I try not to judge people but I would consider myself as such if I dated a virgin at my stage in life if I was single and especially if I only wanted to date virgins.
For me, even dating a 25-year old virgin at my stage in life who constantly agrees with me and compliments me while resting her chin on her hand, seems like I would be taking advantage. This is not an even playing field I'm on. It's too easy, you might say, but also I am not sure she knows what she's trying to sign up towards.
So I never wanted to date a "fan" regardless of age, and especially a virgin one. I always preferred women who are as corrupt as I am, if you will, and communicate that not only do they want me, but know exactly what that entails including the worst-case scenarios. I don't think I could ever date a virgin now if I was single.
I wouldn't say it's as sick as the urge to have sex with prepubescent kids. But I do think a grown man who pursues virgins exclusively has issues. I won't even begin to try to analyze the motive. I even have a problem with guys who are all about having sex with women but would only marry a virgin. I think that's an anachronistic, unevolved attitude that is suitable to patriarchal cultures that treat women like chattel.
I've even heard guys on GAG express the opinion that a woman who has had sex before is sullied; her vagina is unclean; she's used goods. That's a sick-ass attitude, as far as I'm concerned.
I see nothing virtuous about virginity. It's not a fetish of mine.
I think it’s wrong if and also weird if they have such standards especially if the guy isn’t a virgin himself and he has expectations for the girl to be one because it’s some sort of fetish or whatever.. like he’s gonna reject her just because she’s had sex with 2 guys for example that’s fucked up especially if he’s had his experience:/ I think pedophilia is different because it’s attraction to kids which them having a preference for a girl to be a virgin is sick in ways but there are women into their 20s even 30s that are which is a whole different situation. I was a virgin myself till I was 22 when I lost it.
If the guy is a virgin and wants to wait till marriage it is totally fine.
But you have guys who are not virgin just chasing after hairless, petite, obedient and virgin women. Literally describing a child when talking about their type. That is a big red flag for me. Just disgusting and very hypocrite.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I disagree, vehemently. Pedophiles are sick because their brains are miswired; the "protect and nurture" switch and the "lust and romance" switch got flipped around. Only dating virgins is a *preference*, not a mental illness. You may feel it's a STUPID preference, and if they stop dating her once she's no longer a virgin, I don't think anyone could argue with that, but it's hardly on the same level.
As the survivor of a pedophile rapist, I have as much reason to despise pedos as anyone, but in this case I would have to say no. Not unless the virgins in question are 13 or under. I would imagine that a woman can be a virgin well into her 20’s or 30’s. Clearly that has nothing to do with pedophilia.
disagree, and people should be careful throwing that term pedophile around, and save it for those that actually deserve that title, unless you're talking about an underage virgin, I don't see as how you can compare the two
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@Bluemax I meanI get what I think the poster was trying to say, but there was no cause to compare to a pedophile.. I have an issue with his that insist she's a virgin if he's not, but I wouldn't label them pedophiles, maybe hyprocrites
@Bluemax *guys not his
I've encountered a woman was a 35 year old virgin and far from nubile.
You're 21 and have lived three years of an adult life. That explains why you are clueless. Come back when you have some life experience.
Sure, give me your frowny face, but look at the disagrees: 84% v 16%. We all figured you out, yet you wish to remain clueless. Go away little girl and play with your dolls.
They are equivalent because an experienced male who dates only virgins is looking for an inexperienced female so he can take advantage of her? Is that the equivalence you are suggesting?
Yes, a man who is not a virgin insisting on only dating virgin women is a hypocrite, but I don't see that hypocrisy as being bad in the same was as an adult male who wants to have sex with a 12 year old girl. Please explain how those two are euqally reprehensible.
I don't think you understand what the word pedophile means if you're taking this position.
Not sure if pedophiles... but if they ONLY date virgins, as in multiples and they're not interested in keeping them in that state until they marry then they're predatory.
Well as long the person ain't like 17, what's the harm. If they a virgin and 32 then they ain't dumb to have sex, just wise and keeps it at that.
Pedophilia means "sexual attraction to children"
How exactly can a man wanting to date a virgin woman be a pedophile?
The word you are looking for is hypocrite
or "immature" :)
oh but also he could be a pedophile because majority of females are losing their virginity these days before they turn 16. -------> all the virgins are children.
Only works on the assumptions that:
1. His intentions are exclusively self-serving and predatory,
2. He is only going after her because she's naive, and
3. That all virgins are naive, young, helpless victims.
If even one of those assumptions is falsified, the whole equivalency falls to pieces. If he's not virgin himself, but holds her lack of it against her, he's perhaps a hypocrite. This is why I'm so tolerant of women with a history. Because it would be hypocritical to have a history and reasons for it, and allow no chance for anyone else to claim the same.
Yet, while the hypothetical dude is a hypocrite, to compare him to some maniac that kidnaps small children, rapes them, then leaves them decapitated in a storm drain is beyond-the-pale warped thinking!
No, wtf XD
I got stuck deflowering a bunch of virgins in high school and university and it sucked. I got married at 22, then unfortunately divorced at 32. The first new women after over a decade, I swear to god more virgins. I do not believe any man who has had to deal with them would want them. Some are fine, but many are obviously in pain, and most do not have a good time. Even if you have some time with them, most take too long to get up to speed (although those that do are a blessing, especially years later in random encounters).
if I never sleep with another virgin again, I will consider it a blessing, but I have gotten stuck with a few in my forties (I date a lot of university students). Why on earth would a man want a virgin? They are work
Who are you to "allow" only virgins to hookup?
As long as they both consent and the guy wasn't grooming her till she was legal age who gives a fuck? Deflowering is nothing like pedophilia. So what by your logic any woman who's still a firing by age 18 is doomed to die a virgin cause it's "wrong" for a guy who's not a virgin to fuck a virgin?
Hard for me to take dating preference criticisms from women seriously, most of y'all exclusively date guys over 6 foot tall but you've got the audacity to judge guys who want virgins? OK. . . .
And for any women saying "it's instinctual to want a tall guy" that argument works here to, it's instinctual to want a virgin girl.
That being said I don't get why guys would want virgins, I don't see the fun in a girl that has no idea what she's doing in bed, I like experienced women, but judging guys who have that preference and comparing them to pedos is fucked up.
"I only date 6 foot+ tall guys, no other guys are good enough for me" Preferences aren't fair. They never will be and there's nothing we can do about it. You sound like you got turned down for not being a virgin. Rejection sucks but you got to move on.
I think those women with height standards are fucked up too
Preferences can be reasonable like I don't date smokers, or I only date women who work in theatre because I work there myself, or I'd only see a who reads as much as i aka a bookworm
Yeah, judging the purity of a girl based on her virginity is a really stupid idea.
I wouldn’t call them pedophiles but it’s suspicious as hell. To me? If you’re not a virgin searching for a fellow virgin then it sounds like little dick energy, that’s all I’m saying
I disagree because nothing can be compared to the depravity of a pedophile.
I highly doubt. There is a class of man who is out "cherry popping".
Agree because the only reason they would be in the mindset of I only date virgins is to take advantage really. In other words it's them saying "I only date inexperienced women who can easily be manipulated." cause any normal person who wasn't trying to manipulate such a situation wouldn't worry if they are or not.
Disagree.
Going for virgins only is extremely fucking weird ( no I don't care if it's a preference or not, your preference is still fucking creepy) but as long as the virgins are adults I wouldn't compare them to pedos.
Nonsense.
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