Men Of The West/USA, Is It True That Women There Shame You If You're A Virgin?

[anon1903]

I'd never shame a person for their sex status lmao. I don't really consider virgins "high value" as people have varied reasons for being one, but I'd never shame or reject somebody for it. In fact, I'd not shame a s1ut either... Unless it's a number I consider high. Let's not open that can of worms for now. 🤗

[Jamie05rhs]

Yep. It's true. I have no idea why, though. It doesn't make any logical sense lol. I mean, we're here minding our own business not harassing them and not raping them and not deceiving them and not manipulating them and not getting them pregnant and not breaking their hearts. You'd think they would be happy.

[anon1903]

I agree!

[Jamie05rhs]

@anon1903 Thanks!!

[Guardian45]

Anyone who virgin-shames is a F@#%ING IMMATURE IDIOT, who deserves to get COVID and die from it!

[Guardian45]

Thank you for MHG!

[SaltyBeaches]

It definitely happens.

[NathanDavis]

Yes, and no...

not in the general aspect of things, shaming virgins is not "a thing of the West"

however... this is still the USA, so, some people will shame other people for everything and also for nothing at all...

so yes, some people will get shamed for being virgins as much as being shamed for not being virgins... lol

[RolandCuthbert]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/tEuCa01iKZg

I don't know many women would even consider a virgin for dating. And yes, virgins are mocked normally.

[anon1903]

I don't believe in raising an argument based on YouTube video

[anon1903]

Mocked how?

[RolandCuthbert]

Well in all manner of ways. They are mocked for being inexperienced. For not being confident or masculine. I mean, in the West, it is one of the troubling ways we define masculinity. How do they define masculinity in your society? As for the youtube video, it is merely an example. Many GaGers use youtube to convey their thoughts. I use it to give examples of my argument. Most women in the video do not want to date virgin men. For all manner of stereotypical reasons.

[anon1903]

I don't think it's okay to assume things about people based on their sex status

[anon1903]

There's a lot of people who think I'm the ideal woman because I'm a virgin. Couldn't be far from truth.

[RolandCuthbert]

Well, I didn't think your sex status was relevant. I did pose a question about how masculinity is defined in your society. Because you seem surprised about how it is defined in the West.

[anon1903]

I'm shocked that they'd shame someone for that

[anon1903]

Even if a man is inexperienced, sucks in bed, virgin, not masculine enough — it's still a humiliating thing to shame them

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Oy vey. That’s a very good reason why I fucked a dude in my preteens, just so them nosy women would want to date me, although it has nothing to do with my previous relationships and experiences.

[RolandCuthbert]

But what does it mean to be masculine in your society? That's the question. Being experienced at sex isn't considered to be masculine?

[anon1903]

Don't care about masculinity tbh

[RolandCuthbert]

So you won't admit to your society's own standards. You just wanted to make a point about the "West"? I don't know of too many societies where male sexual inexperience is considered to be masculine.

[anon1903]

It's got nothing to do with gender. I think society needs to stop romantisizing fuck boys am.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

In high school or college, men would pressure each other to lose their virginity as soon as possible or they are never going to be considered a “man”. Of course that’s not true in the actual dating world because I’ve met so many women who would prefer a virgin man.


I haven’t been shamed personally because I lost mine at 17. I have definitely been shamed for being experienced by women tho

[mrmonogamous]

I’ve never heard of people being shamed for being a virgin. What age group are you talking about?


I’d never shame a virgin. It’s a gift to give to some special.

[DEondeBeaumont]

That is usually their first line of defense. When you have a good argument, or they cannot rebottle your opinion, they will question how many partners you have had or claim that you do not have any partners. Or they claim that you are an insecure man for saying that. They usually use the same predictable word salad that sounds reasonable on the suffers to someone who is not a critical thinker.

[anon1903]

Depends on what the argument is about

[Chazmatazz269]

Sort of; in the US straight women put the majority, if not the entirety, of the responsibility for their own sexual pleasure on their men. So virgin men are useless. You may as well put inexperienced drivers behind the wheel of every ambulance in the country. Ell oh ell!
So they’re not shaming us for being virgins. They’re shaming us for having too little control over THEIR bodies. Consider the weight of that much irony for a few. Ell oh ell!

[Smoothing]

Even though women in the UK are very liberated, I have never heard of any guy being shamed for being a virgin.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Are You a UKer?

[Smoothing]

😂😂

[Smoothing]

I am British

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Which country — Wales, Scotland, or England?

[Smoothing]

England

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’ve been to London and Brighton, and bloody loved it!

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Want to visit the homes of the Beatles and Smokie — Liverpool and Bradford.

[Smoothing]

Cool. You will love it. The scousers are very friendly people and so are Yorkshire men and women.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Them, too. Also Scotland and Ireland. Want to visit Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry.

[exitseven]

I live in the northeast but I agree with you. Everyone is different and everyone has different life circumstances.

[DavidRaul]

Not from the states so i wouldn't know. And yes i am a virgin and i really don't care what others think

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Love that answer! You’re not Blurryface and You don’t care what others think.

[Sparkie460]

I've never heard of anyone being shamed for being a Virgin.

[Havthrills]

I picked depends. Most don't but some would. Depends on the people. People suck sometimes.

[Stevefiveo]

I would say that guys that are virgins are looked as losers who can't get a girl. Where it is ok for a woman and sometimes even praised.

[anon1903]

That's twisted 😀🥨

[Stevefiveo]

Lol, yup.

[pizzalovershouse]

Not really its half an half but I. No virgin

[Juxtapose]

You don't even have to be a virgin to get strange looks. I lost my virginity in my early twenties and have had very few partners and that will get a lot of eyebrows raised.

Personally I like knowing I minimize my risk of contracting HPV and other things that are super easy to get :) Casual sex isn't even that good compared to masturbation anyway, I would rather get with someone who can stimulate my mind in bed.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

It’s not their fault if the man wants to keep virgin or is unable to have sex. I wish I was a virgin again, as I wasn’t married to the people I’d sex with. If I could get virgin, I’d not be ashamed.

[Pudsmucker]

When you shame somebody that tears them down.

[Debbie14217]

wow thats crazy!!!

[anton_dee]

It is considered as a status symbol. Some feel if u ain't 'deflowered", there is something wrong physically... Mostly bs actually...

[cootjuhh]

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[anon1903]

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