My boyfriend considers himself a voyeur and wants to go to a sex club, while I am not entirely interested in going! HELP?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are traveling to New York soon, and there are a lot of sex clubs and he has always considered himself a voyeur (He’s never actually witnessed people in real life have sex) but he says the thought of it turns him on. He says that he wants to go to a sex club to watch people have sex and have people watch us have sex. He says he doesn’t want to go to sleep with anyone else or touch or be touched but I’m having trouble coming to terms with going since I’m afraid I will have jealous thoughts and mad that he’s getting turned on and attracted to other people, and only want to touch me because I’m there and he’s allowed and view me as the person he’s looking at. I don’t know if this is a normal thought or am I being dramatic? I also don’t feel 100% comfortable being in a sex club cause I think they’re all just horny people looking for orgys. And I might also add I am not a voyeur or have any desire to be.

[camotedragon]

Well it makes sense to feel that discomfort and I think if he lives u he will be considerate of your feelings about this but on a side note in a relationship it's not a bad thing to try new things with your partner to spice things up a bit

[HusamRocks]

It's better than him going alone behind you back, it's Like watching porn on virtual reality 😅 it's not something normal or good but if he wants it let him try

[MrsKia81]

It's honestly a lot of fun to watch she be watched. He is very clear he isn't there to do anything with anyone but you

[Avicenna]

Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. He should respect that.

[munichguy]

Just tell him you are nor confortable. By the way, he looks to be also exhibitionist