My boyfriend has performance anxiety?

[Anonymous]

When it comes to sex, he has performance anxiety. It sucks because we have been together for 1.5 years, and I’ve never once complained about the sex. It’s always very good. He doesn’t have experience with many women, and I am his first girlfriend. I try and comfort him about it. But, it hurts. Especially because sometimes he’d rather look at photos or watch porn. He already doesn’t have a super high libido, so it’s very hard for me and disappointing. I understand not wanting to have sex sometimes. But, it’ll suck when he’ll watch porn before inviting me over.

I feel i cannot compete with the computer screen.

[AustinMan]

He needs to find a good therapist with experience treating performance anxiety and work on leaving the porn alone and dealing with you in real life.

[TadCurious]

You say the sex is very good. How does his performance anxiety manifest itself in bed? I'm just trying to understand the situation better.

[WhiteShoulder]

That really sucks

Is it hard for you to get him hard?

[Asker]

When we first met, yes. But, he says there’s a lot of pressure he feels. He doesn’t want to cum too quickly (id get upset when he did, because he’d been be too turned off after that to help me finish), or that i won’t like it. It’s so stressful. I don’t like that he’d like be okay with porn and websites catered toward sex/sexual favors.

[WhiteShoulder]

Try teasing him and sucking him really slowly till he's rock hard, then move on to having sex

[Asker]

He doesn’t always want sex. He’s rejected me before. I’m afraid he’ll reject me any time i try to initiate it.

[WhiteShoulder]

He sounds terrible. No offense.

[TheFlak38]

Women are afraid of losing attention to porn. Imagine how they'll be when sex bots will become a thing.

[Asker]

Men would definitely have sex with robots.

[Asker]

Also, I’m not afraid to lose attention... i am losing attention.

[TheFlak38]

Yes. That's a good thing.