My 8 year old nephew was told at school by the teacher that he can marry his friend who is a boy. What do you guys think?

My nephew like most 8 year olds is very innocent, he has a "girlfriend" and doesn't understand the concept of romantic love and marriage. When he was told he can marry his best friend he didn't think it was romantic, just that he could live with him and play with him every day. Doesn't that in itself mean he is too young to be hearing such things from a teacher? Parents of course weren't informed that such topics were being discusses with their children and some reacted very strongly to it. Unfortunately it seems it's not just an American problem.
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  • It's not just an American problem. The Trans Activists are pushing hard at every level trying to normalize this, and we all know what's coming next, because they're already pushing it in "friendly spaces": normalizing pedophilia. I can't recall the current euphemism they're trying to use, but they want people to accept that "being attracted to children is just a different sexual identity, and it's fine."

    This is why they are pushing to be able to teach this stuff secretly and to be able to conceal it from parents - they literally believe that if they can just indoctrinate children into accepting this at a young age, then all will be fine.

    This crap has been going on for years already, but the trend is spreading and increasing, and if it hadn't been for COVID and "remote learning", most parents wouldn't even believe this is happening even if their kids told them, because it's so far out of bounds, but many teachers were caught by parents - and many teachers did their best to convince students to keep their parents out of the room so that they didn't find out what their kids were being taught.

    The Florida bill didn't happen for no reason - it happened precisely because this is a growing problem that's already far more widespread than most people realize. And anyone who thought it would stay contained to the US was either pitifully naïve or in denial.

  • I would wish there were laws against teacher promoting life styles... I think as a guy at 8 years old I thought girls were disgusting. I had no interest in girls until I hit puberty around 12 to 14... but I was always told that was normal and I would grow out of it... and one day I would change my mind about girls. But at 8 years old shit like from a teacher really fucks kids head up... and it should be illegal and it see it as a big problem for children these days, and honestly parents are powerless to protect their kids from it.

    • All a parent can really do is take their child out of school and teach them at home, but unfortunately not everyone can afford it or is able to do it for other reasons :( at 8 I didn't even seriously consider boys and girls beyond the kind of toys/games they like and clothes they wear

    • People just can't let kids be kids and figure somethings out for themselves without interfering. Kids are just so easily manipulated or confused by things, its crazy to me what schools do and allow these days. Honestly kids first real interactions with society out side of their own families, as a whole starts with schools. And the things schools allow these days, are outside of what most people of my age would consider a good and productive social norms.

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  • What's wrong with it? It's nice that you live in a country where this is possible so many wish they had that chance. He should know that he has option and he will understand more when he's older what that means, just like he will understand what girlfriend means then

    • The issue with it is that in an overwhelming majority of countries (including the one the asker is from) children that young cannot marry

    • @WhiteBoyChill No, well, no one is saying to him get married now, but letting him know for the future. You don't tell any child about any kind of marriage straight or not until they're able to actually marriy?

    • But why is the teacher making such asinine comments? Its just totally not appropriate for someone that young to be thinking about

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  • I don't think that a teacher is in a position to discuss this topics with 8 year old kids. It's not her place to do so.

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  • If he asked about the topic or it came up in natural conversation it's 100% appropriate in my view.
    If it was brought up entirely unprompted it depends a bit on the context.
    It's something they *should* learn about, but I can see how parents in more conservative countries might prefer to have a opt out option for the topic.

  • As @jenny4455 asked, why is it okay with the "girlfriend" and not okay when it's about a boy?
    I don't really see the issue here

    • It's not like it's anything about sex, which is inappropriate at the age in any form. Education about relationships is a positive thing

    • @Jenny4455 Exactly!

    • @Jenny4455 Is a teacher the right person to teach a child about relationships? Not a parent or a trained psychologist? Why is school so concerned with raising other people's children if you send them there to be EDUCATED?

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  • If the child asks, then I'd be okay with it being answered directly. It should not be promoted or taught however. Not to this age group.

  • What a disgusting thing for a school to tell young children! Every teacher who thinks it is acceptable to use schools for the purpose of political indoctrination should have their ass kicked on a daily basis.

  • Story feels like it’s missing facts.

    • Such as how did the conversation start. Did a child ask?

    • Yes, a 8 year old child asked about homosexuality :) Also, your question makes it seem like you're trying to blame the children (aka the victims) for the adult (teacher) crossing a line and talking to them about something inappropriate and messing with their heads. Regardless, that wasn't the case.

    • I’m gathering facts. lol

  • LGBT supporters are messing up children mind.

  • Soooo your problem is she told him about marriage or she implied your nephew might be gay?

  • Disgusting, that kind of thing should not be allowed to be discussed to children. I feel sorry that you live in a country that allows it.

    • Stay pure Russia 🇷🇺❤️

    • @WhiteBoyChill I hope we will. There are always some who want to destroy our values but we will fight it

    • I think Russians understand the danger though. I mean people have really turned to God in a major way while the rest of the world becomes more secular

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  • I think if I have children they're not going to public schools.

  • What was the context? Did her ask?

  • For a long time it was considered inappropriate for teachers to talk about any kind of relationship for any reason. Teachers are still not supposed to discuss their own relationships with students, but it’s a gray area whether discussing student relationships is concerned. My game plan is to answer questions in a general sense that I am voluntarily asked, but not to initiate a relationship conversation, which I feel best respects the rights of everyone involved.

  • The US state of Florida recently passed a law (incorrectly labeled the "Don't say gay" law by liberals) that prohibits teachers in public schools from talking about such things through 5th grade (~age 11). The law is controversial, with some people in favor of it and others saying it unreasonably restricts teachers. Other states are considering similar laws.

    I personally feel that young children are too young to understand such topics and that their discussion, if at all, should be up to the parents at home.

  • I am all for him making his own choices BUT NO ONE should be telling him what he can or cannot do especially at his age! IF he asked this question directly at his age I would respond people cannot get married until they are of age!

  • So why is the girlfriend thing acceptable and not the other?

    • Because him having a girlfriend came naturally from him, nobody told him that. Nobody else had a conversation like that with an 8 year old, including the parents so why did the teacher feel entitled to sexualise him? I think it's pretty obvious, if you want to do this to your own child then you go right ahead but leave other people's children out of it.

    • Did it come naturally or did he learn about girlfriends from media, stories, from his family? 'Girlfriend' is a learned term. You mentioned nothing sexual, talking about different relationships isn't 'sexualising' it's educating. A boyfriend is no more sexualised than a girlfriend

    • Because it should be up to parents to teach their children that when they feel it's age appropriate. A teacher's job is to teach him maths, English and the like not about sexual orientations. Teach your children that if you want but you have no right to infringe on other people's children.

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  • Teachers have no business teaching this to third graders.

  • Good thing I am homeschooling. 😂

  • Seems like something that did not need to be brought up. I would think it inappropriate if the teacher had told him he could marry his “girlfriend” too. He’s too young to be contemplating marrying anybody.

    • Yes exactly!! That's what I was thinking, a parent should raising their child and teach them about all those things, not an adult stranger... especially that in recent years they didn't do such a good job at teaching what they SHOULD be teaching :(

    • Some people think the kids need to learn their LGBTQ’s more than their ABC’s.

  • I tell you these Teachers should not be telling these kids stuff at age 8 he can marry his 8-year-old male friend, kids don't know the concept of romance, marriage, etc, One time I saw in the store this guy was holding his daughter who had to be at least age 6-8 he yelled at his wife, didn't you see she was flirting with some grown adult man now this takes the cake WTF is going on in this world

  • ''Legally'' this teacher perhaps is right.
    But without further explanation I find statements like this somewhat incomplete - teachers who leave this topic with a one-sentence-information only are... unprofessional.

  • If it was my kid I would be in the superintendent's office the next day complaing about it and if I got no satisfaction I would be running for school committee.

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