Men, We Need to Talk

Come here, you’ll end up understanding the female logic more. We know we are the most confusing and complicated creatures to understand but remember you frustrate us as much with your simple logic.

Men, We Need to Talk

Let us have a deeper insight of the subject first.

Estrogen and our moods have a solid relationship. Perhaps you have never heard of estrogen aka the feminine hormone but let me tell you outside the fact that it is super desirable to you, it actually is a bitch and it messes with our moods, especially during ovulation and straight before and during our menstruation.

Ovulation

During ovulation it reaches it’s peak and we become more emotional, insecure and sensitive. We also become more attractive and we subconsciously act more feminine. Oh, and we desire babies (yes there are women who don’t desire babies, either due to hormonal problems (lower estrogen), traumatic events or for other reasons) which is not surprising considering the fact that during ovulation we are basically the most fertile.

Menstruation

Right before and during our menstruation our estrogen levels are the lowest and that messes the system kind of up. We just feel really shitty, not only because of the physical suffering we go through but also how it changes us mentally. We just become faster annoyed, sad, mad, happy, hungry, horny whatever. It completely messes up the system. Our feelings just like during ovulation hits the roof. Except during ovulation we tend to be less aggressive and more prone to be sad.

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Linked to testosterone

Testosterone still lower than estrogen but plays a bigger role during menstruation than on any other day, we do get aggressive and short-tempered because of that. We naturally can’t handle testosterone as men could do and men can’t handle estrogen as women do. Women have naturally generally a very small amount of testosterone and men have a very small amount of estrogen.

Hormonal imbalance

Of course there are people with a hormonal imbalance, they exist. Women with higher testosterone levels look masculine and end up acting masculine but cannot handle it like men do (they tend to be more violent, aggressive, promiscuous and less interested in a family (career is priority) though) and men with higher estrogen levels tend to be more feminine, emotional, submissive and even depressed, because our bodies and minds are naturally not built like that. The male body is not designed to handle higher estrogen levels and the female isn’t designed to handle higher testosterone levels, it leads to identity crisis and other mental disorders. Usually people born with this hormonal imbalance come from an unhealthy environment.

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Pregnancy

I also a have to add that pregnant women are known for being very emotional, have strong cravings, are more sensitive and nurturing etc, this has to do with estrogen levels which automatically goes higher when a woman gets pregnant. Once she gives birth, it lowers again to her normal level but during that process there is a risk of developing postpatrum depression because of that sudden extreme change.

What about the opposite?

Women with naturally higher estrogen levels and men with higher testosterone levels are the most desirable (They have the best and the healthiest genes(note, I'm talking about naturally being like that, women who have average estrogen levels and got it increased by artificial estrogen end up unhealthy)). They are at the end spectrum of masculinity and femininity. Women like that are naturally more nurturing, emotional and just feminine. Men with higher testosterone levels are more rational (often seen as cold or robotic), aggressive (that does not necessarily mean violent), less emotional and just masculine.

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low estrogen, average estrogen and high estrogen

The female mind cannot think like the male mind.

The female mind connects everything. The male mind separates everything. Comparing testosterone with estrogen is like comparing fire with water. It’s entirely different. In the womb we have been fueled by those hormones who fits our sex. That’s why the logic of the female differs from the male and that’s why both sexes misunderstand each other so often. The female gets annoyed because she can’t understand how the male thinks so simple and doesn’t connect two well-fitting emotion related occasions with each other. She expects him to think like her (I admit I still do too subconsciously). The male gets frustrated because he can’t understand why she is upset for no serious reason. He feels like he is expected to understand something he doesn’t get. I’ll give an example.

XX is waiting to receive a call from XY, they made an appointment to call every Wednesday around 9pm. It’s past 10 and she still didn’t hear anything from him. She decides to go on Facebook and sees him online. He has ignored her chats before while he was browsing Instagram or Facebook, XX confronted him before a few times and told him she gets hurt by that. XY never understood why because he would eventually respond to her. XX is so annoyed and tired of repeating, she decides to sleep. The next day she sees XY in college, XX is still annoyed and doesn’t feel like facing him but he has noticed her and walked to her. XY wasn’t realizing anything and greets her like usual. XX refuses to kiss him and goes to class. XY is left confused. Throughout the day XX is still acting like a bitch to him which eventually made him feel frustrated towards her. This resulted into a bitter aura around them.

Of course this is just an example but it happens a lot, last week this girl vented about a similar situation between her and her boyfriend.

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Women overreact and complain

In most cases we don't, or maybe we do but in our minds we are not overreacting or complaining but serious. This is our biology and we can't help it either. At least it has a nurturing benefit. Instead of complaining how we overreact, try to understand us. We don't overreact for nothing. If we overreact or complain about you not spending enough time with us, it means we care about you, we like you and we don't feel emotionally satisfied (this is very important if you want your relationship to last). If we overreact about you being moody all the time, we feel like we're failing at keeping you happy and so on.

Also, we are NOT overreacting when we feel pain during menstruation. It really is extremely painful.

If we overreact about nonsense, please don’t mind us. Most of the time it is hormonal related. You can bring it up for sure but it is important to stay kind. I´m not saying this gives us the free pass to complain about whatever we like, no, absolutely not. No woman in love complains for her advantages. No woman likes to complain in the first place. I’m straightforward so when there is something, I do open my mouth unless I’ve repeated a few times already then I’m like most women: try to hint the guy who obviously doesn’t and won’t get it. It is useless yes, but we still hope he gets it so we try anyway. When I do that, I’m just too damn tired to repeat again and I just feel like a naggy clingy old woman when I do. I can’t help it.

What about men and their hormonal related issues?

When a man is angry, stressed, annoyed or feels any negative feeling related to aggression, I learnt it is hard for a man to calm down especially when he is in the middle of an argument and the woman keeps throwing fire. A woman is more likely to control her aggression since she is not controlled by testosterone the hormone who causes aggression. What I’m trying to say is the woman should stop throwing fire, and be like water instead. Calm and soft. Crying is alright, because that awakes a certain male instinct to be protective. It works like charm.

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Emotional satisfaction and how it will change your life.

Most women end up leaving or cheating because they miss something very important in their life. If they can not get it from their boyfriends, they'll look for someone else who could give it to them. This is sadly the case for most women. I personally manage to cope with it mentally if I don't get it. I do get second thoughts I try to push away. Never about cheating though, that's against my morals and plain disgusting. I just feel upset when I don't receive it and with second thoughts I mean leaving.

I'm talking about making a woman feel loved, secured, desired and noticed. I´m not talking about constant affection and attention here. If you just compliment your woman from time to time, reassure her about your feelings, make her feel secure when she has doubts and make her feel noticed by giving her attention, there is no doubt she will return the favor in greater amounts. This is how the female is. This is pure biology.

Intercourse

Many men complain their partner don't want to have intercourse anymore, I ask you sir, do you satisfy her emotionally? A woman needs to feel loved or else she thinks you only care about your own sexual satisfaction. Not only that, she will be less interested in you because she feels like you don't care about her. If this continues on a long-term, the bitterness increases, there is a great chance that it will end up into splitting apart. The man doesn't get sexually satisfied and doesn't gain his emotional satisfaction so he doesn't give it either, the woman doesn't receive emotional satisfaction and therefore doesn't want intercourse.

A man's priority is to be sexually satisfied, that's for him enough to make him feel desired, noticed and loved but a woman doesn't work that way. You give her that emotional satisfaction, she will give you her life. Yes, women also get sexually satisfied by intercourse and they don't do it just for the sake of men, they just need to feel emotional satisfied.

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For the special snowflakes

'I'm a girl but I'm not like that', 'you talk nonsense', 'I'm male and sex doesn't matter' ' I don't need that', 'blablabla', okay special snowflake, you can deny your biology but your denial isn't factual. You can look up whatever I said and you'd see it is supported by science. You and I know both very well that this is true. No need to pretend to be something, you are not.

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  • Another great take… I am fine with the biological imperative of the woman and actually cherish it. I have built-in hard wired empathy and natural acceptance of the real woman and all of her life cycles. This all fails however when women are indoctrinated to perform identically with me/men in non-amenable environments and tasks. This is where I think men tend to develop animosity towards woman’s nature because of the cross-linkage and association of the items in your take being embedded into male space.

    “we need to talk” accomplishes nothing by admission of your own take since we simply need to understand women unilaterally.

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  • I see where you're coming from, but I think you're generalizing too much. There are too many variants in people for ANY "men are like this, women are like this" statement to be 100% accurate. Yeah, you can approximate and say that things are OFTEN like this, or even USUALLY like this, but "often" does not mean "always."

    Calling people "biology-denying special snowflakes" just because their personal experience does not line up with your extremely generalized take on the gender differences seems somewhat counterproductive to me.

  • Agree with most of it good take (did you just upload your thesis? ) kidding just not sure about hormone imbalance developed because of an unhealthy environment?
    Anyway men will always be from mars and women from Venus

    • Yes, there is scientific evidence for things like pollution and diet affecting our endocrine system wildly.

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  • Men, We Need to Talk
    • Exactly.

  • Pretty good. Most of it I agree with. You might want to take a look at mine.
    Timely Advice - How To Actually Meet Women’s Desires ↗

  • Please cite your sources.

  • Very Good Take- excellent Job of putting all of this together. I would, however, Dispute that merely being sexually satisfied is enough for men- we get an emotional Connection, too (most of us anyway).

  • I think a lot of women hate to know that there is a biological difference between us. It makes it more complicated for communication than just saying, "Men should understand more and that's that." remarks. Women need to understand and accept as well. Communication is give and take and understanding with both sides. Or else you'll just end up butting heads over and over and over.

  • Love the take on this is was insightful and information packed , Thank you I can say I agree with all of it but most again thank you.

  • Sex to a man is a priority. So you're telling me I can just let him sex me when he wants but no need to "talk" about life or stuff or bond "emotionally", and i can focus more on my kids, my self and my friends more and he'll be aok with it?

    • No, what she said was that sexual satisfaction is a bodily function for males, but females need a relationship attached to sex. The males sex drive is like hunger, we can have a one night stand, put our clothes back on, and leave the hotel room like we are leaving a restaurant. Women will feel used if this happens to them.

    • @BrianMerritt I forgot to quote "A man's priority is to be sexually satisfied, that's for him enough to make him feel desired, noticed and loved". I don't know, maybe men are for sex more often, and we find our emotional support elsewhere more often (family, friends)? Then we wouldn't have all this disconnect? I'm not trying to put anything/anyone badly, but I'm thinking if men would agree this is actually a win-win situation.

    • Sorry, I don't understand your reply.

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  • About the Emotional satisfaction part, guys like compliments and stuff like that too and instead they only hear about the stuff they didn’t remember to do or didn’t feel like doing because they were tired from work. Sometimes both forget that relationships are a two way street but with both traveling in the same direction. It’s not you against me it’s a “we” relationship.

  • Very nice take, I must say. That was quite a bit of information to explain, as you did, rather well. Thank you!

  • This was quite interesting.

  • Actually we do need to talk. There are these things on the internet called plagiarism detectors. You might want to run your "work" through one before posting it.

    Your level was cited as: Significant plagiarism was detected

  • this is so fucking hilariously inaccurate.. people are people, y'all make too much of a big deal about their gender roles

    • i'm not denying the biological parts, but i'm questioning the intention of this post. i don't like it when facts are used to push the sexes further apart, as if because we get periods we live in a completely different world than men or something

    • Gender roles are important

  • i dont know whats going on

  • So I have to watch every action I take with a lady? Yeah, I'm just gonna go on like I have been. I just wanna relax and live a fun life my dude. I embrace my low testosterone, low estrogen life buddo.

  • Great take - I am not sure when but one of the happiest days of my life was when I said to myself "I don't understand women and I never will. I am going to give up trying" now of course as a bald statement that looks harsh but it can be taken in a good way. With said sentence, take out women and put in myself, you get my drift, you don't really try to understand yourself, you live your life, cope with things, manage things, plan things and probably analyse what you are doing, can I do it better whatever your goal is say become a better person. Ok now take out your personal interaction and replace it with gender interaction we are getting someplace.
    If we read your take matter of factly its is so true , so true but how do we get though it another example is a girl gave me the book "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars" I think I read it in a day or two saying "So true, so true".
    Getting back to my point instead of "How do we through it?" think "Can we get through it? maybe we should go around it clockwise, anti clockwise, can we go over it/under it?" - Let the woman have her emotional thought process, an expressive mish mash of views to be honed down into a decision - Let the man wander off for a day to logically tick off the pros and cons before coming to a decision - Both processes are equally and important to the person.
    That is just one example - I suppose the easiest way to approach it is give each person the space to deal with things how they would like - If in a relationship that is where communication/understanding/acceptance/compromise comes in - In the grand scheme of things, it sounds trite but it is what it is when comes to interaction on a larger scale people will like things/ be annoyed by things everyday and like King Canute you ain't going to stop the tide coming in.

  • This is true for us women... I agree.
    You write well.

  • Nice take 🙂
    It means that women and men always need each other and that real love, real sex, real emothions, real marriage and real family is only made by a man and a woman...

    Also it's better for a woman to become a housewife, many women would feel so happy by this role and reduce a lot from the negative effects that you have mentioned in your take...

    She feels that she have a real man whom she can depend on and consider him her everything 😊

  • Sorry, but: we don't NEED to talk.

  • If women actually understood men, there would be no need for a site called www.girlsaskguys.com

  • baby girl I ain't reading all that but from the skimming I did I'd say it's a pretty good take! nice job! <3

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