Guys, My boyfriend cums literally 5 seconds after I have started giving him a handjob, is this normal?

[Anonymous]

So for about 20/30min it’s we are just kissing + me grinding on him. He normally fingers me first and then I go to give him a handjob and when I do it’s like immediately when i start he cums. Is there anything to slow it down?

[RavVid]

Premature ejaculation is simply quicker than desired. There is no magic number. Yes you can slow him down. If you put pressure on the underside of the tip with the thumb with the index finger on the top side it takes away the need to ejaculate. Another way is to flick your index finger at the same spot using your thumb to cock the index finger.

It is really useful to learn this skill. A past girlfriend was very good at it. I would get to the point where I was going to cum if I did one more stroke so I'd pull out and ask her to flick me. It would take away the need to ejaculate but not the desire. It is best to see this as an edging technique. You can google premature ejaculation or edging for more guidance.

[godfatherfan]

Yea, don't do the 20-30 minutes before. If you are grinding on him or grabbing his cock, what do you expect? Seriously, the guy can't control that at all. Yes, there is a spray you can use to desensitize things, but I have not had any success with that when I tried it long ago. I just tell her not to stroke my cock. She can touch, just don't try and set it off.

[SnowedIn]

One option would be to lessen the amount of time kissing and grinding. He'll go longer with the handjob (or blowjob) or sex. The grinding is part of his "clock".

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Strangely enough, excessive masturbating can lead to cumming too soon with a girl. If he does beat his meat a lot, tell him to take a break

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Your hands must feel good hahaha !!! I will admit that Handjobs always make me cum real fast.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This sounds total normal to happen in guys, wish I knew how to correct it in me.

[FunkyMonkee]

Probably not exactly normal but, think of it this way, at least you don't have to do a LOT of work to get a treat!

[Mansearching]

Maybe you're grinding on him for to long.

[stratford]

You've probably gotten him way too excited with your foreplay - I suspect he is the kind of guy that would be ready for round two pretty quickly.

If you can, put your mouth over his dick when he cums, and swallow to avoid the mess, then get him to go down on you while he gets ready for round two.

[Lazyrider67]

Wow what's he doing in the other 3 seconds?

[strlb]

He must be young and inexperienced. He should last at least a few minutes. Tell him to masturbate before you meet up so he'll last longer

[Luckycharms12]

No it's not normal he needs to learn to control himself. Or he suffering with pre mature ejaculation

[jjj101010]

Seems quick to me

[MasterKS]

its called failed!

[Cheerfull009]

He is ED. patient

[tallblondejohm]

You must be fucking awesome

[Anonymous]

No. Let him cum. Then have him go down on you and try again. I had this problem with my first girlfriend and I think she got a bit frustrated as wed been making out and dry humping for a while, so this one time she starts rubbing the cum dripping out of her and it felt good to her and she kept going, rubbing and rubbing her clit while cuddling me until she came and when she came I was turned on and ready for round two.