Men and Women are not equal

Hello GAGers i wanted to share my take on why i personally feel men and women are not equal.

I have seen a lot of people do the same or something similar and it seems like a good idea, also I've seen a lot of people say that men are women are very much equal nowadays and i just can't help but disagree to a certain extent.

Dont get me wrong though i do agree that men are women are more equal now compared to a few years back when it was a completely different story but there are still matters in which male and female are not equal and i thought id share my opinion/thoughts on it, if you disgaree that is totally fine.

Abusive Relationships.

Abusive relationships for starters, when you typically think of a abusive relationship most people will think "the man is the abuser" if that's what you automatically assume then there's nothing wrong with that maybe you've had experience which has influenced the reasoning behind it or maybe you've heard loads of stories from people in which its always the man who inflicts either physical, psychological, Emotional pain on the women but haven't heard enough stories of women doing the same to men to even it out, but from my experience there will never be equality on this matter.

I knew a guy from work who was being abused by his girlfriend verbally and physically, he kept it to himself for a long time and bottled it up and assumed whenever she hit him or shouted at him it was because he deserved it, he hadn't heard of this happening to any other man before in their relationship so he assumed he was doing something wrong and his girlfriend was right to punish him for it, however he wasn't doing anything wrong, he worked full time to keep a roof over both their heads, he cleaned the house, cooked for her, paid all the bills with his own wage, took her out shopping and treated her, showered her with gifts all the time to buy his way back into her heart but she was still the same person, she would beat him, bruise him, scratch him, bit him, he didn't disclose any of this to me on his own accord it was only because i noticed he had a cigarette burn on his arm that i questioned it and asked him how it had happened and he finally told me, he was ashamed and didn't know what to do, he loved her but she wasn't ready to change...long story short they both had relationship therapy where it was found out that she suffers from very intense anger disorder and by this point everyone at our work place knew their business and gossip got around pretty quick mostly the rumour that went around was "he's a pussy he needs to man up" Why? Being a man doesn't mean acting like a rock who has no feelings or emotions, he was being hurt whether it seems "pussy like" to guys who think they're Mr Macho no man should have to go through that and no women should have to either, another thing people was saying mostly the women "She has anger issues i feel sorry for her, i hope she gets the help she needs" which is fine wishing someone well but why not comment on the guy who has been burned and beaten for the last year? Or is just not as important as her mental state?

Women.

I didn't actually know the girl who this happened to but she was a friend of my sister and my sister told me what had happened, the girl was 23 years old and studied at university and her boyfriend was 26 years old and worked, they was in a relationship for 5-6 months and was living together in his flat, this girl would often come over to our house looking incredibly upset and she would stay for hours talking to my sister its only now that i found out what she was actually talking about, her boyfriend was abusing her physically and emotionally, it started with him telling her to quit university and when she declined he lashed out and kneed her in the face leaving her with a broken nose, he would abuse her for having friends (male and female) he told her not to wear makeup outside the house, she wasn't allowed to leave their house without him, she must always text him when she has got to Uni and tell him exactly who she is with it carried on and got worse, after a few weeks people at my sister's university knew what was going on in their relationship because the girl had ran out on him, she packed her stuff and left whilst he was at work and that was when i first noticed the different equality here when i heard the gossip of what was going around this time, (said by males) "If i ever see him i will beat him to a pulp, he is a dead man walking" ........(said by females) "Poor girl she must of felt so alone, he best get put inside for this!" See the difference here?

The guy who was abusing his girlfriend for 5-6 months had a restraining order against him with all fees taken care off by the court and was also put on probation.

The girl who was abusing her boyfriend for a year received expert anger management and weekly sessions with a psychiatrist all paid for on the NHS and had no charges against her because she had a anger disorder.

For all anybody knows the guy could of had a anger disorder too? Would he of gotten the same treatment as the girl did? Probably not.

Im not trying to justify the actions of the man in no shape or form, i just feel there is no equality here, i have 4 younger sisters and if i found out that a guy was hurting them i would beat the living day lights out of him no questions asked. If i saw a women being hit in the street by a man or being spoken to in a disrespectful/rude manner by a man i would step in and put myself at risk to shield her from any pain he may inflict whether its phsyical or emotional, but i would also do the same for a man. I wouldn't stand there and think "ha he lets a girl beat him up!" or "he needs to man up and grow some balls" abuse is a abuse, its not a gender or a age so why are we acting like it is?

Sorry for how long this is lol i didn't expect it to go on that much! If you have read up to here then thank you very much for reading all of that!

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