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Men would you allow your partner to get her tubes tied? Ladies would you be ok if your partner decided to get a vasectomy?

Let's say they didn't want anymore children or decided they didn't want any children at all, would you be supportive and accepting of their decision or no? How would you react and would you consider leaving them or staying with them?

Updates:
8 mo
I should have added this in, but do you believe a woman needs her partner's permission to get her tubes tied? Why or why not? The same can be said for men as well when it comes to a vasectomy?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • We made the decision after our fourth child. We both decided that we were done. I offered to get snipped but the baby was C-section so the docs did her tubes right then.

    That said, if she had wanted to do it, she could have done it and I would have respected that decision.

    I don't see it as allow. Her body/her choice and my body/my choice. Even in a marriage, I feel the same although I believe that a healthy marriage (or long term relationship that already has children) there wouldn't/shouldn't be a case where the couple would disagree on the course of action. But, worst case, if they did? It's the individual's choice.

  • No, I do not approve this.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • What an old-fashioned attitude that my partner would have to "allow" me to make a decision about my body! I think it's important for couples to be honest with each other and talk through big decisions, put all our cards on the table and come to a conclusion we're both happy with or at least understand. But ultimately it's my decision to make and if the man thinks as my boyfriend he has any kind of right to final say over what happens to my body then he's going to stop being my boyfriend very quickly.

  • I'd allow it but would not trust a vasectomy since he has men in his family where the vasectomy reversed itself and they ended up having more kids. Personanally gonna get my tubes removed so there is 0 chance of pregnancy once we are done having kids.

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  • My partner does not need my permission for anything and we are beyond the age of conception. However, if we were younger and this was a real issue for us, I would be horribly devastated if she made this decision without consulting me.

  • Well that is something you should have discussed at the beginning of a relationship.

  • It's something to discuss and hopefully a mutual decision made but essentially the person having there bits tinkered with has the final say!

  • Her decision, obviously. If you want to have children, find another woman who does.

    • Yikes, do I believe a woman need's her partner's permission to get her tubes tied? Why not? Because the days of slavery are long gone! Women have the right to do whatever they want with their bodies and they don't need anyone's permission.

  • My wife had a hysterectomy in the 1980s more than a decade before I met her in 1999. Her infertility was a reason WHY I married her.

  • Yeah if he truly wants that

  • I want children. Honestly it’s a responsible choice for people. Much better then abortion. But at that point I don’t think we would be compatible

  • So first off, the way this question is worded makes it very biased.
    Would you allow her vs would you be ok with...
    For us it wasn't an issue, neither one of us could have kids.
    For myself that created a lot of issues in past relationships.
    I would inform any potential partner of that fact and quite a few of them were ok with it at first, but then things changed, and they wanted kids at some point. After a while it was easier being single and doing a lot of 1 nightstands.
    We met later in life so at that point even if we could have neither one of us would have wanted to have kids. But for the vast majority of people that is something that should be discussed early on in their relationship, as to how many kids, when, who does it. If she is having a C section that is a good time, otherwise for guys it is a whole lot less complicated.

  • I would totally support their decision and not leave them.

    • It would be appreciated if she discussed the situation before having her tubes tied, but ultimately it's her body and her decision.

  • She doesn't need my permission

  • Yes, if she is retiring from having babies its her right to choose

  • If that is what they want then they can do it

  • That should be a mutual decision. My wife said she'd take the pill but then tried the implant. She started to balloon up. So they took that out and then she tried an IUD. Very heavy flow with her period. Then I told her she'd done enough, It was my turn. So I got snipped.

  • No woman needs any permission to do anything from her partner period. Neither does a man. My girlfriend has her tubes tied. But it was done b4 we got together. So I don't have to use condoms. Doesn't bother me either way. If she didn't tie'em we'd probably be doing it same way.

    But i think major part of question is that permission part. That's a shovenistic thing and I can't stand shovenistic stuff.

  • I'm all for it after having couple kids.

  • After we had our 3rd child we both decided that we didn't want any more kids. We agreed that my wife would get her tunes tied while she was in the hospital with my son.

    • Regarding update, if you're married it should be at least discussed between both partners.

  • i know " married " couples that have.. and they love it for obvious reasons. This is a discussion that has to happen before anything

  • I don't want kids anyway, so I'd be totally fine with that.

    And I don't think they need permission, but that's something you talk about before you get into a relationship. Because it affects both parties.

  • Im for it.. I wish I was sterile

  • Allow? She can do what she wants in that regard and I have no right to deny her.

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