My boyfriend ask to touch my vagina. I said only one time. then he immediately enter his finger. I bleed. is it sexual abuse or rape. or is it my fault?

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Friendship_7 · Accepted Answer

He is your boyfriend. -- Although it sounds like he did much more then you expected him to. I am sorry tat he caused you to bleed, but you did give him consent to touch your vangina. He did not rape you, or sexually assault you. He asked for your permission first. That is the difference. If he took your clothes from you and forced his fingers into you, that would be sexual assault. I am sure you could also call that rape. But you gave him your consent, he went farther than you thought he would but he did not do anything wrong to you. It was not your fault either. This guy is your boyfriend, you trusted him as you should have. This is an event that you need to decide if you still want to be his girlfriend. No one did anything wrong, you decide if your boyfriend makes you happy. You need to remember that he did ask you if he could touch your viginia. Many boyfriends would not ask their girlfriends to do that. They would just do it. But since you ask this question, maybe you want another boyfriend. ( You take a chance that one maybe worse. ).

Boromir · Accepted Answer

It’s not rape and if he stopped straight after you asked him not even abuse either. In my culture you would still be a virgin too because he did not enter your vagina with his penis.

It’s a mix between lack of experience and miscommunication, if he was inexperienced and thought that you would become a squiring orgasmic being by just inserting his finger in non-aroused state he just needs to learn. Important is that he listens to you if you say ‘au’ and stops.

I had once a short relationship with a girl that liked very much to have her vagina cupped with a warm hand and her clitoris stimulated but she made it very clear that nothing should go inside.

Repa33 · Accepted Answer

No. You said he could so he did. You consented. Lol

MissChasityL · Answer

Congratulations you’re not longer a virgin

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Rape is when he forces you to fuck him. What you've dealt with here is pretty much a form of molestation, except that you kinda invited it, but he was in the wrong for putting his finger (s) INSIDE of you instead of just ON you.

Gavyn · Answer

None of the above. You gave him consent, you can't just take it back because you don't like what happened, especially if it was just an accident.

Saurav11 · Answer

Hell if u are not comfertable than he has to stop

skittles2017 · Answer

Nothing is going to happen.  Move on.

Sherry_coldcoffee · Answer

Are you a guy pretending to be a girl

malegender · Answer

nice troll

Kingfish3447 · Answer

Did you get confused the finger with penis?

Nachowedgie · Answer

No, you consented to it so it's neither of those things. It's your fault. Yes you're still a virgin

Amur8711 · Answer

He didn't ask to enter your vagina only to touch, so would be rape if you feel violated over it.

bldballs22 · Answer

No its not

Anonymous · Answer

You are still a virgin, and no it wasn't rape.

Anonymous · Answer

You’re still a virgin. It wasn’t assault. It was a mix of miscommunication and him being clueless.

Anonymous · Answer

You gave him permission, so it's not rape. However to bleed? Was he rough? That could possibly be abuse, especially if you told him to stop or be gentle and he didn't?