My boyfriend doesn't care if I orgasm or not?

Usually I don’t really care about orgasming (he knows this), our sex is great and I never really need to orgasm but there are times when I’m really horny and want it. However, he doesn’t really seem to care. He never asks if I’m close or anything, just comes and is done. Sometimes I’ll ask him to touch me after and he usually doesn’t. He doesn’t eat me out often cause he hates Pubic hair but I have bad Ingrown hairs from waxing so I’m not shaving down there cause I’m trying to heal. I told him I’ll go back to waxing in a month or so. Today, we had sex and I gave him head and he cums, I ask him to touch me and he says “I’m sorry it’s too hairy babe”. I just feel so hurt and angry. Why does he care about hair? Why doesn’t he care about me coming? We have a great relationship in so many other ways and he always shows his love for me and is the best but just not in that way. What do I do
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I get that pubic hair can be annoying when giving oral, but he should really just get over it. If you're going down on him, it's only fair that he does the same for you, especially if you ask. And unless he shaves/waxes his own pubes, it's also super hypocritical of him to not be able to handle yours. But the most absurd part is that he won't even finger you because of some hair! Does he never jack off, or is he just setting ridiculous double standards? It's not even like you have to deal with the hair that much at that point.

    It seems like he's just being very selfish, and you should have a serious talk with him so he understands that you have needs, too. It's not fair for you to be... blue-clitted? after satisfying him, especially since it's become a pattern. Perhaps an ultimatum is in order: oral (or at least an orgasm in some way) goes both ways or none. That should knock some sense into him.

  • Hair might be an excuse for oral sex but not for fingering etcetera.
    If you really want to see if he is selfish shave completely and then ask him.. If he refuses he is a dumb ass. I shaved for my ex because she didn't like hair so its not completely unreasonable.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well I'm sorry but he won't ever care for you that way. My sister almost married a guy who was so selfish in bed. It hurt her when he did the same thing. You need some one who wants you to cum ! I always make sure my lovers do its only nice.

  • If everything else is fine then it’s not a big deal. You can’t have it all.

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  • Sounds like you need an upgrade to me.

  • If you don't care, than it won't happen with him..

  • That's sad! You could tell him you want to play a game called Me First. He gets to cum after you cum first! You should tell him how you feel.

  • I’m sorry your going through that. I’m all about her pleasure over mine so whatever I can do to help her with that, I’m down. Plus u mentioned the times that u want it & he doesn’t, damn, he’s missing out!

  • One of them bad dudes that doesn't deserve what he's got. Gotta give her hers or you're messing up.

  • He's selfish ass, a woman should orgasm more then the man in my books.

  • Look that is bad you should really talk to him about it find a approve person that he ok with doing or find someone else there is nothing wrong with hair at all this stuff kinda what make people cheat.

  • Some guys selfish like that

  • He is a selfish lover, and hair was never a problem down there, that’s just an excuse, women never used to shave there until the last 10 years

    • He also doesn’t care anymore about you having an orgasm anymore because you didn’t care that often and he thinks he doesn’t need to try anymore

  • Sounds like you need a guy that's willing to go down on you regardless of your grooming habits and one that is willing to pound it out long enough for you to reach the promise land multiple times. What do you think? Does that sound reasonable?