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My boyfriend has delayed ejaculation. Has anyone else experienced this?

My boyfriend occasionally suffers from delayed ejaculation. Of the common erectile issues in men, I haven’t found anything about this.

Sometimes when we have sex, he’ll orgasm and cum like is normal. Other times, he’ll feel himself orgasm, but he won’t cum. We’ll finish up, be like, “I guess that’s it,” and then 5 minutes later he’ll ejaculate without the feeling of orgasm or any stimulation. Sometimes his erection will go down to semi-hard during sex and he won’t orgasm or cum at all, but then he’ll have that delayed ejaculation, again about 5 minutes later.

I know he needs to see a doctor, and he knows this as well, but has anyone else ever dealt with this or knows someone who does? It doesn’t ruin our sex life or anything, but it’s a pretty serious problem.
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As a few of you suggested, it WAS the SSRIs!! He took the risk of coming off of them, and I reminded him that if he felt like he still needed the pills, he should keep taking them. So far, he hasn’t experienced any depressive thoughts, but now his dick works and he feels a lot more :D He’s happy to be functioning properly, and I’m happy that he’s happy.
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  • Interesting! It shouldn't be too much to worry about, but perhaps His body is just out of timing, and needs to calibrate every once in awhile. How often do you two play? Is it fairly often, or occasional? Perhaps His body just needs to take a minute, or something. Good luck to you!

    • It’s fairly often—pretty much whenever we see each other, which is a couple of times a week. I know he worries a lot about not lasting long enough (and then ends up lasting too long), so I’m trying to help him overcome that and just go with the flow, because I imagine it might make him nervous and stress his body out.

    • I'm sure everything's fine! His body is just made differently! Hey, some Men would KILL for that kind of stamina. It sounds great, to be honest!

  • Is he on any medication? . Some anti depression medication messes with men in that way. It makes it difficult to cum.
    I've had difficulty with using some types of condoms with that issue.

    • I’ll ask him! I’m not sure of his medications, but what he’s told me of his medical history, it sounds like this might be the case

    • SSRIs anti depression medication definitely messes with that. I was on it for 2 years. I really struggled to cum. I also ejaculated very thick semen when I succeeded. Sometimes I ejaculated without any orgasm. He can ask his doctor to alter his dose. That all changed when I went off it. Apparently some men take SSRIs for premature ejaculation. Sorry if that was too much information. Just trying to help..

    • Not tmi at all. Thank you so much!

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  • I don't cum during sex. I'm not sure why. I can when masturbating, but only one girl in the many I've had has actually made me cum.

  • Yeah, when I was an undergraduate in college I took an antidepressant for a while and it inhibited my ejaculation. But that's obviously not the cause with your boyfriend.

    • You dealt with this situation? Because it honestly could be the cause.

    • Yes I very much experienced it. But here's the thing, before I started taking that medicine I struggled with premature ejaculation. So strangely enough when I couldn't cum during sex it allowed me to experience prolonged intercourse for the first time, and that boosted my self esteem. (I had to explain to my partners what was going on so they wouldn't think it was a reflection on them.) I was able to ejaculate from masturbation but it took a long time and it had to be really vigorous and I had to use lots of lube.

  • Thats pretty much strange for me I've never experienced this

  • Never heard of that, that's just weird.

  • Never heard of this before, sorry.

  • consult a doctor

  • Wow never heard of that before

    • In box me I have some questions

    • You would have to follow me, and I’m anonymous. Any questions regarding this can be asked here.

    • Can follow you and can't ask them here to embarrassed to lol

  • Well I also suffered delayed ejaculation but I don't see it as a problem but more of an advantage when it comes to intimacy

  • I've been trying to, using JOI, and JOE, but, it's tough. It's a very good skill to have, just very tough

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