My boyfriend barely wants to have sex with me?

Okay this isn't fake or anything like that... the thingis, my boyfriend and i have dating for 2 yers and we live together since last year. At the beginning of our relationship we would have sex almost every day and sometimes more than 2 time per day, and now i can barely get him to do more than 2 times at week.. i'm so frustrated because i really like sex and sometimes i even have these thoughts on having sex with other people cause sometimes i need it so freaking much... but its not the same with him. I don't want us to be like one of those married couples who don't even feel sexually aroused by each other a nymore... i just want it to be like when we started dating. I do everything to tease him and try really hard to make our sexual experiences good. but if he doesn't feel like it, of course i won't force him to. But is getting more and more difficult to make be want to haver sex. What should i do?
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Okay, as you might have thought i talked to him about it several times. .. and he says nothing has changed, he's still attracted to me and loves me the same way.. it's like he doesn't see things the same way i do or just pretend to be like it. He just don't like talking about it too much.
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  • It's actually pretty common for some guys to be this way. Of course once you rule out any other external factors like (hopefully not) he's sleeping with someone else, some guys just don't have a high sex drive. It's frustrating for you (I know! Im in it too) but I would suggest not seeing someone else on the side to please you if you're really serious about the guy. It would be better to just end it if that's the case. BUT , as hard as it is and sometimes uncomfortable, you gotta keep communication on the topic. Sex is not the biggest part of a relationship but it is a big part. And he has to understand (and I'm sure he does) that you have needs. You have a high sex drive and that's perfectly fine. He can't get mad just like you don't want to be mad at him for not wanting it as much. Keep talking, eventually he'll understand and you gotta stand your ground girl! If all else fails, it may be better to have a talk with yourself about whether or not this is really what you want and if you can handle this situation for a long time...

  • Break up with him. He isn't giving you what you want and you aren't giving him what he wants.

  • Confront him and talk to him about what he's feeling.

Most Helpful Guys

  • "I don't want us to be like one of those married couples who don't even feel sexually aroused by each other a nymore... i just want it to be like when we started dating."

    That first outcome is terrible, I agree. But that second outcome? It just doesn't exist. What you want to do is find some kind of middle ground, where you both are satisfied without needing the sex to always remain exactly the same.

    Talk to him about it. I mean, it's possible he feels the same way and you guys just aren't talking enough -- how silly would that be? Or maybe he really does want to slow down a bit for some reason. Bottom line" ask him how he's feeling. Are his needs being met? What are some ways that your needs can be better met?

    Communicate, communicate, communicate. Relationships really don't need to be this difficult.

  • Be creative with your outfits try wearing some of those naughty outfits, every man eventually gets tired of the same sex with the same girl, surprise him if it still doesn't work, either you need to talk to him or just break up with him , sex ain't everything but clearly its is a lot and as you can see it has started to affect you, one other thing tho be carefull if he is not cheating on you cause if he gets home tired and doesn't wanna have sex SOMETHING is definitly WRONG , he is a man no man should refuse extra sex , it might just that part of the relationship that most married people complain about, the longer you are together with someone the less you gonna have sex thats just facts.

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  • If you're already thinking about having sex with other people, you're better off breaking up with him. It's only going to go downhill from here because you're not happy with him, and something changed with you that caused him to not want to have sex as much

  • Personally if I weren't getting it at home I'd be out getting it elsewhere.

  • You can't change him back to how he was at the beginning because, things change. Its his fault your relationship isn't sexually active but you're trying. This is actually something that happens a lot in relationships and they mostly fall apart.

  • Talk to him sometimes relationships peak too early

  • How can he not want sex every day? How old is he... is he healthy?

    I say let him know how important sex is to you and that you like great orgasms like you use to have. If he does not respond then guess what it will never get better. Young guys should want/get sex daily! Does he jerk off a lot when you are not around? Does he have another sexual outlet?

  • still having more sex than me. I'm thinking of dumping mine.

  • Why not tell him that? Have a conversation, and be ready to hear the word break up

  • Tell him it will change or you're going elsewhere

  • You want it too much.. What you need to do is totally cut off your urges. He will show interest again.

  • Damn, I get crazy when I read such posts on gag... Why it happens that all my gfs want sex 1-2 times per week while I want to have sex every second of the day. I really hope I find some girl with high sex drive like you. I think I should deactivate my gag account haha it is so depressing reading those

  • Watch porn

  • I understand your frustration I am over 2 years without sex She has no more interest. It sux.

  • invite another guy or girl to join you two its fun!

  • First talk to him. Don't push him. But gently ask what's going on. May be he has totally alien problem his mind. Could be from the job or financial or whatever. Who knows. Whatever it is, it hardly hitting him. That's the best explanation I can give. You can't know without asking out him. You can ask him indirectly may be. Don't mix it with sexual relationsh at first. Just have a conversation about his problems.

  • Communication. Try it.

  • he might not be attracted to you anymore... sorry to get you paranoid... but that's my thing. being blunt.