My boyfriend hints that he wants me to have a boob job?

I'm 20, my boyfriend is 21 and we have been together for 2 years.

So the deal is that honestly we're both very attractive people. I'm tall and skinny, have nice hair and face and get plenty of compliments from other people. Myself I think that I do have small boobs (well - I do) but I'm fine with that and don't think it would suit me with fake boobs.

However my boyfriend sort of hints it sometimes, which kind of hurts me a bit. I can't help but feel like he should just appreciate me as I am, because I like myself and I know that he a lucky guy to have me. Or well after I tell him that he should just love me as I am, he tells me that he does and he's just joking - but like ehrm no he clearly isn't.

I would never hint that I would like it if he changed something about himself, because it's just plain rude isn't it?


Am I overreacting when I get sort of angry/hurt about this?
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Most Helpful Girls

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    Key Words of wisdom from yourself about having small boobs > "I'm fine with that and don't think it would suit me."

    It's your body! I repeat: It is YOUR body! If you don't want to get surgery, then don't. Your body = your choice. It's not his place to make these types of decisions. The important thing is you being confident. If him saying things like this, then maybe you should consider if it's worth being with him. I don't think you are overreacting at all. You should just tell him "thanks for the suggestion, but I'm confident with myself as I am. It makes me uncomfortable that you continuously make this suggestion. If you really love me, you'd be okay with me being happy with myself (especially since this is not a matter of health)."

  • I've known people who have had them and its not something to be taken likely.
    There are risks like with any surgury and the recovery is horid.

    You feel feel and look like shit for ages. Then there's the chance they won't look right or that 1 bursts if you ever get an impact there. Then as you get older your body will age but your boobs will stay the same and it just looks creepy and weird.

    Sure people can get it done but it has to be something you want on the inside. Do not ever put yourself through that for someone else.

    Many many many guys prefer slender girls with smaller breasts. He is just one person and cannot be the determinant of something so personal

  • There's nothing wrong with encouraging your partner to say, try a new haircut, or put on a dress, but to go under the knife when it's clear they're happy with themselves?

    Uh, sorry but can he do me a solid and fak off with that logic?

    If you get with somebody you are taking them as they are, it isn't like buying a vehicle that you can then suit up to fit particular preferences of yours. If I were you I'd be pissed and let him know a thing or too, and not half as nicely as I put it here.

    I'd take away his titty privileges.

    "If you can't be grateful for them you can't have them at all Timmy."

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  • You should not ever have to change anything on your body. You were created perfect as you are. If he cannot love you and appreciate you for who and what you are, he does not love you! All he cares about is an object. Its easier to demand things or so called "perfection" from an object because we don't have to love the object. Honestly, you can do better. Demand respect and demand that someone love you first. Make sure you also stay strong and respect yourself as yourself. I'm so sorry that you girls have to contend with this mentality so often. Us guys can and should do better.

  • You didn't say how small your boobs are but I will assume that they are at least 32A/B. That is perfectly normal, acceptable, and to some men, even desirable. Yes, we all want to be accepted just as we are and there is nothing abnormal about you feeling hurt by this.

    The next time he makes such a hint, ask him to stop and consider how you might feel when you hear him make such comments. If he claims that he can't imagine how you feel, ask him how he would feel if you asked him to get a penile enhancement surgery. Sometimes, being blunt is the only way to make a point.

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  • Nope! Not overreacting at all. It means he can't appreciate your natural beauty. I would be ticked off too. There is so many women who get that done because of their boyfriend/husband/etc and then end up miserable when the other leaves or call them fake, disgusting, etc. Don't do it. And if he ever brings it up again, you tell him why don't he get a reality check. This [meaning you] is what he got. Don't like it? End it, before you end being with him.

  • Honestly, it is rude of him to imply that he wants you to get a boob job and you aren't overreacting. If you love your body and are happy with the way you look, then there's no need to get any procedures done. Never let anyone convince you that you aren't good enough.

  • If he is hinting that you would look better than you do if you had bigger boobs I consider that to be a BIG RED FLAG and I would move on.

    It;s fine if he likes bigger boobs, but trying to convince you to go fake to please him is alarming.

    I only have B cups but they are perfect for me.

  • Some guys just like big breasts. Please don't get a boob job. It won't be good for your health. Stick with what nature gave you. Instead find a guy who will very much like what you have. Oh yes, yes indeed, such guys exist and them some. :)

  • you are not overreacting; he's an asshat, and you have every right to be upset.

    don't change anything about yourself for a partner who may or may not be around in a few years (since looks fade with age anyway). instead, break up with him and find someone who loves you for you- the whole package.

  • I think you're over reacting but I know for damn sure that you need to talk to him about it. My wife and an ex had augmentation surgery and before the procedure, they asked me. I told them I loved them just the way they are but if they decided to go through with it, I promised to faithfully and forcefully (we're kinky) play with them. I love the way they look. They never drop like naturals. If you have a booty that's not prominent in a J Lo sort of way, I fear you'd look unbalanced but I guess that just shows my bubble butt fetish.

  • What is your boyfriend, assuming you are still with him, going to think 35 years from now, if not sooner, when the ravages of life and time takes its toll on your natural beauty? Are you going to have a face lift? Liposuction? Bariatric surgery? Plastic surgery to put a patch over stretch marks and those ugly veins in your legs? Well?

  • No, that would upset me too. I can't think of any excuse to ask his girlfriend to surgically alter her body to make it more appealing for him. That's not cool.

  • Before you continue this Less than Cozy Relationship.. Think it Over some More, Here, dear.
    I am Not seeing Unconditional Love on his Part, nor from His own Heart. I don't Blame you for being Upset.
    If you would Ever Stand for this, then God only knows what other Poop you might have to Stoop and Scoop.
    You deserve Better.
    Good luck. x

    • Thank you for the Like. xx

  • That is such shit... I'd dump him... sorry, I was with a guy like that... they don't change...

  • yes i think it's inappropriate to do something like suggest your partner get breast implants. i mean i guess there is a way to bring it up but if the person is happy with their body then as their partner you shouldn't really get into telling them to get surgery to change it. my opinion simply is if you love someone you should love who they are and not ask them to change things... unless they are things about the person that need to be changed. and breast size doesn't need to be changed

  • You have every right to be upset! He is your boyfriend after all and should respect you and love you for who you are. boob job or not, he should still love you, and that shouldn't decide if he likes you.

  • Your boyfriend should really take the clue that you're not interested in having a boob job and he should just leave it at that. I respect your choice not to have it done. It is currently one of those "overdone" things in our society in my opinion. I see young adult women spending their money on that and they need that money to get their adult life in order. And not only the money, but why do they want artificial boobs anyway? I've had small breasted girlfriends and it is just fine with me.

  • He can go fuck himself, fake boobs are no good, even small ones are better then fake.

  • LOL... He could knock you up and the boobs would get bigger;-P

    • I know that you are just being funny and no harm intended but how horrible. Women now days are under tremendous pressures from us as men as well as the media, Hollywood, fashion and so on. I feel very sorry for her that the man in her life who is supposed to love her does not fully accept her the way she was built.

  • Tell him to get a dick job that way you're even

    • Exactly.

  • I think you should stay at the size you are. Just remember no on this Earth that looks like you. And surgery will just change all that.

  • Don't do it. What if he winds up leaving anyways because of some other flaw he finds. Kick him to the curb!!

  • Not overreacting in the slightest. If he really gets on your nerves you might start dropping hints that he should have a penile implant.

  • It's your body, not his. While sharing in a relationship is key, this is something that he should not have control over. He can suggest something from lovers lane but he is not the one that has to carry about the extra cleavage. I can understand if it is something that you were both considering but you should let him know how you feel. Don't hold in your hurt and anger, but don't turn it into an argument either just tell him how you feel.

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