My boyfriend has issues when it comes to intimacy, keeping an erection and so forth; How do I approach this?

My boyfriend and I are experiencing issues when it comes to intimacy; is there something I can do?

For some context, we met on Hinge in June 2022 and made things official as a couple in August 2022. With that being said, coming into the relationship, we were both virgins, but I would say I had a bit more experience than my boyfriend, even though I was also a virgin. We first started experimenting sexually in November 2022.

My boyfriend's main issue is that he has an issue sometimes getting and keeping an erection, so we have had quite a challenge having PIV sex and haven't been able to truly experience it unless I'm on the edge of the bed; however, he always tried to please me with his hands, but I wish we could have sex without the stress and disappointment in between.
My boyfriend has expressed frustration, and I know he truly wants to have sex with me, but equally seems disappointed and lost when things don't work out, and seems rather sad. He also tells me that he is tired but doing his best, so I wonder if this plays a part.

I have tried giving him handjobs, but I think maybe I have the wrong technique or something, and he is unable to finish and then always gets nervous about causing a mess when he is close or gets nervous if he is inside, even though I have an IUD. Sometimes we can go even three days without kissing, so overall; our intimacy is lacking.
I have been the one to introduce my boyfriend to condoms, sex creams etc., as he grew up in an old school catholic home, but he got the hang of things quickly... apart from that, I'm honestly tired of this all.
He is 27, and I'm 26.

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  • Yeah, sexual frustration can't go on too long otherwise it's going to hamper the relationship entirely. Have you ever asked him if he wanks himself off regularly? If he does, tell him to stop doing it and save the pleasure for you. This is sometimes underrated advice for the inexperienced types. As for what you can probably do, can encourage once he's in that he keep the pace or change into position where you can lock him in, and then tell him to release his cum inside of you. The emotional and mental aspect will take over here.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Well 2 things... He mans up and takes time for your needs and maybe buys a toy to help when you need and want.

    Also he give you intimacy kissing hand holding dates...

    Or it ends and sounds like to much porn! Like he needs that porn and his hand yuck. Unless he has a medical issue then he should not have much issue unless he is not attracted to you.

    For a hand job ask him to jerk off and copy what he does! He won't teach you which is hard for guys sometimes then copy him.

    Does he eat you? Lol give him a strap on

    Try role playing make up something so you both don't care about his issue... Patient who needs help from his caring nurse with his broken dick.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't have any of those issues. So you know... hit me up.

    No for real though, I wish maybe suggest he take some enhancement pills or something. There's no shame in that at any age. I'd take em just for fun if I could.
    If his problem isn't his attraction to you, then that could fix at least part of the problem

    • *would (not wish)

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  • Can he masturbate to climax? Does he?

  • I think he just needs to find a fantasy/role play/kink that might turn him on. Maybe have a talk about the kinds of things that make him horny?

  • approach from your knees

  • erectile dysfunction could be due to physical or psychological issues, you need to address the problem.

  • Take his dick inside your mouth and suck it till gets very hard...

  • Does he jerk off a lot by himself?