Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend and I have been together for two months. Just recently we started to get intimate. Last night was the second time we’ve had sex and I’m not sure if i should talk to him or if it’s just sex talk.
Before having sex my boyfriend told me he was going to put a ring on my finger
Then while having sex is when it got weird.
He asked me “are you going to leave me?”
I said “no baby”
Then he kissed me and said “yes you are they always say that and then leave”
Then he said “I’m trying to make love to you, don’t cover up your chest i love your body”
Then he started asking me again not to leave me that’s when he told me to spell his name out loud
.. he did all of that while we were having sex. He does it everytime we have sex
My boyfriend begs me not to leave him every time we have sex?
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What Girls & Guys Said
15 60Thats kinda strange, he'd sounds extremely insecure which leads to him being controlling,
You picked him toots. Ya got huge red flags here - a desperate little man. Women loathe weak men.
Instead of becoming an AWESOME real MAN he whines and begs instead. My crystal ball says you'll be bored out of your fucking mind.
I know right, I was cringing while reading it myself. This relationship is doomed
Hmm... that doesn't sound particularly healthy
Ouch, insecurity and/or neediness is an ugly thing, Whatever happens iuin the future he is as responsible for his own happiness as much as you are responsible for your own. If he was expressing it in a light, affectionate way that;s probably cool but you should perhaps tell him. "I have no plans on leaving you but who knows what the future holds"
Spell hid name out loud?
This guy's psyche is stuck somewhere back in grade school with his insecurities to match.
It seems that intercourse for him is a fulfillment of HIS needs, and not fulfilling YOURS, or even attempting to make it a combo of commitment for you both.
It seems like he has some issues with self esteem, insecurity, fear of abandonment... he likely had one or several experiences that hurt him.
Just twice isn't really a pattern. Give it more time before you start to worry about what it means. But most likely, he's been abandoned more than once by intimate partners, and he's steeling himself against the pain.
guess the dude has some severe fear of loss. probably was betrayed before.
He is insecure. That's for sure.
How attractive or unattractive to you personally find that?
Insecure about what
About basically everything. He needs to get a grip.
🤔 🤔 that could be awkward
Just talk
He likes reassurance a
What type of reassurance
That you will not leave him. I think your partner is a sweet guyq
insecure guys are the worst... and it will only get worse... eventually, he will be convinced you are cheating on him and no matter what you do, it won't convince him.
What is he insecure about
reread what was written in the post... that is insecurity
You're relationships are exhausting, and I'm not even a part of them.
ARE you going to leave him? If so, don't fucking lie anymore. It's 10 times worse making promises you can't keep.
But if he's making you do things your uncomfortable with, just be honest and tell him that you don't want to do that. Just say, "No; I don't want to spell your name.". I mean, I can understand why he asked; he wants reassurance that you see him as a person and not just a penis. But he should have a discussion with you (in the daytime, with clothes on) about your feelings instead of forcing you to participate in some gimmick.
you're
(the first one) lol
are you very pretty? that can make guys insecure if a lot of guys want you
I’m decent
yeah so you're probably prettier than you're saying, that could be it
Dude's got some major insecurity issues.
Insecure about what i just Met him last month
Because he keeps asking you a stupid question. He needs to have more self confidence.
Why are y’all only having sex a month into dating, first off. Second off, definitely leave him He’s too insecure and this isn’t healthy
That’s too soon to have sex?
Yes it was too soon to be having sex.
I’m so sorry sweetie. He views you as a booty call :( :( Go get you a real man ok?
He wants to ensure he can get away with just being friends with some sprinkles on top
People say funny things during sex.
That's all.
He seems unstable. I f it was me he would give me a bad feeling about if you did leave him..
It sounds more like Lust than Love... A great way to tell is His mindset and Language.
What does He talk about around You?
Is He affectionate only during Intimacy?