My boyfriend hints that he wants me to have a boob job?

I'm 20, my boyfriend is 21 and we have been together for 2 years.

So the deal is that honestly we're both very attractive people. I'm tall and skinny, have nice hair and face and get plenty of compliments from other people. Myself I think that I do have small boobs (well - I do) but I'm fine with that and don't think it would suit me with fake boobs.

However my boyfriend sort of hints it sometimes, which kind of hurts me a bit. I can't help but feel like he should just appreciate me as I am, because I like myself and I know that he a lucky guy to have me. Or well after I tell him that he should just love me as I am, he tells me that he does and he's just joking - but like ehrm no he clearly isn't.

I would never hint that I would like it if he changed something about himself, because it's just plain rude isn't it?


Am I overreacting when I get sort of angry/hurt about this?
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  • I could care less how long you have been with someone, if they feel the need to push you to permanently change your body for there benefit when they know you are comfortable in your own skin is a bully. There is no reason to have someone like that in your life. He should be supporting and empowering you for who you already are. If you wanted a boob job thats one thing for him to be supportive but to tell you to get one... not so much.

  • that shit is messed up bro

  • Well a photo or two would help...

    But seriously, it sounds like that could drive a wedge in your relationship and you don't need that. I'm sure you could get a guy you like who appreciates your boobs the way they are.

  • small boobs are great so be proud and your boyfriend needs to grow up.

  • I think you just think he's hinting

  • I mean unless he flat out says "i want you to get a boob job" I dont think he's really serious.
    Plus dont get a boob job! its fake as hell and has long term issues.
    Your beautiful just the way you are. Dont change for any man!
    Im a 36C and sometimes I wish i was a little smaller just so I wouldn't get annoyed all the time

  • Your reaction is understandable. He needs to stop talking about it. And yes, it's just plain rude. The only opinion that matters here is yours. Your boyfriend needs to accept you as you are or let you go.

  • He shouldn't even be making hints about you having a boob job. He should accept your body just the way it is. (Which is just fine, by the way, 'cause there's nothing wrong with having smaller size breasts.) I don't blame you for being upset.

  • Can i please punch him in the face? PLEASE?

  • Uh, I absolutely agree with you. It's one thing if you'd thought about it and brought it up on your own... But it sounds like he's an insensitive piece of crap.

  • To put the idea of breast implants completely off the table, I would encourage you to look up what has been published about the horrendous medical problems that can occur.
    Breast implants look fake, most men dislike the look of them and they can kill you.
    I once slept with a woman who had undergone a breast 'enhancement' some years previously. The implants had become encased in scar tissue, which turned her breasts into unnatural lumps that were has hard as baseballs.
    See:
    www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/.../breast-implants-and-your-health

    • They're not horrendous, they're medical problems that can come with surgery, that's just how it is. Most of them can be fixed by a skilled surgeon, and you are more likely to die in a car crash than from breast implants, since that is extremely rare. If done by a good surgeon, it is a very safe procedure. We eat food and breathe air that cause cancer every day, this is not the ultimative gamble with your life. The part about looking fake simply isn't true, not unless the girl goes for a "fake" look. Most breasts that have been enhanced you won't even be able to tell. As for the girl you slept with, she is experiencing capsular contraction, which is a risk but much less so than it was when breast surgery was a new procedure. I think it's about 4-6% of patients that experience it now, and it can be fixed by having a new surgery. Im not saying this to encourage the Asker, but I don't think it's fair of you to scare girls who consider having it done.

  • No not overreacting

  • If its something and temporary like shaving pubic hair I think thats a valid request from a partner but this seems like a douche move to me.

  • No, you should be angry and hurt. That's very rude.
    Also, don't do a serious operation like that to make a boyfriend happy.

  • Nope not overreacting. Its your body. If you want to change it go ahead if you want to keep it the same go ahead. He should be pushing this

  • Do not ever have any kind of plastic surgery, if you do it or anyone but yourself. Those who reject having a boob job, are those who felt pressured to have it done. It's very rude of your boyfriend to suggest it, and you're right to feel offended.

  • Wow, totally had the wrong picture in regards to boob job...

    I can understand you being hurt, for sure.

    Honestly, instead of asking us, just straight out say to your boyfriend "I like my body the way it is, and I certainly don't want surgery to change a healthy body, and I feel kind of hurt when you mention it, so please love me as I am..."

  • Ya he should take you for who you are. He can't decide what you do to your body

  • Who is paying for the boob job?

  • as he is a guy, it is your role to please him and improve your appearance

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