My boyfriend doesn't want to perfom oral sex on me but I have to?

so, we had sex about a few weeks ago it was my first time and we did it a few times already and i think we could go further and deepen the foreplay and stuff.. it's always been me that sucks and he never does it in return? I asked him if we should try 69 or something and he said he doesn't eat pussy and i asked why and he said he thinks it's nasty... I said well i don't think sucking you was ever nasty! he doesn't want to and i can't force him of course but i said if he doesn't do it then i won't do it and he was pretty mad and said it's always necessary for a girl to do it and i honestly thought getting ate out would be so much fun but i never received it because my boyfriend is a jerk apparently :< anyway.. what would you do?
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  • Leave. It's one thing if he doesn't want to do it and you can agree or whatever (I do it to him most days and he rarely does it for me).
    It's another thing that he EXPECTS you to do it for him, makes it sound like it's your JOB and gets angry at you because you want to be treated equally.

    Should leave. I always vote for communication first but that's a red flag and you tried talking about it. If you want to try talking again, ask him why he thinks it's nasty, ask him if he'd be willing to try it when you're fresh out of the shower (or in the shower still). If not, then go.

  • It's fine if he doesn't want to eat pussy, but to act as if it's your duty to suck his dick when he refuses to reciprocate makes him sound like a real douche. I'd leave him and find yourself a real man.
    I suck my husband's dick all the time without him asking, but he earns it by being an amazing partner. He also never asks me to do it, and it's not presumed that I "have" to. He also doesn't have to eat my pussy, but he does. Relationships and sex aren't meant to be a one-way street.

  • Sex is about communication and experimenting and defining preferences. You can always present him some of your cum with your finger and aslk him to just give it a taste. That is the minimum he can do. Then at least he can form an objective opinion. And you are not obliged to give him a blow job.

    • I love you @xfitchick.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You never "Have to", If he doesn't... you shouldn't. Tell him , "You have to give to get". Maybe do it after taking a shower together... then he might not be as turned off.

    He will give in first, that is why I always tell young girls that they have the power/make the decisions when it comes to sex. They choose when/where/how 99% of the time. If he still doesn't, I think it might be time to look for someone who cares about you and wants to give you pleasure... there are plenty of guys out there that will... if he doesn't.

  • Pussy isn't nasty. It's just something that some of us aren't fond of. It's much better is she's bald (IMHO) and it definitely improves the odds of a return visit if she gives lots of positive feedback: gasping, writhing, panting, tell him how good it feels. If you have suggestions, save them for a time away from the sex.

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  • Listen very closely to me sweetheart. RUNN. I was in the same position and always wanted sex with others because of it. he's really a hypocritical asshole. So many guys eat pussy. And love it!!! Y give up what u cud have so young

  • What would I do? Tell him to go fuck himself... he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore.

    He's a selfish dickhead.

  • I dunno what I'd do. I'd be pretty bummed out. Not just bc of missing out on that but because he sounds sexually immature and I'd probably be incompatible with him.

    I don't really have any advice to give :/

  • some men have that idea that going down on a woman is nasty. because some have a stinky pussy. one that smells. and having hair down there is a turnoff. now if you shave down there smooth. and sort of wash it out so it has no smell, he might change his mind. but if you want to get even. get him really drunk. get a strapon dildo. and give it to him in his ass. make sure you take a few pics to remind him that his girlfriend pegged him. the word pegging means usong a strap on and invading tpur boyfriends arsehole

  • I'm biased. I love eating pussy. But your boy is a selfish asshole. I would tell you to find another guy who is willing to please you the way you want.

  • Break up with him. You seems like really nice and unselfish person. You deserve someone who is not chauvinistic, someone who will appreciate girl like you. For me, eating girl is huge turn on and one of the best things.

  • He's a piss poor selfish lover. Stop giving him oral. You're not compatible sexually and that is a big deal. It won't change so you have a decision

  • Tell him fuck off. Lots of guys would be thrilled to eat you.

  • Find a man that will something not right with a guy that won’t eat your pussy he’s being selfish show him another will eat it if he won't

  • That guy is crazy, pussy isn't nasty it's finger licking good.

  • He acts like dick is delicious

  • Don't do it if you don't want to. It's his choice to do it to you or not but his reason is immature. If you don't want to perform oral don't and tell him why


  • OK everytime you fuck him get in deep thought of me eating your pussy
    tongue fuck your tight ass

  • Dump him.

  • simple. don't do it to him unless he does it to you. This is a sexual compatibility issue, which can be a deal breaker. Tell him that. He goes down on you or you are gone.

  • suckimg each other's soul from
    genitals is nasty Mean it's his pisshole why you wanna put that in your mouth seriously ?

    • i was actually in the same opinion as you and thought it was disgusting but i'm older now and i think it just belongs to sex now

    • hmm the whole pussy eating cock ducking is just way overhyped and not really essential part of copulating. To each their own in bed room there's no wrong or good.

    • well there's a tiny part of me that is against that stuff too

  • Oral sex is the best sex. No oral sex, might as well be no sex at all. You may never know how good oral sex is with this guy. Since he's convinced he hates it so much that he won't even do it, with such a negative attitude he may end up being very bad at it if he ever relents and does it. Thinking you should be looking for another guy...

  • Well don't give him no blow job

  • I'd do exactly what you did: stop giving him oral. It's not like dick tastes like cake either lol, but I woman up and do it anyway!

  • its not a competition. if you dont want to suck D then dont suck D, but if you're going to not do it because he doesn't want to eat you out, you're doing it wrong
    its supposed to be fun