Men is there a reason you do this, is it scientific?

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed that whenever I get to know a guy and we’re dating for a while and then we have sex he kinda distances himself after we have sex then comes back afterwards. Like irl be the one putting in the effort now. For example I had a guy we had the best sex ever, he didn’t wanna see me for two weeks then he was begging to see me. The second guy we had really good sex he said I was magical, he didn’t wanna see me for a while either then after he came messaging me everyday offering for food and begging to see me. Not leaving me alone. Double texting if I don’t reply and offering me the world. Like this always happens? It’s there a reason for this. I thought guys wanted sex like every single day?

[centerline]

guys want sex at least every other day... but maybe not with the same partner all the time.

there are a number of reason for what you are experiencing, and sometimes its just because we want to have sex, but dont want to get too close... fuck buddies are great, and if you can be their fuck buddy, why would they hang out with you in between times?

turn the tables on them and find yourself a few fuck buddies, so you won't have any dry spells, and can make a phone call and get it anytime you want, from one or the other of them... maybe 2 or 3 of them at the same time, or whatever you prefer...

[Dougzy]

good point could be the weighing upstage, now that you mention it I do that, glad it`s not me generally I think my thoughts do I really want to get tied up in this. Then I am very independent and to be honest, if I didn`t have to carry luggage then I wouldn`t best get some opinions from some needy men there are loads of them about

[Marilynjuana]

I don't know about sex but some guys I dated came on quite strong but then pulled back just a little to sift through their thoughts and emotions, I think. Was quite normal.

[AustinMan]

What's your criteria for having sex with a guy?

[Fantastic_]

1) Can she spread her legs fast enough? 2) There is no #2.

[abhi_97]

Then it's about time you realize that he only wanted you for physical pleasure and now that he's seen you naked and did all the good stuff with you, his curiosity of exploring you, your mind further has decreased.

It often happens with guys who are immature. You should take a lesson not to give your body to anyone so easily.

[sammy1537]

I do that with my wife of 20 years. I get such emotional high from the intimate encounter, it usually crash afterwards for a few days. In the past it would take longer to recover but my brilliant wife has figured out that if she doesn't try to force it, I recover much, much faster with less aggravation for both of us. In our union, she is the most mature and wise one.

[Fantastic_]

I can tell.

[winterfox10]

Sometimes you just step away because you're busy, or you need time to process everything.

[okokoududhsbkokok]

It's not scientific it's sociological he is just a dickhead

[pizzalovershouse]

Usely a giy who is in a relationship cares to be with you as much as works for both you

[mfate76]

Sex is not the only basis of a successful relationship there needs to be other shared commitment and commonality within the relationship

[Valnac]

Some guys out there are trophy hunters. One and done!
Other guys, usually virgins, gets his cherry popped gets scared and then craves it like a drug.

[Silent_kisser]

Men's pride is only dick, did you forget it?

[Fantastic_]

... The fact that females continuously mention "double texting," as though it's actually a thing, or something, or anything that matters, is mind-numbingly idiotic.

Anyway, yeah, it's really not complicated-- we fucked you and we want to move on to a different pretty girl. That doesn't work out, or we start to miss you, so we come back. I don't know what you're not understanding.

[Asker]

So what then when he’s done with the other girl. He just comes back and then the other girl is in my position. It’s a bit of a player thing to do when he said he wanted to make me his girlfriend and stuff which was a lie

[Fantastic_]

There is no such thing as a "player," sis. If you don't want to have sex with this guy, then don't. If you do want to, then go ahead. You're in charge of your own body. He doesn't owe you anything as a result of sex, including a relationship. He's allowed to change his mind.

[Asker]

I understand. But don’t you think he should have told me what he was looking for? I just saw his tinder bio saying ‘I don’t want anything serious’ I feel so dumb I know but I didn’t see it when we first started speaking I literally saw it when I looked on there today again. Is there no way to change his mind to want a relationship. He seemed to really like me

[Fantastic_]

Your option is to make yourself available, and hope for the best. If that's not what you want to do, then don't. You're allowed to want what you want, and he's allowed to want what he wants. Clearly he likes you, or he wouldn't be texting you and wouldn't have fucked you-- he just doesn't want commitment. Most of us don't.

[Asker]

I mean yeah he did text me for like a few days after we had sex and stuff but now since I asked him what he wanted he’s been really distant literally since I asked Him that question which is weird. He’s just taking forever to open my texts. I mean maybe I should do that. Maybe he lnows I want something serious and he dosent

[Fantastic_]

Well, yeah. Right. He doesn't want anything serious. If you do, that's why he's responding that way. Your option is to be around him, because you like him, as long as it's not "serious," or to lose him if you do only want something serious. It's up to you.

[Asker]

Well I did tell him I wanted fun but maybe he suspects that I want more I’m assuming. I did at the time want fun but o do want it to progress into something. He was literally fine before I asked. I’ve messaged him asking to hang out but he hasn’t replied. Do you think if I genuinely open up to him and tell him I like hanging out with him he might appreciate it and wanna hang out?

[Fantastic_]

Honestly I think you'd be better served by not doing anything right now and just waiting it out for a bit to see what he does. Then you can respond however you want.

[Anonymous]

Before sex guy and after sex guy.

It’s a natural biological animal thing.

[Anonymous]

Men don't do that; those two guys did it. That's an important distinction. No idea why they did it though.