My boyfriend touches me in his sleep?

[Anonymous]

Its happened a few times now, I'll be asleep and feel a hand go down the back of my underwear. This would be fine if his hand just stayed on my ass, but he tries to finger me. I've told him every time and he says he has no idea that he's doing it, I believe him because one time I said "what the fuck" out loud and he got shocked awake. I'm not sure what to do, its starting to make me really uncomfortable.

[mrfoox]

Yeah you definitely have to talk this through with him. Worst case I guess you could build a mini wall between you with pillows.
Like I have played with my ex's chest/nipples in the morning when I was half asleep cuddling (she didn't mind though), but trying to finger you in the middle of the night seems... Not good.

[razzamatazzp01]

That's some weird stuff. It would be unacceptable to me it sounds like. he either needs to go to some kind of psychologist or he needs to be alone for the rest of his life. Sounds kind of rapey TBH.

[BobbyC65]

You can always get twin bed's that way you won't have to worry about your boyfriend trying to finger your vagina in his sleep and you won't wake up from it. Jest saying.

[Asker]

Many other reasons why this would be great lmao but unfortunately not enough room

[BobbyC65]

Bunk bed's :)

[Trolloween]

It's called sexomnia

[cheapshotbob]

he might have been abused as a kid , you need too talk with him it sounds like a sign.

[wulibuli]

Be the big spoon

[wulibuli]

Butt he could be lying too maybe he likes it

[Asker]

We dont sleep cuddling, it just happens during the night and I'm almost always on my left side with him behind me

[wulibuli]

Be behind him

[Asker]

Not exactly an easy thing to do when you're asleep

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Then tell him you want him to quit doing that.

[Asker]

He isn't aware he is doing it. It happens in his sleep

[johnkena]

He is your boyfriend so whats the problem?

[wulibuli]

Lolll

[Asker]

Just because he's my boyfriend doesn't mean he can touch me while I'm not fully conscious.

[johnkena]

Maybe that is his fantasy?

[Asker]

We've been together for almost 5 years and are open about those things, he would have said and he wouldn't have been confused when I talked to him about what happened

[johnkena]

So just change the side and let it go?

[johnkena]

Or just suck his morning wood while he is asleep

[wulibuli]

Maybe you're not having sex as much? And he's "compensating" for it in his dreams, maybe he fell in love with you again and just wants more

[Asker]

I think the more likely answer to this issue is something another person said "sexomnia"