm roleplaying being a prostitute with my lover, but i loooove me some knife play, i love being cut with a knife (note: NOT brutally stabbed lol!) or cutting my lover, being tied up/tying someone up, hair pulled, ass slapped, slapping their ass, pulling their hair, nails scratching rough passionate sex etc. everyone is different, it's all about communication, and I don't know what gives you the right to tell everyone that boring vanilla sex is the way to go smh you've just sent like eight boring lays out into the world for disappointed women smh
Take owner... It's because of crappy ideas like yours that men suck in bed. The women who fake it and let you believe your treating them like fuck meat is doing anything for them that keep the dumb ass idea alive. boring: listen, sex isn't boring just because you expect respect from your partner. Being treated like a whore doesn't make sex "good" (for the girl). People who get pleasure from masochistic forms of sex have issues. It isn't' just an opinion. The stuff you mentioned about cutting and other forms of abuse shows signs of mental issues. I am not trying to personally attack you, but the mentality is not normal. Yes you may feel it is and you may want to excuse it in some way but there is nothing normal about wanting to cut yourself or someone else as a means of pleasure.
she admitted she liked knives and that was her thing... it's just sex and kinkiness you are very close minded and it's stopping you from having some of the best sex of your life
UMmmm no... Not closed minded by any stretch, but justify it as you need to. Your ideas are horrible, the vast majority of females in this thread agree with me on that. Your "methods" are what YOU think make sex good because YOU enjoy doing it to women. You need to learn how the female body works and how to properly get it off, not make a girl scream out of pain or fear. There is a difference between yelling and screams of orgasm, but you don't want to believe that.
Don't tell guys to be rough with a woman's vagina without asking her. It hurts pretty bad, can make it swell, and she'll usually be too worried about ruining the moment to tell you stop. Many guys get butthurt if you tell then that you don't like what they're doing, and because of that I was in a long relationship where I felt like I couldn't speak up for myself and ended up feeling used and abused. Now I feel like I have horrible expectations of what sex is supposed to be like. You shouldn't be telling guys to voluntarily objectify women... if they want that, they'll tell you.
improve my wha... ? anyway back to the cartoon network... .
Questions for the ladies here who says her clit is very sensitive. When a guy happens to to go too rough or too directly on it, what do you do? Do you clamp up hoping that it will get better till it stops? Or do you tell him?
I have a feeling most just say nothing.
I say nothing and just hope it stops. Which instead of stopping, they usually go harder because I've stopped making noises, and then I end up screaming because it hurts, not because I like it.
That's what I fear. The other day my miss was being a little rough on my dry glan. She had no way to know it hurt. I simply asked her to be more gentil in a nice way. She offered some lube. Good to go. Ladies, if it hurts, you have to communicate so. Sex shouldn't have to be painful and toughing it out serves no purpose. Especially during oral, which is supposed to be all about you!
I'll tell him to slow down or stop and switch to doing something else.
a lot of people don't say anything (like, WHAT? you can't expect to have good sex if you never communicate wtfff). i always say something if something's unpleasant. i'm gay, but i've tried stuff with men just to MAKE SURE, and one time a guy was going too rough (too long, like a freaking butcher knife against my cervix, too much of a direct hit) and i told him it hurt and he was like 'hold on, i'm almost done'. WHAT? like, no wonder some girls have so much trouble if they just accept behavior like this. he acted like this was suuuch a normal way to act, esp to ignore me again when i told him to stop and say 'no, damnit i'm almost done'. i was seizing up from the pain i couldn't even see straight to get him off me. suffice it to say: I ALWAYS COMMUNICATE when it's even a little uncomfortable! but yeah, like in my example above, some girls can be conditioned not to bc of their pasts/what other men have done. some of them can be dicks!!
@boringmurderer In your case he was. But in most cases, the person can't be called a dick or a bitch if they genuinely don't know they're hurting you. I think most don't say anything because they don't want to be seen as the whiner or downer in what should be a pleasant and agreeable experience. I'd lie if I said I was vocal every time it hurt me, sometimes I just went with it too. But I've learned that if ruins the mood for you, just say something. If they are good people, your partner will be happy to not hurt you any longer.
No one seems to enjoy reading. I clearly state multiple times that you CALIBRATE FOR THE SPECIFIC GIRL. Most girls like it rough. Most girls can take it and want to take it rather than have some gentle tender woman in a man's body lightly place it in and out. You have to have a default. It isn't sexy to be like... is this good... ok, is this good? ok is this good? And it's not masculine and it's not what women respond or get turned on by. Now, if a woman can't take it and it isn't feeling good and sexy to be pounded like that then she has to say something. I can't be responsible for reading her mind if she shows no trace of not liking it ( i can read faces very very well so if she's not showing any visual signs its on her.) I can't be responsible for men who didn't care that she was in pain thats not my doing if she tells me its causing her pain i will be more gentle. Don't be PC in the bedroom. There's a reason that sex is something you usually do in the dark.
I don't mind the hair pulling or slapping my ass. That can be done while he's making love gently and slowly to me. Even if its just casual sex. But don't tell guys to get rough with a girl cause a lot of them will end up in problems. My clit and the rest of my vagina is really sensitive. I don't even touch my clit. If a guy got rough out of the blue with me I'll make him black and blue. And if he has an attitude afterward I'll send my brothers and male cousins after him. Asking if you can get rough or gently slap her face doesn't ruin the mood! Neither does asking if u can kiss me. It doesn't turn me off or ruin the mood. Better safe than sorry. :)
I just noticed a guy wrote this. No wonder...
I mean you expect guys reading this to be brain dead obviously I don't want them to hurt the girl and I do say this that you need to calibrate to the woman's body. guys know what I mean just don't be easy light and basic not if you want to leave her with red hot sex
I agree with 80-90 % of what the OP had suggested here. However, I have a few minor quibbles:
Regarding 4. OP, you are correct in that if she's not orgasming after receiving a fair bit of physical stimulation, then a lot of that is mental, but that IS often the guy's fault. When that happens to me, it's because the guy is giving off vibes that trying to make me get off is a chore that he wants to get over with so he can move on to getting himself off. Normally the more he enjoys getting me off, the less time it takes.
3 is definitely true, in terms of men giving women oral. So many guys do this half-arsed licking thing and expect a woman to orgasm from that. A guy wouldn't cum from a woman just lightly licking his dick, and women are no different. Big caveat though - guys should avoid too much direct pressure on the clit itself, but for everywhere surrounding, it's as the OP says; guys can be rougher than they think.
OP, you are also very right about the mental/ talking dirty part, but I think there is a risk of some guys misinterpreting what you have written. If you haven't slept with the woman in question yet, then that kind of dirty talk escalation needs to be done very, very, gradually, or we'll just think the guy is a creep. Once you have gradually built up to a very dirty threshold though, you can be far more outrageous with it, but jumping straight in to extreme dirty talk with no build up is a bad idea.
Also, like some have said, not every woman's preferred dirty talk will involve wanting to be called a slut. Most women would probably prefer to hear the guy tell her what he is fantasising about doing to her (within reason) than be called names.
As I said, on the whole I agree with the bulk of the OPs advice. Good take!
thank you ! yeah again calibrate but so many guys stay silent as a mouse then I'm hoping they'll find a middle ground. also it's not a bad thing to be the first guy to cal her a name in bed. it's novelty if nothing else which can be sexy. but yeah guys should be able to tel when it's too much already
The 40 Year old virgin made a very valid point when Seth Rogen's character spoke to Andy. He said the main issue with guys and women isn't their appearance is that they don't know how to talk to women.
seth rogan is the anti alpha male
Fuck the whole alpha/beta male labels. I left high school awhile ago.
Interesting points!!
Didn't know some of this.
I guess everyone varies, but this certainly provides some interesting take home points.
Thanks. Could you help me on mine as this girl is trying something? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1589447-why-is-this-female-friend-behaving-like-this-please-help-can-you
This is horrible advice & shows you watch way too much porn.
1. I don't like a chatter box while I'm trying to bust a nut. Moans are good
2. Pulling hair & ass smacking is cool occasionally, but everyone isn't into that roughness, it just not their nature. This is where you have to know your partner, being rough with a timid girl especially early in the relationship could cause her to fear you. Don't be too aggressive.
3. That's just some inexperienced advice right there, Don't be rough on the pussy, everyone knows vaginas are sensitive, unless you're bagging the town slut or a chick who's birthed multiple children. Sucking hard on the clit hurts & doesn't feel good at all.
4. If she's taking forever to cum you haven't stimulated her mind enough or her clit... Foreplay is a must, not everytime because who has that much time, but also be open to constructive criticism, you may not be sexually compatible.
5. Is the only good tip in this Take
6. Music is cool, it can help but it can also ruin the mood if you're into stuff the other person isn't
7. Limit your usage of porn for referencing. I watch porn, so I know it gives a false representation of sex in real life. I can actually say after being with this one guy I could tell he watched a lot of porn just because of his dirty talk & this alter ego that emerged.
Best advice: Know your partner (communicate), respectfully get into her mind & while doing doggystyle or if she's riding you rub her clit & kiss her passionately. Foreplay is your friend :)
this is the girliest advice ever guys be warned she will think you're gay if you listen to this girl. I'm not being homophobic I am being dead honest try it my way try it hers and compare
"this is the girliest advice ever" ~ LOL, well is this advice for sleeping with men or women? Hahaha, this further shows how clueless you are :)
Dude, all you did was list what goes on in a porno, you just left out the "money shot", which I would never advise anyone to do unless they ask their partner first.
I'm going to just leave this site here for you: www.nofap.com
It's so true. You can ALWAYS tell if a guy watches too much porn when you sleep with him. It's a little laughable.