My bf says I'm too 'good' and I'm too 'tight' for him... downstairs?

My bf basically always cums within about 5 minutes of very careful and VEEERY slow sex because he says I'm too 'tight' downstairs if you know what I mean... He always tries to make up for it afterwards with other forms of gratification but mentally, it's not as satisfying for me. What do I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Tight vagina with many guys cause earlier ejaculation. But guys need to learn to delay ejaculation and allow that, girl has an orgasm too. There are many methods to do that. The simplest is to slow down when the excitement is great and to continue when the great excitement really pass.
    The best method is tantra. Man completely mastered his erection and ejaculation. A man can have multiple orgasms without ejaculation, and can ejaculate at the end or it can leave ejaculation for a second time.
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  • Hopefully y'all haven't been having sex for too long and he'll start having better control after a while, once he's more used to it. That's how it was with my current girlfriend and me. If it's been like this for a long time, it's a mental thing he's going to have to work on.

    I know this sounds retarded but one thing that works for me is, when I'm having sex, I just think "eh, it really doesn't feel that great... it's like a 6 out of 10." lol it really does work though. Also, tell him to relax his muscles and slow and control his breathing.

    • We've been going out 7months... it's been a while :/

    • Oh wow... well try telling him to try that stuff and see if it helps. Lasting is definitely a mental thing so don't let him think there's nothing he can do about it. And if he doesn't seem to care about pleasing you, you might want to consider finding someone else because that does not bode well for your future together :/

Most Helpful Girl

  • Try the "after" stuff... before. Foreplay can be very arousing for women. Oral sex can help him last longer since your mouth isn't as "tight" as your vagina is. I love to pleasure my man because it makes me very wet and makes for a longer experience.

    • Yeah that happens too and it's all fine physically but mentally, but the whole 'wow I can't move too much or I'm gonna cum' thing as soon as we start is getting a little old...

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  • Tell him to masturbate a while before you have sex so he is not as tense when the moment occurs. it's hard to plan but it could make it last a lot longer.

  • I have NEVER heard a guy complain a girl is too tight. He is lying has ass off !

    • and wait.. he's blaming his PE problem on u being too tight? That's nice!

  • Tell him to jerk off before y'all actually get down to business and I guarantee he'll last a lot longer.

    Being "too tight" is never a problem, just an excuse for other things.

  • lol. it happens but then again not to me.

    if your'e too tight you can increase the amount of foreplay and fingering should do the trick

  • Have your boyfriend masturbate first and get that out of the way, then give him a little bit of time to recover. Its easier for guys to last for a while once they have cum once already.

  • Have him eat you out beforehand, so you're about to orgasm before he even sticks it in you. Then let him go in you, and see what happens.

  • Nothing unless you want an elephant vagina. It'll losen up afterwards. Don't worry, he definitely likes it that way.

    • Trust me, I'm not inexperienced with sex or different partners... it's as loose as it's gonna get unless I have a kid :P... but is a night where sex can be a little more than just missionary with only bare movements to stop him from getting off too early, too much to ask for? Or am I being a 'sex diva'?

    • He needs to learn how to controll himself, second round tend to be longer though. Tell him to learn how to train his pc muscle. If his been jerking off or fucking around too much, then his penis gets worn out, does he get hard like real hard or just half way? If it's half way or not fully hard like teen hard, then he needs to do some kegels (google it if you dont know). By worn out I mean his penis doesn't have what it takes to hold the sperm from coming out, if he doesn't fix it he will have just half way erections if his lucky and he might not even need to put his penis in a vagina to cum.