My boyfriend has a butthole fetish!!! Help!?

He's obsessed with my butthole and keeps begging for anal. Ever since we tried anal he never want to go back to vaginal sex at all. What do I do now? I prefer vaginal sex and anal does hurt because it's not meant to have sexual intercourse! What about it that he like so much and how to stop him from liking anal as well as make him stick to vaginal and enjoy it again?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Anal sex needs LOTS of lube to be enjoyable to the woman. Some women really enjoy it and can actually have orgasms. I have the same fetish and it will never go away its just how he is. Another butthole sex play is rimming or butthole licking. Try trading off you get vaginal sex the he gets anal sex

  • If he has that much of an anal fetish, you're likely to be looking for another bf if you aren't willing to have anal sex. I'm very anal and I wouldn't date a girl who wouldn't because I'd be constantly frustrated. It's no one's fault. It's just how I am.

    • I'm doing anal sex with him every time he asks for (every time we have sex) so it's not like I'm selfish and aren't willing to! Don't rush into assuming things! How is that no one's fault? The anus isn't the hole to have intercourse. DUHHHH! You're doing against nature and only YOU feel good in such act. How is that not selfish?

    • It's not against nature. Also, the women I've been with love it. Your man needs to be more patient when entering you is my guess. The spoon position is best. You can control the initial penetration while he remains still. That way you can relax and breathe.

    • He should learn to eat your ass first for a good long time. That solves most issues.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think guys like anal for a few reasons, mostly as it is more taboo, not all girls will do it and as it is tighter for them. I think just talk to him that you prefer vaginal sex and that anal should be a treat for both of you, rather than the standard way of having sex.

    • Yes! Thank you. But how do I say that without making it awkward and turn him off?

    • Can you orgasm from anal? If you can't then maybe you can say to him that you never orgasm from it so would like to go back to vaginal sex. How often do you do anal with him?

    • I can't orgasm from anal at all. It doesn't even feel that good. :( We have anal EVERY SINGLE TIME we have sex. He would do vaginal sex with me for like 5 minutes (because I asked him to) then excitingly switch to anal and fuck my butt for like more than 30 minutes...

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  • Tell him no means no , he shouldn't force you to do what u don't want he seems selfish

    Lol Is this ur bf? xD

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1200086-my-gf-can-t-do-me-a-anal-sex

    • Lol no it's not him aha. I never complain I hate it and always do anal with him whenever he asked so it's definitely not him :) Just someone with the same fetish... weird fetish... Anyway, I will tell him that :)

    • Do you ever go ass to mouth with him?

  • He has gotten too much porn and maybe sex in his life therefore he has became bored from it, by it I mean vagina.. so he's turning to the shithole..

    • Your shithole can make you orgasm...

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  • If it hurts it's not doing good things to you. Refuse to do it. He's being selfish.
    You tried it but it should not be always. It is also risky from an infection viewpoint.

    • I did it for him, but now it seems like anal is all he wants! which is why I'm concerned.

    • You need to take a firm stand and tell him you don't want to do it. My opinion is if it hurts its doing you damage. Tell him to find someone else if it's such a big deal because it's not normal.

  • I love anal , and enjoy it soo much. You you should do it regularly and correctly. With good preparing

  • You can't make him not like anal. That's like asking kids not to like Christmas. Just tell him the butt is off limits

  • Train him like Pavlov's dog and change his liking from anal to that of peanut M&M's. It'll be a slow journey, but worth it in the end.

    • XD this killed me. Classically conditioning him to not like anal.

  • If you dont want anal tell him no anal. If he doesn't respect that then he doesn't respect you.
    Or you can tell him your going to use something as big or bigger than his cock, and penetrate him. Im thinking he won't want that.

    • I mean I can do anal once in a while as a treat for him, but not as much as he wants... Yes, maybe I'll bring up that idea to stick something in his butt to see how much he likes it.

    • Like I said if you don't. Want to tell him you dont want to.

  • Just say 'NO!' to any kind of sex you don't like.

    • ... but I want to please him... I'm willing to do anal but once in a while not as much as we're doing now since it hurts...

    • Sex MUST be a pleasure for YOU TOO! If it hursts it becomes awful, like rape.

    • edit *hurts

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  • Dont do anything your uncomfortable with, i had an ex who used to beg like that and looking back i regret ever being with him at all

  • I mean... you just gotta tell him you tried but you’re really not comfortable with it. My long term ex and I tried and she didn’t like anal sex and it didn’t do anything for me either. She just said she would never do it again and I was good. I licked her there a couple times... something I never thought I would do... all drunk the first time. Super drunk... we 69d and that’s what I did to her the whole time... seemed like she loved it. Told me not to stop doing that etc. I did it one more time and she said it made her uncomfortable so we stopped that too. I actually personal really did like doing that though to be honest. I think licking ass is super hot but that’s about my extent with it. Maybe a little lick there here and there while going down on someone. Lol.

  • He’s a normal guy

  • you are weak and pathetic who can't handle an anal lol

  • Maybe he would be happy just eat g your asshole and fingering it. Then blowing his load into you vagggg

  • I agree that the butthole is not for sex. It's on your body, some people like it others don't. Tell him you don't want it all the time... I sure don't want to fucked in my intestines.