My Bestfriend sent nudes to my ex?

So I met my ex when I was 15 I was with him till I was 17 and it was a full on relationship that was nearly impossible for me to leave. I absolutely adored him but he was dishonest about so many things and I just could cope with it anymore and had to leave. To this day I am still not over him. We have text through the years on and off seeing how each-other is etc but everytime we’ve spoke he has told me how he misses me and so on. I have felt for him just as strong and never been able to find the same kind of love I had for him with anyone. I’m Now at a point I feel I no longer need him however I want him in my life. We recently have been texting again after not speaking for a few weeks and he talks about how he’s studying and trying to improve himself. I can see an obvious and clear change in his behaviour and so on and have said if we take things slow maby we could end up back together. I messaged him today about what we both want to make sure we was on the same terms and asked him to be completely honest about stuff. He then tells me he needs to tell me something just to tell me that my bestmate has sent him nudes about 3 weeks ago and he got off to them. I’m mortified. I have dealt with her she is dead to me. Him on the other hand I don’t know what to do. He is my ex and wasn’t with me so I know he doesn’t have loyalty to me but he knew she was one of my good mates. And he knew it would hurt me. But yet he tells me at the time he wasn’t thinking. I know he isn’t interested in the girl as she’s literally vile and it was just him being horny but question is. Do I continue things with him or not. I can’t figure out what to do as I still want him but my head is telling me that it’s stupid to go there now but also saying I shouldn’t care. Help what do I do?
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  • Well would you be upset if he did that to porn? It’s likely to happen with something sometime if you are back together.

    even though you are done with her, what should he do about her? I’d suggest cutting off all communication while you two are dating since there has been sexting (at least without you there). It’d by like me getting in touch with my ex or my wife getting in touch with her ex. Boundaries and trust are the safest thing for both of you.
    explain that this is for our relationship and you’d do the same if he asked it if you..,

    good luck hope it works out

    • No I wouldn’t care about porn I think it was more the principal of him knowing it was my mate. But then again I know it’s her fault more so as he had no loyalty to me. And yes he’s already blocked her on everything and obviously told me about it wich I guess shows he didn’t care for her at all. It was because we were trying again and I said I wanted honesty from the start so he told me. Thankyou for your response. It was really helpful.

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  • Before you do anything I suggest finding out if your ex-bestfriend is still in a relationship with your ex-boyfriend. I'm not sure how you would find that out, but if they are, you don't want anything to do with your ex-boyfriend.

    • They were never in a relationship they just messaged one time and she sent him nudes x

    • Is there a way to be sure she is no longer messaging him? If you can be sure they are not communicating in any way, you may be able to make it work with your ex, but like you said, take it slow. In his defense he did tell you about the photos he received from your ex-bestfriend. Some guys would have kept that a secret.

    • Yeah I’m sure he’s not communicating with her it sounds harsh but she’s not the kinda girl anyone wants just the kind easy for a quick wank cause they’ll send pictures. And yes very true i just didn’t know if it was stupid to go back to him but Thankyou so much!

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  • If u want to be with him then be with him. Men are pigs. They'll entertain anyone who throws themselves at them. But also be prepared for him to date your ex bestfriend if u reject him or if u guys break up again. Cause that's exactly what he'll do.

    • No see it’s not like that. She’s not interested in him like that she’ll just sleep with anything that breaths. And he’s horny he deadass just wanted something to wank to. So I’m not worried about that just the fact of what I do

    • Trust me it is like that! She probably sleeps with everybody but now that you guys are not friends she'll date him just to hurt u and he will too if u reject him. Like I said if u want to be with him, be with him but make sure she's out of the picture.

    • Yeah no I understand you see if that way but I can assure you it isn’t. She’s an easy shag and easy to get pictures from she’s slept with 50+ men and has done this to so many girls I know. He told me purely out of hopes of starting clean over after over a year of not being together. He’s blocked and removed her from everything as has she. It sounds harsh but a vagina is easy to wank over, however her face personality and body are not easy to have feelings towards or date so I’m not worried about that x

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  • You don't know that he isn't interested in her. Hello?

    • Yeah I know categorically he’s not intrested in her it was just a matter of being horny and wanting nudes and she’s a slag. I know people will argue as there outsiders but I can tell you that 1000% x

    • So because YOU feel she is a slag, that proves he isn't interested... riiight..

    • No because of the relationship I’ve had with both of them I’m aware of how it is they’ve both blocked eachother since he told Me and she’s not the kind of girl anyone’s interested in she's purely just easy for some quick pics for a wank

  • It just nudes, he didn't had sex with her, even though she might be too young to send nudes.

    • She’s not too young to send nudes. But yes I do agree it’s just nudes it was more so the principle for me but Thankyou!

    • No problem, yea girls not known for following the bro code, I see why it offended you.

      tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TheBroCode

  • At this point, I think the best thing you can do is remove him and her from your life forever.

    • It’s honestly not that simple because he’s someone I adore and if he can change the one thing being the trust issues then I will want him forever even if that sound silly no one has ever been able to fill the void us breaking up left. I think it’s just hard to accept that’s happen even if we weren’t together and some people may veiw it as just nudes but I think I’ve realised he was honest wirh me about it knowing it could ruin things. And I dunno I guess it makes me feel better about it all

  • No matter who you are or what your particular level of self esteem is, take this as gospel, you madame can do better than an ex who jacked it to your best friend. If the friend is dead to you this fool should have been long ago. Run don't walk, exes are exes for a reason. Do not look back.

    • Part of me says this but part of me also says second chances. I adore this man and have since I met him when I was younger no matter how perfect the people are I see I can’t ever seem to move on from him. He was amazing it was just the lying I couldn’t cope wirh but he made me so incredibly happy. So I guess part of me wants to give it a second chance just because if he can be honest then I’d be so happy with him. I know it sounds silly it’s hard to exsplain.

  • Its just pics..

    • True but it hurts given the situation

    • I can see that. Just do it back...

  • No-one should send nudes.

  • Don't go back into a relationship that doesn't have a good way to progress. Also, if he's your ex why would it matter if your best friend sent stuff to him? Do you expect him to be exclusive to you even after you broke up?

    • No not at all it’s her I’m angry with it’s just a matter of if it’s stupid to go back there to him now after the situation