My boyfriend always begs me for sex -.-?

I'm so resistant to giving in because I HATE when he begs for it. It literally turns me off. I've told him this and he gets mad at me for saying that I get turned off and I should always like want to please him etc. He doesn't really think foreplay is that important and thinks we can always get right to it, right when he says he wants it. It annoys me that he gets mad when I say no and that he doesn't think foreplay is important... how do I fix this?
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  • I know what that's like, the more he pushes for sex the more you'll start to resent him. Its such a turn off to see your man beg or try to guilt you into sleeping with him. Pretty soon he'll get more angry when he's sexually frustrated and the romance will start to fade because you'll start giving him pity lays just to quell his attitude then you'll feel used. You need to sit him down and come to a compromise because this could break up a relationship. Tell him that you'll make more of an effort to have sex more often if he stops asking for it and also makes more of an effort to please you. How often would he want to do it if he was the one getting the short end of the stick like you are now.

    • It's so true. That's exactly what's happening from my end. I think having a real sit down conversation about this is the only way to sort this issue out. I just hope he takes it seriously and isn't a complete dick about it

    • If he is and nothing changes then leave him. I'm married and have been dealing with this issue with my husband for years, it's broken down our bond, connection, romance everything. This is a very big deal and if you can end this before marriage and kids are involved then maybe you should. Some men are just selfish when it comes to sex and they just want their needs met.

    • Yea I can definitely see this being a huge issue moving forward... I'm sorry you're going though the same thing though. It must be so so hard for you :( no one should deserve to feel like this! It's not fair.

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  • Get mad at him and tell him that he should always want to please you as well etc., sex is not a one night street and you feel your sex life is pretty one sided, if it was more even (foreplay and whatnot) then you'd be instigating more and there wouldn't be a need for him to beg...

  • Your boyfriend sounds selfish and like he doesn't deserve sex. He wants to have all the fun, and obviously doesn't care about what you want sexually. It doesn't matter if he "thinks" it isn't important—it's important to you.

    I would leave. That is such bullshit.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I never been to a relationship but my bet is that both partners if they really are suitable for each other then they shouldn't have an issue with doing it as often as possible.

  • He's a poor misguided fool... I'm not sure that you can fix this... he has porned a little too much, I think

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  • He's a loser and not fit to be with somebody. You need to stop wasting time with him. Tell him if he begs for sex one more time instead of goes about it the right way its over or just break up with him now. He's a dick.

  • find a real man, this childish guy just wants you to be his sex toy.

  • I would leave him. He doesn't seem to really put you first and the fact that he gets mad when you try to say no is disturbing. He seems very selfish and relationships shouldn't be founded on forced sex

  • Find a boyfriend who isn't an idiot :)

  • i'm in the exact same situation...