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My boyfriend gets turned on when I talk about sex with my ex?

When me and my boyfriend have sex we like to talk dirty sometimes. Nothing crazy. Lately my boyfriend is asking me to tell him stories about how the sex was with my ex boyfriend. He wants me to be explicit and tells me to share every details. I did.. i told him my experiences and i was explicit in detail.. To my surprise he doesn't feel jealous or hurt.. It actually turns him on like crazy. When we have sex he makes me tell him what my ex did to me. My ex liked rough sex.. so i told him what he did during sex. Now I feel like he is obsessing over it and even start to call me a slut while we talk dirty.. All of the sudden he is more wild and rough in bed, like choking me and slapping me. I feel like i am doing something weird but it turns him on? I am clueless.

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  • Not unusual for men to ask, at least for me. A two yearlong girlfriend broke off with me as I did not want to marry. Six months later she is calling me back. At that point she was fucking a guy from her workplace, Goodrich Tire, and we started talking. I asked her if she fucked on the first date, and she said "no" it was on the second date. I asked her all explicit questions, re: "how big is his penis"? ..."About the same length as yours, only not as thick". She said his glans is "like a boil" (tender) et cetera. That got me hot with the visualization of him screwing her. So, what you are saying is not unusual, only, probably most men will not acknowledge it.

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  • I can understand why talking about explicit sex with your ex might be a turn on for him. It's like talking dirty and a lot of people get off on that.

    But him getting rough on you and doing all violent shit is no good, if you don't want it.

    I would have a talk with him and set boundaries on what is acceptable. Very important to let him know what you're not comfortable with.

    I just think that this latest behavior is a red flag. Nip it in the bud.

    • Thank you.. I have to think about this. But you are right, his whole behavior changed which is unlike him. It's like having sex with a totally different person.

    • Just talk to him, maybe? And let him know that this behavior is not acceptable to you. I know that's easier said than done sometimes (just speaking for myself here). But it you don't set some limits things will not get better. And again, I always put it out there... like maybe think of moving on and finding a guy who cares more about your feelings.

    • thanks for the MHO

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  • Is he just curious? How is your sex life with your current boyfriend... how often are you having sex and does he ask every time?

    • He just likes me to tell him the details.. Our sex life is great to be honest. We have sex 2-3 times a week (not counting oral). So intercourse. He is asking me often lately.. repeating the questions i already answered.

  • some guys like that

    • so it's normal?

    • Yes. Some guys get off on imagining their girl with someone else. It's a fetish and I'd say its harmless. It will juice up your sex life for a while but eventually you'll run out of stories and he'll drop it. Just talk dirty to him, its obvious he likes that.

    • @JPresidente I was thinking he will get over it when i dirty talk a lot about it..

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  • I'm trying to imagine what it would feel like if I had a girlfriend who always wanted me to talk about my experiences I had with my ex. I don't think I would like it. i would tell her that I don't want to think about my ex, I want to have new experiences.

    • I feel the same. Also, i don't know why he would to know what someone else did with me in the past. I also don't want to think about his past.

    • You may have to tell him that you're not into it. There's nothing wrong with being incompatible and parting ways if necessary. I'm not the type who will do kinks that i don't like just to please my partner.

    • We did many kinks together but this one is like he wants to share me. It's next level. Thank you

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  • If you two are happy why does it bother u

    • It bothers me because i don't understand it and he acts not like himself. Is it just a kink?

    • What do u mean he acts not like himself maybe this is his true self lol

  • He's a cuck. Probably would like to watch your ex leave you raw and sore.

    • Are you a cuck?

  • He’s probably using you fro sex

  • You are feeding his animalistic instincts for sex. It's normally a turn-on to talk dirty during sex, but it should not turn into sex so fiugh that it hurts you.

  • Some guys get off knowing what you have done in your past. in my opinion the ones are into it usually lead them too want to share which you mentioned. If that's not something your into address it now. Also with his change in behavior during sex you need too address it if you don't like it. Just because one guy was a little rough or whatever doesn't open the door for him to be unless you want it.

    • He is into sharing me..

    • Bingo.. And what do you think about that?

  • Are you enjoying the sex more?

    • I don't..

    • In general, or because of his squirting request?

  • If you don’t like something tell him. It’s not common that guys enjoy all the details of the girl’s past. I always did.
    just because you might have done something in the past doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it now. If you tried and you don’t like it anymore don’t allow him to pressure you to do things don’t want to do anymore.

    dont let him guilt you into doing things now just because you did it before.

    • thank you..

  • I think that's pretty normal.

  • I loved it when my ex talked about sex with her ex,

    • Why?

    • Apparently he had a much larger penis,

  • (shrug) if it gets him up, why complain...

  • that's his thing

  • Does it turn you on

    • Not for me, but i enjoy that i can make him feel like that and turn him on.

  • He's gay

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