So we were showering and I jokingly said that it wasn't fair that he get to milk himself (jerk off) cuz I wanna do it and immediately... He turned cold on me.
What's up with that? Did I do or say something wrong? Cuz I was just playing around since he makes these kinda jokes to me, too.
I'ma answer as honestly as I can.
It's very possible that he is a Dom, and didn't take the joke as a joke, but as you trying (or being) a female Dom looking to take control of his urges/desires.
As a Dom myself, I don't like the idea of anyone 'owning' or 'taking the wheel' so to speak, of my sex life ever. I'd turn a bit frosty too if I didn't immediately recognize it as a joke. Lucky, myself and my current partner are fairly good on communication aspects of our relationship, so that isn't an issue for us. But I would recommend bringing it up with him and talking it out either way. It would be awkward as hell to continually step on each other's toes when it could be avoided or better navigated once intentions are known.
On another note, if he has any underlying trama that you are not aware of, that could also cause some issues as well. Either way, I recommend a calm, yet focused conversation between the two of you where you each allow the other to speak and not speak over one another. Communication really is key in relationships-- in or outside of the bedroom.
I hope this helps.
I kinda see this in him. He rather take initiative. He doesn't really like it when I take initiative sexually. Like, he'll let me touch him and suck him and get on top to ride, but it's not long before he takes control and after a while if pounding, I tell him I wanna suck him but he say no.. But at the same time, he isn't really a Dom either. I like being forced and he knows this, but he doesn't do it much because he's scared he might hurt me. He does force me sometimes when sucking, but immediately he starts being concerned if I'm ok and he starts being more gentle when I gag on him. If he slips out while from behind, he becomes more gentle on me. I don't know how to approach this topic to him tho. We kinda just talk about what we like and how we like to do things and we kinda just incorporate it into our sex life. But other than that, I just don't understand why me telling him I wanna jerk him off would be a problem since he allows me to do it if I don't say anything.
He might be a bit more bashful than he realizes. He makes those jokes to you. But got cold when you did. It was like you "calling him" on it. I think it is cool and if I were taking a shower with a girlfriend I'd like her to say that. But it sounds like it made him nervous. I could picture myself being that way in my mid-twenties.
Lol, if he makes sexualized jokes towards you, but can't take it when dished back out to him, he's probably a guy who thinks women can't think dirty or aren't supposed to "say vulgar things".
On one hand, this is sexual harassment.
On the other, it's his karma.
Keep it up, and tell him to stop using jokes like that on you if he wants you to stop.
Weird most guys love that! Big red flag especially if your in the shower together names!
What other red flags besides him jerking off? Does he wanna do porn in bed?
Red flag if he can tease but not be teased! Learned that one quickly while dating!
No, nothing out of the ordinary. It seems like he just doesn't really like it if I take initiative in sexual things or make sexual jokes while he can do all that towards me.
So rude! Most guys adore that! Don't change yourself for him!
Girlll, trust me. I'm not changing at all. I'm always gonna talk like this lmao
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!i never had a guy refuse a blowjob from me... nor should you if you were willing and wanting... very strange indeed.
Wait, you asked him if you could jerk him off?
Dude, I love when my partner offers to give me a hand when I'm hard in the shower! It's so hot watching her stroking me (also it feels amazing).
Yeah. Usually he lets me do it if I don't say anything and just go for it. But it seems me asking if I can do it is a problem? Or maybe it's because he thinks that I think he already masturbated or something?
I think it was certainly a reasonable request for sure...
Tell your boyfriend to stop being a little cranky bitch & he needs to be milked.
I can't even imagine why he would have issue with that.
I would have said..."be my guest".
I don't know what his deal is.
He's not a cow, you don't milk him. Had you said something like, "let me play with your cock", I doubt he would have objected. You don't joke about a man's penis.
Then he shouldn't be making those kinda jokes towards me either because I'm not a cow either.
He must have a screw loose somewhere. I would accept gladly.
Hand jobs don't feel particularly good.
After milking him make Some Butter out of the milk who won't be that upset Afterwards
Maybe have a list of "things to do" of varying intensities. Make a game out of it, Truth or Dare, or whatever excuse. See where he "draws the proverbial line".
He's stupid, why would he not want you to play with his dick
I don't know... He wanted me to all day and then we were showering and I just made that joke, without any intentions really, and he just got all annoyed or something. You can just feel the vibe was off and he basically ignored me..
Yeah I am not sure I rather have my girl milk me than milk myself. Maybe he didn’t know you was joking or he thought you was being a tease and just saying but wasn’t going too.
I would be too
I'd find it humorous. It's pretty funny.
I don't know, he sounds loony.
No there ain't nothing wrong with u wanting that.
He is just a damn fool.
He should of put u in this good spot an Fuck ur body after u milk him so I think he must be gay or something it's not u.
God Bless
That's what I want 😂😂 I let him know this kinda stuff, too, and he agrees but he never really does anything too forceful (but he knows I love being forced). He always thinks he's going to hurt me. He's like those super homophobic type of people... If you make a gay joke, he gets super mad and ignores you.
So sorry to hear that but maybe u should fine with another man. God Bless
It's kind of weird, why wouldn't he like it?
why would he get annoyed by that? no guy would, most guys would let you do it rightaway.
That's what I wanna know.. I don't understand him
is it only because of the joke? I mean does he let you do it normally?
Yeah, normally, he lets me do it if I just go for it if I don't say anything. It's rare for him to let me do it when I tell him that I wanna touch it or suck it for just a bit.
sounds like fun to me. Maybe he was embarrassed?
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