My boyfriend got bored of me and I don't know what to do?

My boyfriend shuts me down all the time for sex and I communicate about how it aggervates me and he said "I don't know im just not interested in sex much rn and when we do have sex your cervix gets fucked up every time and i hear about it all the time when we have sex like i wanna do a lot to you and with you but you can't handle it or won't do it and its just putting sex off for me it dont seem appealing atm ontop of that i got a lot of other shit to think about (i. e how we're gonna pull off getting out of here and if thats a right thing to do for us etc) and a lot goes into that fundamental issues in the relationship that aren't helping in that decision its a lot" and I think the issue is he's getting bored of me or uninterested with me and I asked a d he also said "Im not un interested in you i still very much love you obviously but yes i guess you could say bored not even just sexually but like in general" like what do I do and I just don't know if he's getting sex somewhere else or like he said he's actual stressed or he's lying I don't really know and it upsets me a lot.
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  • Sounds like a relationship that is 99% about sex. You can't build a lasting relationship on that. He can get sex from billions of other women. If you want a guy to take you seriously and value you then you need to basically be a traditional type and be with a traditional type. That's the bottom line. Anything else is going to have issues because the self-centered nature of non traditional relationships sets you up to fail.

    You don't have a ring. You're not engaged. You're not married. There is zero reason to stay in a dead end relationship. You both need to figure out right now can you see yourselves being together forever or not. If not, move on. I'm guessing the answer is no, because when two people are really right there's a deep magnetic attraction (or at least a deep agreement on some business contract). You two sound far apart. You are just together for the same reason two chairs are next to each other in a restaurant. If the answer is 'yes'. then you two need to really, really talk & think about all of the stuff that matters that isn't sex and plan for the long term instead of focusing on short term issues.

    • Some say 'dump him' -- I'd say, find out what he thinks of the long term with you and WHY would he want to be with you. And you ask yourself the same question about him to yourself.

Most Helpful Guy

  • If you aren't happy in a relationship, there's no point of being in it, if he doesn't change and start giving you the attention you need in a relationship then a breakup shouldn't be a surprised to him

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sadly this will end I'm so sorry!

    My sister had this she just can't have sex without her cervix hurting... All his fault to!

    Her new boyfriend takes time slowly making her excited might take a few hours till she is all ready from teasing wanting needing him but it helps her body move her uterus and cervix up so she can have great sex! No pain!

    My advice go buy a sucker butterfly and just love that till this relationship heals or ends!

    I had a tear inside me and my man took 7 months waiting for me to heal and be ready! If he won't help your needs for sex! Imagine what other needs he will ignore!

  • Dump him and if he asks why let him know it’s because you’re gonna go find a man who’s not bored and unwilling to fuck you. Then you move on.

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  • Welcome to the land of "betraied ones", welcome to the world of deceipt, welcome to... Hell! 🤷‍♂️

  • Sounds like you two need to re-assess both of your priorities

  • You need To dump his ass and find yourself a guy that will not deny you sex period, For a
    Guy to deny a girl sex just pretty
    Means he is Getting it elsewhere

  • Tine for a new boyfriend... Best wishes!

  • if he is actually stressed then yeah stuff like this gonna happen also how long has this been going on for it gonna help me answer your question

    • Roughly 4 days

    • Maybe more and I didn't pick up on it

  • then break up

  • Dump him.

  • Nothing you can do just dump him do you

  • I hate to tell you this but your boyfriend is probably cheating on you

  • Why does he not want it?

    • @Beccaasaaar message me or add me

    • Just leave him

  • He might have arousal issues? Erectile dysfunction... Iused to avoid sex too giving reasons

  • I suggest you get your fun somewhere else

  • Probably because you just want sex.

    • I don't ask for it a lot I'm pretty chill but it's high but I cook I clean I do everything and when I want it he tells me it's not the right time like what? I do all this shit for u but u can't do this for me?

    • Maybe find someone new

    • There is more than sex in a relationship and pushing for sex after someone says no can get you into some pretty major trouble you know

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