Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Alright boys, here is part two of what I'm envisioning as a four part series to being great in bed. Now that we've coverered dominance, it's onto the other side of the coin: EMOTIONS
A woman is an emotional creature. This is something we men are taught at a very early age. We take for granted the fact that it isn't a very difficult idea to absorb and believe in. Believing that women tend to really want a dominant man in bed is much more difficult to do because of female misunderstanding of feminism and also just a general lack of understanding of their own sexuality which is the byproduct of many,many generations of female sexual repression. In any event, you are likely aware of the two polar examples, the Bad Boy and the Good Guy. The Bad Boy exhibits many qualities of the first take in the series, yet girls usually leave him because he is so emotionally unavailable and the thrill quickly passes. The myth that that the Good Guy doesn't get the girl is completely false. He usually eventually gets the girl because girls do want an emotional guy...they just don't get a thrill out of the good guy because he represses his own natural desire to be masculine in the bedroom and dominate. In fact, he may want her to dominate him or want their to be so dominance/submission at all and just have two identical identities having some odd mentally neutral sex which is less than thrilling than what has worked for years and years. Again, you will resist thinking the ideas of the first take have merit until you experience them for yourself, which you may never even try. I expect this take to be much more your speed. Let's begin.
Tip 1: Maintain eye contact (while orgasming)
"You've seen all my mistakes, so look me in my eyes..."
Eye contact actually takes number one. It will intimidate some girls when you maintain good eye contact, but it is your role to lead especially if she is less experienced than you are. Eye contact conveys vulnerability and love. Eyes convey the emotion that words try to obscure. Connecting to a woman's emotions through looking into her eyes and she looking into your eyes is absoultely essential the emotional side of pleasuring both the woman and yourself in bed. Of course, when you are dominating her doggystyle you don't need to worry about this. Sex doesn't have to make sense like real life does and when you want to change things up from dominance to love then let her see you. Don't be afraid of it being awkward. Swim in the fact that you're connecting with another spirit inside another skin.
Tip 2: Say "I love you."
Ah yes, very potent. Very potent. Here's the problem I imagine you're thinking...she'll be scared off. Wrong. Saying I love you in bed carries a different context. Remember, sex is dreamlike. It doesn't really make sense. It's almost an escape from reality when done right. This can be considered advanced but really...when you know you've engaged a woman emotionally and she's on the hook feeling all these powerful feeling like this is one of a kind sex you saying I love you at the right time is powerful enough to make her orgasm then and there. After you've finished she may think about the fact that you just said you loved her and freak out. You can say you got caught up in the moment. So did she...
Tip 3: Say "I'm so happy we're doing this."
A woman needs reassurance. She doesn't want to be a slut, at least not consiouslly. The reason she doesn't want to be a slut is because she doesn't want to believe she's not cared about. Women might have big mouths sometimes...but they're often far more emotional than the exterior they try to put up and a man who understands the emotional side of woman knows their huge capacity and neediness to be cared about. A good trick to getting past a woman's own insecurities that what she's doing is wrong and "low self esteem" is to say you're so happy you're doing this. Even if she's not sure she's happy you're doing this, your confidence that it's a good thing can be enough for her to piggyback off of.
Tip 4: Kiss like you mean it.
Going back to the idea that sexual stimulation is mostly mental, you want to make sure that your kiss conveys passion. Yes, knowing good technique is good...but it's more important that when you kiss her, you kiss her like you love not like you like her...not like she's just ok...kiss like you're in love. Again, wait until she's an emotional state...if she's just looking to get off she may not appreciate your passion. Carressing is a good thing to add. The fantasy of making love is filled with passionate kissing and every action is not a sign of lust but pure love and feeling. Let your kisses reflect that and you'll engage a woman's emotional core.
Tip 5: Mean it.
Weaved into every other point, you've got to mean it! Women are exceptional at detecting bullsh*t. Now, a few of you guys are saying...what? I don't want to mean. I can't meanit. I just met her. I understand you completely. This is why a lot of women won't date actors. The first lesson in acting is not to act like you're acting...act like you're doing. A good actor commits to the role. He believes it. He believes he's Romeo. He believes that this is death. He doesn't think about the fact that he is just playing it. It is real. In that same way, if you aren't actually in love act like. Just mean it somehow. If you're a great actor then you will mean it because you will be able to generate a feeling of love and in your mind you will honeslty believe you love this girl. If you're not a great actor then just create a lite version of emotional sex. Let her know you like her. Let you likewhere this is going. Whatever you do...it's important that it comes off like you mean it.
Tip 6: Study (Optional)
For the nerds in the house, rejoice, this one's for you. Watch some of the most famous romance movies and study the guy...watch what he does (I'll probably write up a take on it very soon.) There's a certain confidence...a belief that love is the most important thing which makes a woman's emotional side light up like a Christmas tree. It doesn't come naturally to every man...being sensitive and emotional and passionate and romantic. Get your scientist hat on and study everything...what sorts of things they say, how they say it, how they kiss, what they believe in...and then forget it. You don't want to come off as a replica of things they've seen in movies. You want to know it, forget it, and then reinvent small aspects of it into your natural personality. You are transforming yourself into the type of man who can really love a woman or at least come off like hedoes.
Tip 7: Be Classic (Optional)
For the corny guy in the house, the cliches are cliches because they work. Girls might occasionally tease you for being so corny and some may downright wish you were more inventive, but 90% of the time bringing roses is a great means to get emotional sex. Diamonds of course take the trophy but those are expensive. Put candles on in the bedroom. Draw a bubble bath. Don't be afraid to try out the cliches. Just the fact that you did so much work helps a girl feel like you give a sh*t. Of course, this can be easily used for purposes of manipulation...to give off the effect of carrying when you don't. I don't judge. I just inform. Get your romance swagger on.
That's it. So, I'll wrap up with my usual predicitons for the bitchiness to follow. I really should make this Take for guys only since girls can't really contribute anything that would change anything good or bad because, although they believe they know what they respond to, they usually don't. (Is it a coincidence that the guy who goes to his girl bestfriend for advice is always heart broken and the guy who goes to his boys is generally happy and has girls lining up for him?) I also just love my Mean Girls on here. They're so rude and bitter and angry over nothing at all. This site is there chance to be jerks. Who am I to take that away from them? Boys, all I ask is that as crazy as some of these tips sound, please please just try them before you knock them. You'll be amazed what you find.
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