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My boyfriend has a small penis?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now, and we've been sexual for 2 months. But there is one problem, he has an extremely small penis, about 3-4 inches erect and he also lacks girth. The first time I saw how small he was I was slightly disappointed but I thought I would just give it a chance. I literally can't take it anymore, I cannot enjoy sex with him at all. My past partner was 7 inches and that was perfect for me. I really do love him though and I don't want this to be a deal breaker but I'm just not satisfied. What do I do :(?
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  • Well, it's not like that's something he can control. If his size is really that much of a problem for you then you could:

    1) Spend more time on foreplay. Take the time to get you both fully "ready." That will obviously make the sex better but he could also use his fingers or perform oral during foreplay which could make things better for you as well.
    2) Talk to him and try to incorporate sex toys or something in the bedroom.
    3) Try different sex positions that may feel/work better with his size

    The important thing to remember here is, do NOT tell him that his size is the problem. That would likely just ruin his ego and make him self-conscious/insecure. Just tell him you want to try some different things to spice up your sex life. That being said, don't say things about his size to make him feel better either. Meaning, don't say how "big" it is because he'll probably know you're lying which will just make him feel worse. Just don't mention his size at all and try the things I mentioned above.

    Penis size does not have to make or break a couple's sex life. Sometimes you just have to be creative and think of other ways to increase your pleasure and make the sex good. His size is not his fault and I'm sure he wants to please you in bed so, just try different things and see if you can find something that works for you :)

    • I know that it's not his fault and I'm not judging him because of it. I've never brought up his size before. But thanks for the advice.

    • Oh I'm sure you weren't judging him, I just felt like I should include that in my response. But anyway, I hope you can work this out.

  • Look up the best positions to do with a smaller penis. Have him use his hands and mouth more. Think about incorporating toys. The key is being satisfied, right? And you don't need a seven incher for that. If he can make you cum regularly, I think you'll be alright. Just tell him you're curious about trying some new things, you'd really like it if he did this to you, or that to you, etc.

    Sex is about so much more than the parts too; it's your mentality. If he needs to be rougher with you, take more control, or be dirtier, that can make a big difference in making sex enjoyable and passionate too.

  • just focus on foreplay and such, get some toys that he can use on you and you'll be ok. he could change his technique also, try wearing a butt plug while having intercourse might actually feel it, but as far as that just buy toys. idt his size is a deal break honestly there's many ways you could enhance sex

    • @marsori most guys would not consent to a penis extender unless they were literally micro

Most Helpful Guys

  • If you love him and that is the only thing lacking don't lose him or dump him. He will treat you better than any loser with a bigger penis. It's a proven fact most average or below average men make the best lovers anyway. Maybe he needs some help and confidence and unless he is into be humiliated (some men are apparently) don't knock him down because if you do your relationship will be over.

    Most men who think they can stand there and watch you admire their great big penis and think your ooooing and awweeeing is getting you off that is really all they know. They never learned no matter how big or small you still need to learn how to use it and most never did so love him, keep him and teach him or you can go find what I described and be miserable.

    Ask yourself this too and it's not personal or literal and I'm sure what you are saying is true and his penis is very small but any woman ever concerned about size needs to know that there is only 4 inches of room inside a woman on average and some I've read want an 8-10 inch penis so how big is your vagina exactly.

    Stick with him and you won't regret it!!

  • Hmm, that's tough. Take a look around online, I'm sure there's probably advice out there, techniques or guides or something, for guys with smaller packages. I'm sure there's something out there that may help him learn how to use what he does have more effectively. I recall someone linking things like that a day or so ago, so maybe do a GaG search for questions similar to yours, you may come up with something.

    Does he know how to use his hands or mouth well? Perhaps you can instruct him on using them to please you, and not just his penis?

    If none of those work, well, it may be hard to be happy in the relationship. Best of luck!

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  • There’s a sex toy that’s called an extender. It’s a strap on dildo that is hollowed out inside for your boyfriend to fit his penis. The dildo itself can be as big as you want it. I use it currently with my boyfriend as does a lot of my friends with theirs. We joke that it gave all our little white boys ghetto dicks ;) Lol
    Sex feels amazing now and it’s technically still your boyfriend that is doing that for you. I highly recommend. We even named ours Darnell! Lol

    • so hot... but you won't need that with me!!

    • how big is Darnell?

    • please follow me so we can chat

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  • You have to tell him and you guys work something out. Like maybe more foreplay time or something.

  • If you aren't compatible and can't find a way through it then you may need to reconsider your relationship. Sex isn't everything but its still very important.

  • Kinda sucks.
    All you can do is bring in toys or maybe teach him to give really good oral.
    Either way in the long run i doubt you will ever be fully satisfied as you know what bigger feels like.

  • Look for other ways or have him try other things. If you care for each other you can explore and work things out.

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