My best-friend felt me up in my sleep?

It was a Saturday night & I was with two of my friends and my best guy friend of 4 years.
We'd planned to stay over at his, like the many times we have over the years.
No one was drinking anything, but I was getting extremely tired.
I decided to sleep on one of the 3 beds in the room, choosing the single.

I fell asleep straight away & the rest of our friends were playing video games.
Around 2.30 am I woke up to a stroking feeling on my side, I froze as I had no idea who was in the bed with me & tried to convince myself one of my girl-friends was playing a joke.
It became apparent to me, the person was him.
My body locked up & i couldn't move due to past sexual assault trauma (which he knows about) I felt sick.

He began to put his hands down the front of my pants &squeezing my boobs. I thought if I just stayed still that he would stop. Looking back that doesn't make much sense as I was already asleep.
I began slightly moving to make it seem like I was waking up, but maybe he took that as a sign that I was into it? He began fingering me.
We've hooked up before at his house (3 times in 4 yrs) only while drunk & I've let him know, i've regretted it every time.

I tried to convince myself that I liked it, he realised that i was awake and began leaning over me, trying to kiss me, it felt like i was going to throw up, I felt like the only way to get him to stop would to be to kiss him. I really fvcking wish i didn't. Disgusted by my own actions, pushed him off of me, rolled to the other side of the bed and started crying. He still tried to press himself against me.

A week before this happened I told him that I really really didn't want anything to happen with him and I didn't want to loose our friendship. He agreed with me and said that it was for the best.
I spoke to my friends in the morning and they said similar things happened to them that night (not to the same extent/not while they were sleeping). was it some bet? Was it my fault? I'm sick of blaming myself.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I am so sorry this happened to you...
    I’ve had those same thoughts, about hoping it would just stop if you did a little something, but it never does, and every time I’ve thought that I ended up regretting it.
    It is NOT your fault, he knew how you felt and he definitely should have known better.

    As awkward as it may be, I think you should talk to one of your parents about it, whichever you feel most comfortable with. They can help you decide if you want to press charges, which I totally understand why you wouldn’t, but his actions are inexcusable, and there needs to be some sort of punishment.
    Again, I’m so sorry you were put in this position. If you need to talk, you can PM me and I can try to help.
    I’ll be sending good thoughts your way, just hang in there ❤️

  • Someone said press charges? I agree. With or without your trauma, what he did was completely shitty and, now, insensitive because what the honest fuck? He's not your friend anymore, he's a rapist.

  • Dude. Not your fault. I'm sorry this happened but if there is a next time.. Say something.

Most Helpful Guys

  • FUCK no this wasn't your fault. This piece of shit straight up sexually assaulted you in your sleep.

    Honestly, I personally would press charges. You were fucking crying, and he was still trying to get physical with you, that's BEYOND fucked up.

    Compounded with the fact that this same thing happened to MULTIPLE girls. What the fuck. This guy is a fucking predator, straight up.

  • That's sooo wack
    You should not blame yourself that's your so-called "friends" fault.
    He should have taken all those hints.
    And the fact that he did it knowing about your past trauma is super messed up.
    Hope you can recover from this...

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  • seeing as it happened to all of you, there are witnesses. press charges. duh.

    he needs to stop and he's not doing that on his own.

  • Oh wow what are you going to do about it?

  • It's not your fault. Take the case to the police department. That is sexual assault.

  • Sounds like sexual assault, contact the local law enforcement. Besides this guy isn't your friend, he is a predator.

    • kappa

  • At first he seemed like he had a lot of sexual tension so he let it out on you but then at the end of the story ur friend said it happened to them so either he's horny beyond normal level or he's not "mentally stable"

  • Press charges

  • Of course it's not your fault!!! He is at fault should've never touched you in your sleep w/o your consent