My boyfriend and I frequently have sex but he mentioned he needs a pocket pussy?

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My boyfriend (27) and I (25) have been together for about 3 months now (I know it's not that long) and we are working on moving in together. We see each other about half the week already (I stay at his house for days at a time) and we frequently have sex. Sometimes he's not in the mood, that's okay it's not a problem. What's worrying me is that he's been wanting to less frequently and yesterday he said he needs a pocket pussy. I don't have a problem with anyone masturbating, boyfriend or not, we all do it. But if we're moving in together and my sex drive is higher than his, why would he need it? Side note, I do have bad hips so he puts a majority of the work, but we still frequently have sex and I do as much as I can. I'm getting insecure about it making me wonder if I'm not tight enough (? yeah I know) or if he's thinking about his ex and how much better in bed she was or something. My biggest thing is, why does he need it if I'm here?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't worry. In fact let him use the pocket pussy while you are there. You can even jerk him off with it. A good trick with a pocket pussy I found is that say you aren't feeling like having sex you know maybe it's your time of the month and you don't want to give a bj or handjob and he doesn't want to jerk off and wants to fuck you can put the pocket pussy between you thighs and he can pump away in virtually any position, very good standing up fully clothed even outside.

Even let him jerk off to porn while you masturbate, guarantee he forgets the porn pretty quickly and starts jerk off to you or fucking you. Somebody got a sex doll delivered to our home by mistake, I made my boyfriend fuck it while I played with myself and rubbed his balls.

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

Your feelings are perfectly valid and understandable. It can be difficult to hear or experience a partner wanting or needing something that you cannot physically offer. However, it is possible that your boyfriend's desire for a pocket pussy isn't a reflection of you or your relationship. A person's sexual needs and preferences are unique and personal, and what works for one individual may not work for another. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your concerns and to try to find a solution that works for both of you.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

When will you girls realize that masturbation is not always about sex? We guys sometimes masturbate because it relaxes us. You may take a bubble bath, we jerk off.

Unless it gets to the point where he declines having sex with you, let him have his pocket pussy, more correctly called a Male masturbator.

You say your libido is higher than his. It's common that partners have different libidos. Make sure you have a toy for yourself and use it when you're in the mood and he's not.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

A pocket pussy requires at least a partial erection to enter. It also requires the user to do introduce all the sensation, using it.

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My boyfriend and I frequently have sex but he mentioned he needs a pocket pussy?

It sucks, vibrates and fits snugly enough to stroke as a pocket pussy does. Using the sucking function aids building an erection. It is also inexpensive, stores discreetly and is reasonably quiet. You can use this on him as part of foreplay to ready him.

RoseySarah · Answer

he wants it cause he is quickly getting bored of you! If he is now thinking of his ex after just. 3 months! RUN! Dont move in! He is showing very little intimate interest 😔. Soon with that pocket pussy he will be ignoring you for it and porn! Making you feel useless and broken.  Course he will want a lazy feel good toy over you and doing most of the work! It's great you two have had fun but so sounds like he is already done with you. My sister had this happen after surgery and by the time she was healed he had no interest in exercising for sex when his toys were easier and porn more exciting then her! Sorry nothing to do with how tight you are but after he might want a super tight girl depending on which toy he gets!

HelpfulWoman · Answer

-Ask. Him. His answer will tell you what you need to know.

Apple1996 · Answer

Maybe he just wants to try out some toys for fun. Offer to use it on him

richardcory · Answer

I agree that there is no problme with masturbation - but ones partner should be the first choice. If he is turning you down for sex that is a sign of a big incompatibility.

EmmaMary · Answer

The word  COMMUNICATION  comes to mind.

jshm2 · Answer

He wants you to try anal, probably.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Sounds like you got a discussion to have with your partner daisy

chloeaimee · Answer

Girl… run as far away as you can… if he wants a pocket pussy and you’re there basically all the time, then he’s either bored of you or he’s got a side chick waiting for him to dump you. Leave him before he hurts you and find a guy who will treat you like you deserve!

tfan1 · Answer

If your blowjob skills are great - then he shouldn’t need the pocket pussy. However if they need some work - I would practice on your skills and hone them in 😉👍

Ironic_Method · Answer

Sometimes sex is just too much work. You say he does the majority of it, I don't see it being a problem if he just wants to get off without committing to a workout.

Alex-Snow · Answer

As you know all guys jerk off even if they are having some sex. Let him get the toy as long as it does not mess with your sex life with him. Maybe buy yourself some toys!!