My boyfriend and i have been together for about three months now and he’s only eaten me out a few times. He acts annoyed or grossed out when i ask and says “do i have to” or “i don’t know right now”. I finally just told him that i felt like he was disgusted at my pussy, and he said it’s not me but giving head does gross him out. He said he thinks it’s the texture. I like making him feel good so i’ll offer to give head, but giving without receiving just makes me feel used. it’s the only way i can come other than a vibrator and he knows that. i can’t bring a vibrator with me every time we have sex. from what i’ve been reading, that’s a valid reason to break up. but i love him and i don’t want to…
i just wish he would enjoy going down on me. he said he’ll do it some times but i don’t even want him to do it at all if he doesn’t like it. i’m the only girl he’s done it to and he’s only done it i think twice, so maybe he just is inexperienced? he was a virgin before me. but he told me it grossed him out. i’m not stinky. if i was, he’d tell me, and i know that because he has before. he wasn’t rude or anything but he just said i was kinda funky and so he didn’t want to, and that’s fine. but i’m hygienic, shaved, i go down on him all the time (but now i’m not going to unless he will first because it just leads to me being sexually frustrated and feeling like he just used me to masturbate)… i feel like if he was really into me he would be willing to go down on me even if he didn’t like it much. i really don’t want to break up, and the sex we have is good other than the fact that i never come, but i feel like i’m never gonna be sexually satisfied if he hates oral. am i a bad girlfriend if i still occasionally ask for it? i’d be happy as long as he just did it once in a while.. what should i do? is there any way i can get him to like it? it’s a pretty big deal for me but i care about him a lot
My boyfriend doesn’t like eating me out but I don’t want to break up?
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i broke up with him about a month after posting this bc he clearly lost feelings and recently he admitted that he cheated on me multiple times lol sooooo
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boring guy!
Find a new guy. Some guys dont like it. They are the ones you don’t want. Unless you have issues down there
that’s the only thing that i don’t like about him though… i do want him but the only problem is he won’t do that
I love going down on a lady.
On the two occasions that he went downtown, how demonstrative were you in expressing your arousal when he was licking you? Were you moaning, moving about, and telling him how damned good it felt, or were you just lying there waiting for him to finish?
no i wasn’t moaning but he only did it for a couple minutes and i’m just quiet during sex in general but he knows that
I understand that but the great reward in him going down on you, the great incentive for him to do it, is to know that it satisfies you more than anything else and the only way for him to really know that is to see and hear you losing control when he gives you an orgasm with his tongue. If you aren't willing to let go of your inhibitions, why do you expect him to let go of his inhibitions?
do you think being more vocal would encourage him more? i’m just normally quiet so i didn’t think about that. i don’t want to fake moans..
At one time, I was very quiet in bed. If you give yourself permission to let go and start moaning a little bit and moving around a little bit, you will probably be surprised that it makes you even more aroused and it will motivate him. Almost every guy wants to know that he can make his partner orgasm and it is a big motivater.
The other thing to try is 69. If you are giving him oral and he is distracted by how good that feels, that may help him to dive into giving you oral.
Okay interesting thank you
High school sweetheart I assume
Stop giving him bj
I suspect this issue will drive a wedge between the two of you and damage your relationship if it's not resolved. I suggest the two of you watch porn together that is focused on eating pussy so he can see that it's a perfectly normal. Try getting some flavored lube such as Pussy Licker to see if that makes it enjoyable for him.
i was thinking about that, that’s a good idea. i don’t think i taste bad, this sounds gross but i taste myself somewhat often and it’s not bad at all… i mean, maybe the taste is holding him back, but he said it wasn’t
He may not be telling the truth about the taste so he doesn't offend you. Some guys are turned off that the pussy is close to the butt hole, so be sure it perfectly clean too. He may be more willing to eat you if it's right after you get out of the shower. Consider showering together and ask him to eat you in the shower.
i did that, just this weekend. we were showering together and after he came i asked if he’d eat me out so i could cum too and he said “idk if i want to right now” and just never did it…
and he is into anal so i don’t think he’s worried about that
For me, after I've cum I'm rarely in the mood right away for more sex. If he's the same, try to have him eat you first before he cums.
do you think that even though he said it’s gross, if he’s really horny he will be down to eat me out?
That's when I would be most enthusiastic to eat someone. He may need more practice before he'll enjoy it.
that’s what i was thinking tbh cuz he’s inexperienced other than me
I was totally lost with my first girlfriend when it came to eating her. In hindsight I wish she would have explained more about what exactly she enjoyed and where and how to lick her. I also wish I would have asked but was to embarrassed. Some positions are awkward for eating a girl. Consider some different positions so he has good access and can breath, like on the edge of a bed. Try holding yourself open so he can focus on eating.
Lol 3 months in and you’re already willing to break up because you ent gettin head enough? Maybe try freshening up a bit down there? You could try some flavoured lube
i would’ve considered just “freshening up” but i’ve bathed and washed my pussy (not with scented soap ofc) prior to every single time we had sex…
i kinda think it’s a dumb reason to break up but i also don’t have much self respect if i’m being completely honest so i googled other peoples advice instead because i think i tolerate more shit than most people would. i was correct, all sites said that if you’re not sexually compatible then you should break up. and i’m afraid we might not be compatible. but, we’re a new couple, maybe we just need more experience.
Oh well if all the sites say so then it must be true, because relationships in the internet generation are sooo stable right? XD I’m sure if you work together you can find a way to get eachother off, it’s not rocket science. Brainstorm. Very silly reason to end a relationship. The girl I’m seeing doesn’t like to swallow but I love to be swallowed... so what did we do? Covered my dick in her favourite ice cream and boom, whenever I’m really craving her to swallow, I pull out the choco peanut butter XD
swallowing doesn’t stimulate you in any way except for mentally
It stimulates me a lot, and the point stands, I found a way, you can find a way
he already told me it’s not about the taste or smell bruh
Look, men train their women to do what they want for em with various techniques. Find ways to make it more appealing
i’m waiting for my razor burn to heal 😂 so that once they’re healed i can shave my vulva carefully and it’ll be smooth as a peach