My boyfriend forces me to watch porn with him, I want him to stop?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend said he wantedbto break my virginity in a few weeks I'm not surevim ready but I'll do it anyway. Every time we are together he wants me to watch porn with him and tells me that's how we should do it, I don't know if he is making fun of me or not he made me give him a hand job while watching it and told me to follow what the girl in the video was doing. He said I need to practice because it wasn't as good as what he received from his other girlfriends. I'm tired of watching porn and being compared to many other girls. I love him but when it comes to this I just hate him. Am I being too much of a goody two shoes for not wanting to watch porn with him?

[xoartsyfartsyxo]

If you're not ready then don't have sex with him , also if he loves you then he should appreciate that you are trying to make love to him. He shouldn't be comparing you to other girls and he sounds kinda mean to put you in an uncomfortable situation and makes you watch porn and act like the porn star , even though he isn't physically hurting you. He is degrading you and disrespecting you. I know you don't want to hear this because you love him and you wanna be with him. but if he truly loves you then a man will never force you into doing something you don't like. I have a boyfriend and whenever we hook up , he such a gentlemen , I ask him if he wants a bj and his response is only if you want too. He never wants me to feel forced in anything.
I know this sounds impossible but I garentee you will find someone better after you dump him. It takes time but it's worth the wait. I have been taken advantage of in the past so I know how it feels when someone takes something really special away from you. Don't let him steal your sexuality from you, with time you will learn to be comfortable having sex with right person. Unfortunately he isn't the right person and he doesn't deserve to have you as a gf
hope everything works out for you

[lolalovesvedette]

NO ONE should forcibly introduce you to sexuality.
It's your OWN path to take. If you stay with him, you could potentially ruin your outlook on sex because it wasn't your own idea.

Please leave him. I'd slap a guy if he tried to make me copy a pornstar saying,
"Fuck off, I'm not a toy for your entertainment"

It's different once you've ALREADY discovered what you like and then you can start exploring porn and erotica with a partner. For now, you need someone who will listen to you and play with your body to find out what you both like. Someone who you naturally feel at ease with.
Trust me, this guy will not appreciate you once he finds out you are a human being and not an actress. You are just as capable to fuck like a pornstar if you want, but its way too soon to even think about that!

[Esplorare]

This sounds like a very unhealthy, controlling, emotionally abusive relationship. You need to get away from him before he rapes you and you end up with emotional and mental scars that never fade away.
This guy does not respect you. He doesn't respect your feelings, your boundaries, your privacy, nor the unique growth process you'll have as a virgin. It's all about his sexual gratification and that is disgusting. There is something extremely abnormal about his attitude towards you and sex. To be honest girl, you will most likely regret sharing your virginity with him because there are much better men out there who would never have his horrible approach.

[jacquesvol]

"I'm not sure if I'm ready but I'll do it anyway. "
"when it comes to this I just hate him. "
Don't. He's forcing you. That amounts to RAPE.
You won't love him anymore after that. Dump his stupid ass.
You can easily find guys who respect you more.

[PhiOmega]

Yup,

[OlderAndWiser]

Why do you love him?

[Asker]

He is protective and sometimes kind and I think he cares about me and that being sometimes and he's there whenever I need him.

[OlderAndWiser]

A good relationship requires that each person feel love, trust, and respect for the other. Based on what you have described, he does not respect you and you shouldn't trust him. If you're relationship doesn't have a future, you shouldn't give this guy your virginity. Think about it like this. Would you marry this guy? Would you have children with him? If something then happened to you, would you trust him to finish raising your children, including teaching your little boys how to treat women? If those questions make you feel a bit uneasy. . . there's your sign!

[Asker]

Wow, thank you, thank you so much.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sometimes, from a distance, and with the advantage of many years of experience, I see things that just beg for somebody to scream, "Stop!" You seem to be a nice lady and this could be an awful mistake. Stand up for yourself!

[Stacyzee]

He doesn't respect you.
By being with him , you are allowing this to continue and it will go on if you don't take a stand.
You both want two different things.
You want a boy that genuinely cares for you.
He wants a girl just to give him sex.
leave him !

[LauraMarx]

holy shit., Jesus christ love that isn;t normal. He's being *really* fucked up, abusive and not respecting your boundaries. Get away from this dude ASAP, pleaseee <33 don't make him believe these things about yourself.

[Hidden_P]

Leave him.

Your boyfriend should never force you to do something (unless you know it's something like "I'm scared to go for my job interview", that's different)

You should never be compared. You aren't experienced and if you were he would accuse you if being a whore.

Leave his ungrateful, disrespecting ass.

[7heDubz]

Burn him. With fire. Fire of death.

[Asker]

:D I should.

[9mfeo]

Break up with him. He doesn't respect your boundaries.

[Asker]

I'll think about it but it's not that easy.

[9mfeo]

Yeah it is. He doesn't respect your boundaries THEREFORE you don't need to have anything more to do with him.

[matheus_mb]

lol, no one should force another person to watch porn to lean how to do stuff. Tell him you don't wanna watch it anymore, that you hate being compared to other girls and that you'd rather learn doing than watching. If he doesn't agree or if he doesn't like it, well, then you think if you still wanna be with him and take your decision.

[Klaatu51]

then dump him basically... y u stay with him? he's forcing u... so...

[wankiam]

tell him and if he doesn't respect your wishes then dump him... i love porn but would never force a girl to watch it with me

[epiman94]

I think you'd be better off seeking a relationship elsewhere. Another guy will respect you unlike this horny deadbeat.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion, he is kind to me sometimes and I love him.

[epiman94]

Thats the tough part. Everyone has good and bad qualities. Its up to you guys to decide if it works. But if he won't listen to your concerns, how long can this last?

[TJM27]

You should breakup with him. If he actually cared about you he wouldn't force you to do anything. Also, you should lose your virginity when you're 100% ready not because some guy is pressuring you to.

[Asker]

I know but I don't want to lose him, his company and I'm almost sure he'd leave me if I refused.

[TJM27]

I know you enjoy his company but you deserve someone who genuinely likes you and doesn't just stick around for sex.

[Consultant]

Dump him, he sounds like a piece of shit

[epiman94]

Well said.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion but he is my boyfriend I somewhat love him, I'll think about it.

[Consultant]

There's lots of guys out there. Ones that will respect you. But you know the situation better than online strangers, just my take. Good luck!

[RedLook]

DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM! Believe me, you will regret. I introduce porn to my gf, I didn, t force her but it wasn't a good idea. Please reply or send me message. I can "predict" what will happen

[Asker]

Oh ok, What will happen?

[RedLook]

well I guess your bf is older than you, he has more experience and his trying to convinced you that you should fallow what he says, right? If you are virgin Do not have your first experience with that kind of guy, you can ask many guys and we know just wanna take advantages of you, for how long have you 2 been together?

[Asker]

Yes he is but just by 5 years, he is 23 and we've been together for Three months now but we've known each other for almost two years. Could he last that long if all he wants is just to sleep with me?

[RedLook]

if he is 23 then you are 18, that long? been together for 3 months doesn't mean that he owns your body and your mind, any guy who respect you and love you will wait until you are ready, if you don't feel ready yet is okay. He may not be with you just because he wants to sleep with you but as a man I can tell you that he will enjoy sex way more than you. If he loves you he will care about your emotions and he won't do anything to hurt you (with porn he is already hurting your mind) do you agree?

[PT1911]

He literally thinks porn should be the standard on how you two should have sex.

Leave him.

[Despondency]

"My boyfriend is a douche... but I love him!"

Dime a dozen here. And yet I can't get a date.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him and lay it on the line with him if he keeps it up leave him he's not the one for you It makes me sick just thinking about what you say he makes you do.

[gobsmacked3]

Sounds like a total dick that you should kick to the curb

[Anno_Domini]

He's basically a dick, in my opinion. Dump him and find a guy who respects you.

[watdatmouthdothoo]

Fuck that nigga he disrespectful tell him i wanna fight. In other wrds shake 👊 leave that nigga immediately he foul 🙅

[prans]

i think he wants to cuddle, sorry for the opinion but i really think that he want to cuddle

[antonsammy]

threaten him that u'll cut his di**