Men, would it bother you if during sex your woman used you like a sex toy/selfishly used your body to get off?

Men, would it bother you if during sex your woman used you like a sex toy/selfishly used your body to get off?

Often times I hear men complain about how women "starfish" in bed, dont put in the work, take a long time to orgasm. So kind of imagine the opposite like she hops on your dick, does all the work and uses it to get off like your a sex toy. And your own orgasm may or may not happen. It's doesn't really matter since she's just using your dick in a selfish way for her own orgasms.

Would that bother y'all or no?

And bonus question: have you ever had a woman use you in this way?

Yes i would feel bothered by being used/I'm not a sex toy
Vote A
No it doesn't bother me to be used/sure I'll be her sex toy
Vote B
I don't know how I'd feel if I got used
Vote C
Something else/results
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  • I'm thinking that this is quite common in fact. I have seen academic papers which give a 1/3, 1/31/3 result. With 1/3 of women they regard the man's ejaculation as most important and their satisfaction is depends on if, subjectively, they assess he has ejaculated a lot of semen.

    The 1/3 in the middle is balanced regarding the mans experience as of equal experience to their own.

    The last 1/3, regards the mans ejaculation as unimportant and do not care if he ejaculates or not.

    The reality is you are fairly much a sex toy to the last group, you are just more holistic in that you do breasts and nipples as well as clits and vaginas and any other special spot the women has. This group resists sex unless she wants sex. In the case of a friend that was once a month.

    Using your cock in the described manner wouldn't be so bad - at least she is active physically rather than lying back in starfish waiting for you to deliver an orgasm to her. Both would be the same if she stopped sexual activity after she orgasmed. I have never experienced a woman that selfish but with girl on top it can be that her motion does little for me.

    One girlfriend always wanted me to cum first, it seemed my ejaculation was significant in her getting off. That would seem to put her in the first 1/3 but she wasn't truly. Oh she would do what was requested for a period but she wasn't genuinely interested in giving pleasure - it was more doing it by rote.

    It is always unsatisfactory if sex is not played as the team game it is. So the hoping on your dick is just another version of it. A girl who just starfishes and says 'I don't want to but go ahead and make a pig of yourself' can be a lot more exciting in reality.

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  • As you can see from the poll results, this reverse psychology is not going to work lol. Men love women, we love having sex with women. We would love to be used as a sex toy by an attractive woman and to know that we are giving her sexual pleasure.

    Only women complain about being “objectified”. Men just enjoy having sex with and giving pleasure to a woman we love.

    The only part that concerns me is, “And your own orgasm may or may not happen.” And no, my concern is not about my own pleasure from orgasm.

    For a girl to be attractive to me, she needs to enjoy being filled with cum or swallowing it. So she should want my orgasm to happen so she gets pumped full of cum. Alternatively…

    It would be wonderful if she enjoyed having sex with a hot guy while I watch, or much better, being gangbanged by a group of guys and having them pump their cum inside her or fill her mouth with it for her to swallow.

    I would be happy just to watch, it’s not about my own orgasm. I want to know that she is experiencing and enjoying mind blowing sexual pleasure.

    • Most men would not love it if they got used all the time tho. It'd eventually get boring and not fun anymore to be used like this

    • @Apple1996 every good thing has its limit, of course, but I'd be down even if it went this way 70-80% of the time. Also, it doesn't have to be exclusive- when my wife takes control and worries only about herself until she's 100% satisfied, I'll usually then take over and finish myself.

    • @matchrestore that's what I'm saying tho like guys always end up taking over at some point they want the control back

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  • Trust me when I say that they will like it. It could be because of the image that the world puts on men to dominate, dominate, dominate that they want to know the other side of the coin. And you and I, we like to be and feel desired. Rest assured that this goes for men as well. Who doesn't want their woman jump on them in bed out of sheer desire for him?

    • Mixing things up and deescalating is nice

  • Lol the guys would love that! Turn things around the guys always love them.

    They would hate it if they were bored like we get in bed.

    • None of these guys are realizing what I said is really just what they do to women 😂

    • Then let's see your comment!

    • So agree the requests for face sitting is laughable! But easier and way better for me!

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  • It's interesting how many guys just want easy sex. Let her do all the work, and then enjoy the results. Intimacy is much more than just a release. As far as I'm concerned, when she disconnects from me, and I just become her dildo, I disconnect from her. I have allowed myself to be left in the dust, but then I just wait for them to finish, so we can hopefully reconnect. Many women don't want to be seen as just a receptacle or piece of meat, and caring guys generally don't want to be seen as a dildo.

    I'll never understand people focusing on 2% of a person's body and seeing the rest as irrelevant. Would you go to a nice restaurant and eat 2% of your meal and let the rest go to waste? Do you leave the movie theater after watching just 2.4 minutes of the movie? People seem to be oblivious to the infinite beauty surrounding them, because all they are seeking and notice are momentary extremes.

    • Sex can be both ways. Romantic or animalistic

    • Sex can be... love isn't. If all I want is a release, I'll take care of it myself and won't bother anyone else.

    • Love to but guess it depends on the couple. Sometimes it's fun to get a release with your partner

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  • There's a time and a place for everything and when I'm making love having sex f****** screwing I read her eyes the color of her cheeks The Way she moves the way she moans the way she breathes because she's talking to me without saying one word and telling me everything she wants I mean I make it all about her


    I have had an x in bed her back kind of up against the headboard kind of pillows and I would face her get right up next to her butt cheek to butt cheek legs fall over hers slap her with my cock and I would say it's all yours do what you want with it you want me to get into another position just tell me

    I would say use me is if I was a rag doll don't stop until you finish no I absolutely love that

    And I really think this is a good question because I bet you countless women have that fantasy and I like that you ask the question because maybe they just might make it happen and take control

    • I think many women have this fantasy but don't know how to take control/ or aren't with men that allow them to be dominant

    • One of the most beautiful things about having sex or making love is exploring both sides of that and telling each other I don't care how kinky it is if that's what you like that's what I'm going to do and make it happen I mean it just brings you that much closer together and opens up new doors and if you can't be yourself when you're having sex with somebody then you might as well not even be having sex because that means you're just all locked up and you're not doing anything anyway enjoy it take it to the deepest the fullest peak I mean to me that's what having sex is all about is taking my partner as far as I possibly can and in every new direction I possibly can I don't like doing the same thing twice in roundabout way so for me I have to make it all about her that's what gets me off that's what just sends me to the roof is watching listening paying attention to everything about it and about her to take her there and I want her to express herself either physically verbally when she loves it I want her to go there I don't think I would be with a girl that didn't feel comfortable doing whatever she wanted I mean I would try to talk to her about it and say look it I love kink I love pleasing you do what you want to do tell me I'll help you do it LOL

  • Sure…use and abuse me

  • They would love it!!!

    • Actually, I feel like men are just big, silly, breathing sex toys.

    • Uh oh. Seriously?

    • @msc545 Did I say anything wrong? 👻

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  • Not at all- I love it when she does that, actually.