My boyfriend can’t get hard PLEASE HELP?

[Anonymous]

when we are in bed he fingers me and goes down on me but when I go to return the favor he’s not hard and he has to jack himself to get it there. He does initially get hard when we first start making out and then he will start grinding but then starts doing things to me as I said. He has told me that it’s fine when he watches porn. He just keeps says his dick is broken but it’s obviously not if it’s fine while masturbating. I just don’t get it bc im attractive and have a nice body and I’m not boring in bed. He’s totally infatuated with me so I imagine he’s attracted to me. My boyfriend is 18. The most I’ve ever done is give him a hand job and he pre-came but then we stopped bc someone came home. So now the last 2 times we’ve messed around he’s just jacked himself off and came on me. But I want to be the one who makes him cum!

[Villiers]

Tell him to quit with the porn. Porn is mostly exaggerated (even, in some ways, comically so) sex. Aside from the "porn addiction" the guys mentioned...

In being a 18 year old who apparently hasn't had another girlfriend before he's more than likely getting "performance anxiety" by comparing himself to the porn and that's why he can't keep it hard.

[Tamera952]

He needs a man who knows his way round the ol penis, to step in and take over.
He who has a penis understands the penis

[Asker]

Woah what now😂

[Tamera952]

Penis has a mind of its own

[Asker]

Well I want it to fricken work

[Cnote22]

There’s a potential fear or guilt aspect that might be a psychological barrier for him.

He’ll move past it I’m sure as you both get more comfortable together.

[Asker]

I just got over that barrier myself with him so I hope that happens soon for him.

[Rixon]

He must stop watching porn and control his masturbation habit. I bet it would help a lot.

[Asker]

I agree. I told him to stop yesterday😂

[Rixon]

Yes I am saying it from. my experience hence am saying it with so much surety.

[Asker]

Ok thanks! Can you give me some tips to turn him on?

[Rixon]

I can but it would be too long if I describe it here. If you are fine with it, I will describe it here.. if not we can have a discussion. Let me know..

[Asker]

I’m fine with you describing it here! I just need some advice:)

[Rixon]

Okay that's fine. Try to surprise him whenever you meet him. Like wearing a sexy lingerie inside or a thong. The element of surprise most likely works. Imagine how excited he would be when he undresses you and sees you at your boldest.

[Rixon]

Also master the art of seduction. A sexy foreplay involving lots of kisses on his back, neck, chest and below waist regions acts as the perfect prelude before you start playing with his penis.

[Asker]

Ok thanks!

[jarrod42]

Take your time, don't rush it and be passionate. Try working together at the start then you take over. Might find some ways to bring you guys closer

[Asker]

Yeah I was thinking maybe I should go first. Bc he does things to me for a while

[jarrod42]

Going first is up to you to discuss with them, I just mean when you want to go down on them, while they jerk off you can do some things and start to take over when its getting heated

[Asker]

Yeah sometimes I think about going down on him when he’s jerking off but I hate how he has to jerk off to get it really hard.

[jarrod42]

Don't let it get to you, not everyone functions the same and honestly, there could be an underlying problem that is unnoticed (like ED)

[DeeDeeDeVour]

There might be underlying issues like drug use, alcohol abuse, etc.

[Asker]

He has never done either

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Erectile Dysfunction might be another possibility.

[Asker]

He’s so young tho and he’s fine when he masturbated

[boggboss]

Could be ED or addiction to porn

[Asker]

He used to jack off like twice a day so I told him to stop yesterday😂

[boggboss]

Sounds like that could be it

[dustin_a67]

Yeah and for the possible ED, have him get more cinnamon in his diet

[reptocarl]

Ed at his age? Bullshit

[boggboss]

Can't you get it early via stress or depression

[reptocarl]

At his age? Nope

[dustin_a67]

It's possible. ED is kind of broad when used in this context because it typically attacks men at particular ages. But it's the reason that it happens at those ages anyway one reason being the reduction in testosterone. Men today dont gave to wait to be subjected to age related "ED" but instead are subjected through foods, diets especially rich in sugars and water supplies which is quite concerning considering woman on contraceptives excrete estrogen and other hormone blockers into the water system and filtering this out has seen its doubts. It's a strange day indeed but it's all very possible. Dont count out ED but remember the causation of ED and how it can have affects on younger people

[reptocarl]

@dustin_a67 bullshit. That’s a cop out for a porn addiction. Before porn was so common and readily viewable this was NEVER heard of. It’s amazing how many young women ask this question on here. I’ve been on here many years

[dustin_a67]

Low testosterone levels buddy. Be it porn, some of the hormone blocking reasons I just said... it's not a cop out, it's a fucking problem. Jacking off all day lowers testosterone, so does drinking 7 mt. dews a day. There are many reasons as to why limp dick syndrome is on the rage. Mind the anti pun.

[reptocarl]

@dustin_a67 I’m telling you in my teen days this wasn’t heard of. We didn’t have phones or computers or even vcr’s. The closest we ever got to porn was looking at Playboy at the local drugstore trying not to get caught

[dustin_a67]

Exactly ^^^ Its a new era man. Everything is changing. That normal conditions of yesterday ED are not the same as tomorrow's

[reptocarl]

@dustin_a67 the only thing that has changed is the availability or easy access to porn. The human body hasn’t changed.

[reptocarl]

There it is. Fine when watching porn. He’s addicted to porn. It’s so addictive it makes it so a guy can’t perform with a normal woman at all. It’s called porn creep or porn induced erectile dysfunction. This is an addiction as powerful as meth and there’s nothing you can do. Viagra will not help or work for this. It will only get worse. You have a decision

[reptocarl]

Forget this bullshit everyone else is telling you. The ONLY cure is to stop watching porn permanently but remember it’s a powerful addiction and I doubt he’ll quit. Most don’t

[reptocarl]

So since you don’t agree with me have fun with your limp dick boyfriend. It’ll stay limp as long as he watches porn

[reptocarl]

Also I know of several women on here that ended relationships because of porn addiction. You’re not the only one. But keep trying to get his limp dick to work. Seems to be working so far

[TantraSerge]

He is probably addicted to and watching way too much porn which is why he has this problem... At 18, that's a real shame. If he doesn't stop now and seek help, it's only going to get worst. I recommend you find someone else... you're too young to have this issue to deal with.

[duanemc86]

He's gay. Check his browser history. Bet you'll find he watches gay porn.

[startingfitness]

he needs to quit watching porn. tell him that he must stop else he won't be able to get hard anymore. its scientifically proven.

100 days without porn should be enough time for his brain to get rewired back to normal.

[bangyourhead]

Maybe he's having performance anxiety? Or you aren't good at sucking cock?

[Asker]

Maybe. He does seem like he really wants to please me. And I’ve never sucked his dick I’ve only gave him a handjob which I’m sure isn’t great for him considering he can do it way better than I can

[bangyourhead]

oh, yeah. Are you stuck on handjobs or are you willing to do more?

[Asker]

I’ve been stuck on hand jobs cuz we have only been dating for 3 months so I don’t wanna be easy

[bangyourhead]

So step up your HJ game... do you use lube? Play with his balls? With his prostate?

[Asker]

I spit on it but that dries kinda fast. And I could try playing w his balls. Do you have any other hj tips? He’s so good at fingering me so it makes me mad when I don’t know what to Im doing

[bangyourhead]

Use real lube. like a good silicone lube or some coconut oil... french kiss him while jerking him off. #1 most important thing - if he's reacting like he likes you doing a certain thing - KEEP DOING THAT. don't switch it up. Play with his prostate, either externally (massage the taint) - or go internal if you're into that.

[Asker]

Ok thank you!

[Twalli]

Tell him to try no fap. More and more guys are only able to cum from masturbation, and if he does it too much he is conditioned to only cum from masturbation

[Nigjt]

I'll say this as a man he must got someone else on his mind an I don't care what he says he's got to have someone else on his mind sorry but that got to be it.
God Bless

[Asker]

Mmm I don’t think so. He’s never had another girlfriend besides me and he doesn’t talk to any girls

[Joker_]

I am here to help

[Maxnanet]

Oh really? Maybe he is shy and really excited and nervous

[rockrewls]

Porn addict, or he may be on some type of medication that is affecting him in that department?

[Anonymous]

Must be either nervousness or anxiety.

[Anonymous]

It's not his dick, it's his brain. What you guys are doing in the bedroom can't possibly compare to what he's watching in porn. I think you just get so caught up in the wild fantasy, that one on one seems mentally boring.
Instead of telling him to stop watching porn, I think you two should experiment with some role playing and see if that does the trick.