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Missing box of condoms?

We use condoms for our sex toys and this weekend my boyfriend claims he lost the box we had. He immediately got defensive towards ME and said I was accusing him of cheating. I had barely said a word, but of course my head went there. When I became silent and cold towards him, he insisted he wasn't cheating on me, but then proceeded to gaslight me and said I probably took them (lol). Im an idiot to stay with this person, right? He’s been picking lame fights with me all weekend. Quarantine is over and its obvious he wants to start wandering. Thoughts?
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  • That sounds like he possibly has something to hide and takes the bull by the horns with an offensive approach.

    By attempting to blame others for trivial issues, the culprits usually try to take the heat off and divert the conversation onto a topic that is not related. Fact is that his behavior is the one of a person that does not feel at ease. Gaslighting would be one of those typical behaviors in an attempt to make the other partner feel bad.

    I would seriously reconsider the entire situation and if events like that happened in the past or if you feel you are being led, then you either leave right away or then you sit together and talk openly about the entire event.

    Prepare a list and besides each item you bring a solution to the problem. Ask your boyfriend to do an independent list from yours and to find a solution to each problem. Next you sit together and attempt to find a consensus that is acceptable to both. If you fail to reach an agreement, then your best alternative is to leave because living a lie is not what a relation is about.

    • Thank you for your feedback. I really dont think its worth the effort. He’s not that great with confrontation which says a lot right there.

Most Helpful Girl

  • If there is no reasonable explanation, I’d be careful. Things just don’t go missing. I would check really well again before making assumptions, but you know him better than anyone on here, so if you think he wants to wander as you say, I’d be worried. Hope it works out for you. Best case is you find them.

    • Thank you. Yeah, maybe I shoukd give him the benefit of the doubt, but his ridiculously defensive and blame-shifting attitude is making me ill and is very unconvincing to me. I wish that could be the case, but he is just downright nasty to me.

    • Really sorry to hear that. In my experience, defensive = guilty a lot of the time. Wish you all the best.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Have a look around but irrespective of the condoms, his attitude sounds shit.

    Try for a decent sit down face to face meeting, see how it goes,

    but it is looking shaky,

    the problem is sometimes the facts you see may not necessarily be everything.

    have a good look around for them.

    • I know if I bring it up again, he’ll just get pissed. Im at the point where I think we’re about done.

    • Trust your gut

    • @ Pretty Pink Anon thank you most appreciated

  • Well his loss my ex took all the condoms because she cheated.
    Im sorry he is a moron. I hope you find a guy who is not a cheater.

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  • Sounds like it time to say goodbye.

    • Yep! Thank you!

    • You are welcome.

  • sound like a red flag to me

  • Some serious red flags there. I wouldn't blame you for leaving.

  • leave that mf

  • he must be enjoying some other pussy!

    • No shit, Dick Tracy.

    • And Im going to be enjoying some new dick pretty soon here

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