My boyfriend called me desperate?

[Anonymous]

Im 22 and he's 25. we were talking on the phone and things were going great until we started talking about sex. He asked if it was weird that he doesn't really like to have it and i said no, he then said i make it seem like he's desperate and i got confused and said that no i dont think that. I then said that he makes it seem like im desperate and he said that i kind of am. So i asked bow and he said he didn't want to talk about it. I told him i wouldn't get mad and that i just want to know how that made me desperate. He then said he was joking. But i highly doubt it. What should i do?

[Alohaloli]

Sometimes people don't match up right sexually. I was dating a guy that would only kiss my cheek and only at the end of hanging out and it was killing me and I was like I want to really kiss u and he was like soon enough. And it was torture cause I jump into the feeling made me question if he even liked me or if I didn't do it for him. Glad we aren't together I need passion. They may take passion as desperate. That guy I told u about reminded me of my brother he would freak if a girl advanced at all he was very cold. It works fine if you are both that way but mix matched drives don't usually work out. And if he can't talk about sex he isn't mature and secure enough. I question a man's sexuality at some point when they are so stand off ish

[Asker]

Thats the thing though he talks about sex ALL THE TIME he's always hard when he's with me

[Alohaloli]

But he won't talk about it with you just in general. If he can't answer it makes me think wow what else won't he discuss birth control. Feelings!! Also drop it for now and see if it keeps being an issue. Maybe he feels guilty about the age difference. Maybe cause you are young he thinks you are trying to get experience and he feels weird about that. Just ignore it for now let him control the pace it is a dance. Maybe he isn't fully committed. Wait till he really wants it. The sex will be better

[Asker]

That would be a really confusing thing if he's not comitted to me fully. Cause on valentines day he told me he was very lucky to have me in his life. he's mean to me in other ways too though. He called me a hoe twice and i told him it bothered me. I dont even know what to do anymore.

[Alohaloli]

I think he is not sure what he wants and I think you can be the most important thing but that doesn't mean he deserves you. Money is most important to me but if I don't work for it I don't deserve it. He has to work to be worthy of you honey. He placed that high value on you make him price he is worthy.

[Anonymous]

my ex, i loved hanging out with her. but i wasn't attracted to her. it ended due to distance. but i just didn't enjoy kissing her. maybe he's not into you?

[aficionado]

Just assume that this conversation never happened, and you're good!

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Is he asexual or closeted gay?

[Asker]

No he's very sexual just doesn't like to have much sex. He said he's always been that way