My boyfriend called me a sex addict, not sure how to feel about it?

Question

So my boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 months, we see each other kinda long distance and might only catch up once a week.
He’s quite affectionate and I can be at times but my sex drive is higher than his and i think it’s worse because I don’t see him often.
We are both a bit inexperienced so we are both learning about each other and what we like/need etc but when I see him I kinda jump on him sometimes even though he initiates it a lot and then this one time he said I’m like a sex addict because after having sex once he’s tired and can’t go again but I can... and then he said this to me.
I’m not sure how to feel and I’m a bit upset about it, why would he say that, it’s not like we see each other often?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I don't think he meant it in a bad way, but I think he feels bad for not being able to keep up with you. The reality is that men have "down time" after an orgasm, and exactly how much varies from man to man, but most men simply can't keep going again right away, and that's normal. But he's feeling pressure to do so, and when he can't, it makes him feel like less of a man - like he's not manly enough to do it again. Nothing harms the male ego as much as not being able to perform or satisfy a woman - it's a sensitive subject.

I think he said it more to make himself feel better about not being able to keep up, but he was also telling you that maybe you need to lower your expectations just a bit too, so that you don't keep making him feel bad. You can say something like "when you're ready again, I will be too" and then let HIM initiate "round 2" when he's able to go again. That way, he's feeling like he's more in control and not like he's failing to meet your expectations of him.

shaunp801 · Accepted Answer

In my opinion it means you have a healthy emotional connection to him if you are always wanting to have sex and not just for pleasure. Soooo if its just to orgasm as much as possible then maybe but that doesn't make it bad, just means sexually you need more. I've found that most women need more warm up and long periods of build up to have a truly full releasing of pleasure. If you are that way and dont feel fully pleasured ask him to get you to orgasm first and build you up before he goes, then your second time will be his first time and hopefully that helps. If not communication and honesty is always key. 👍 good luck

Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

I mean I'm a virgin so maybe I don't know enough but what kind of guy doesn't want to have sex more than once? What? My sex drive around him would be just like yours if I were in your shoes!

Also you should confront him about how this upset you and why - communication is key to a long-lasting relationship.

Berethor · Answer

Once a week is not that much for a girl of your age, so you not sex addict. No wonder that you technically an have sex more than him, he is the one who need to keep something up and he likely also do most of the work. Can't you let him rest a little before jumping on him a second time?

slatyb · Answer

Tell him that you find that hurtful. Ask him if he's not happy with it?

LiamSawyer · Answer

He's just not used to having a woman who's sex drive and hormones are driving her for while she can get it. Most women can keep going and last longer then the average guy butvit's amazing what a fifteen minute recovery can do for some guys.

ThiccNigro · Answer

He might feel overwhelmed

jmf909 · Answer

I think he ment as a compliment as i would love a chick who wanted it as much as me but sex can be a absolute energy trainer compared to wanking and sometimes we find out How unfit we are from this activity. like I get leg cramps doing doggy if I am on my knees and as we try impersonate jack hammer it does burn energy and with the extra loss of cum leaving our body our brain just shuts shop and next thing we wake up. so take as a compliment and keep up the good work. find another partner he was the training toy now movie up to experimental then to pro then pornstar never stop trying new things

oncpl · Answer

Sex incompatibility is the main cause. You are always ready to have sex, multiple sex in one go, while he is not as energetic and potent as you are. You both are helpless: he, because of low sex drive, and you because high drive. You need sex again and again, he is tired and can"t have it. Out of frustration he says that you are sex addict.

TheFlak38 · Answer

if you are

Twalli · Answer

Girls can go two rounds in a row while guys can't. Not that abnormal that you don't need to recharge for sex while he does.

Valnac · Answer

It sounds like you are overthinking it. That’s his way of saying you have a high sex drive. It was a compliment. It wasn’t a derogatory term. Get him on Viagra and maybe he can keep up with you.

Yellovv · Answer

Every man want horny girl like you..

Anonymous · Answer

At your age, it's probably normal for a girl to want sex more. Wait till you're 7-10 years into marriage, when women all but lose their interest and libido.