My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months he never gave me oral sex?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months he never gave me oral I was thinking something was wrong when me when I know it’s not but finally I got the courage to ask him why haven’t he and he told me he have done it which is a lie because I remember all the days I feel like it was my fault we got into this disagreement he keeps swearing he did do it but I would have remembered or known I mean who forgets that …. I gave him oral one but stopped because he wasn’t doing it he just keeps trying to convince me he did I asked him when since he said on new years he didn’t and he finally just said
(I did though but whatever you say ) I know for a fact he didn’t
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  • Without sexuality, relationships are only close associations; like cops with partners, bound by duty and mutual protection. Although the central purpose of relationships is not only sexuality, for most of us, it is the tie that binds. I was told a long time ago by a girl I liked that she could learn more about the character of a guy from a half hour of cunnilingus than from an evening of guarded conversation.

    That is true about sexuality in general. Accessibility and enthusiasm for it reveal one's character and how we connect sexually will show itself throughout a relationship in non-sexual ways. It is about holding back a full commitment. You are both rationing oral sex, one of the two central pillars of sex; the other being intercourse.

    And in my experience, cunnilingus and fellatio are far more intensely intimate than intercourse. Thus, you are denying each other the most important pathway to being joined together. I understand that your part is a reaction to his declining you oral sex. This disconnect will spread throughout your relationship and you will be unequally yoked to his advantage indefinitely.

    There appears no further reasoning with him. His mind is closed to you on this issue as it will be on others in the future. It is time for you to asses the cost and benefit of your relationship and decide if the 5 months was a good investment in your future and if more time will make any difference. You have already talked with him (begged?) about it. I think you have no further recourse. Nothing you can do will balance your relationship. It is time to go.

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  • Some guys just don't give oral for some dumb reasons and I don't understand why. I always give a girl oral sex even if we are not gonna go all the way or get a bj. It gives me pleasure that she was pleasured. Maybe tie him up to the bed and make him eat you out lol. Also if he did do it once its not enough he has to do more than once.

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  • i wouldn't push it because some guys just don't like to give oral sex... but i would definitely continue to give him blowjobs and often as he likes because that's the key to having a good relationship... and swallowing his cum is imperative but get over him eating your pussy maybe he can finger you instead or do something else... but to make a guy eat your pussy when he doesn't want to is inhumane... i've had 3 long term boyfriend who didn't eat my pussy and i got over it pretty well and it didn't stop me from giving him blowjobs which is the key to having a great relationship or a mediocre one

  • Tell him to lift his game, or you will bail on him.

    • That’s terrible advice

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  • It doesn't matter if he did it once before or not. He's not doing it now and you obviously want him to, so tell him that.

    • He haven’t done it at all …. I mean I went 5 months without been happy as ever he keeps and makes me happy without it but when I sit and think like it’s been 5 months and the person I’m with haven’t at least tried or talked about it I started questioning myself like dang is it me? Why isn’t this person do this and that I know nothing is wrong with me …….

    • And him arguing with me that he done it on a certain day and he didn’t do it at all even not in that day is throwing me off because now I’m thinking it’s something because if he did that definitely wasn’t me

  • What's your question?

    • Why won’t he do it …. he said he did but he didn’t he swear he’s done it but Ik it wasn’t me

    • No clue. One guess might be he doesn't want to. You need to find a guy you're sexually compatible with.

    • His response was ( I just don't be doing it like that it's no reason fr just don't be thinking bout it fr )

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  • I am more bothered by the fact that he refuses to do it again

    • He did say he wouldn’t but the way he’s talking it seems that way he didn’t even do it the first time I did I stopped after I noticed he wasn’t doing it and haven't done it again since Jan 🤷🏾‍♀️ he asked me recently to but I didn’t do it then either

    • @kate_1234 Why are you still with him?

    • I meant he didn’t say he wouldn’t it was a typo sorry

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  • sounds like he thinks it is a sin.

    • He doesn’t eat pork, seafood just a lot if things and he doesn’t celebrate holidays

  • I'm more concerned that he is lying to you. Dump him.

    • Facts that’s what I’m more concerned about to

    • Forget all the other stuff I don't know if it was because we both was drunk but I was drunk and remembered everything he was drunk to but say that he did when I know he didn’t I think he got he confessed with another girl and just trying to use that day to say he did it so I can think I was to drunk to remember but I remember well

    • Then said (I did do it but whatever you say )

  • Did you ask him? He is not psychic.

  • It sounds like he is selfish and is not going to change or ever give you what you want.

    • That’s why I became selfish and don’t do it to him either I did once on new years and haven’t done it since because he swearing he did it I know he haven’t he trying his best to convince me I forgot when I know I haven’t

    • If that’s the case if he did do it he cheated because it wasn’t me

    • it should be fair that both do it for each other. If he claims he did it and you know it wasn't you he has to have cheated.

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  • Grab his hand. Say follow me. Go to the bedroom. Take off his pants and underwear. Grab his penis firmly and say. You and me. 69 now. He Won’t be able to say no 😉

  • If you want oral date a man instead of a boy 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • First time my girlfriend and I slept together or sex, I went down on her.

    • He’s never done it now ig he’s upset because he stopped texting back I just know for a fact he haven’t done it not about to convince me he did if he did it wasn’t me

    • Well you maybe right. He's probably done it to someone else. Sorry that your suspicions might be true.

    • His response was ( i did I just don't be doing it like that it's no reason fr just don't be thinking bout it fr )

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  • Some guys just don't like going down on a woman. I can't imagine why because I love it

    • I know but him saying he did and arguing with me that he did when I know he didn’t was throwing me off I was just asking him why he didn’t because I was curious of why he haven’t

    • Is it possible that you were drunk and you don't remember him doing it

    • Yes it was on new years we both was drunk it was my birthday I was drunk but I remember everything even me me doing it to him but he saying I don’t remember when or if he did i feel like if he actually did I would have remembered I remember everything else

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  • What a chump. If you giving him head, then stop until he stops lying and goes down on you on a regular basis.

  • The argument he did it *once* is invalid. Your point is why he doesn't do it on a regular basis. Don't do him unless he does you.

    • He haven’t done it at all lol I’m the one who did it once and after that I haven’t done it again that was in January he sayin he so call did it Jan 1 but I don’t remember I would have remembered i remember everything else why not that ….. but we both was drunk

  • Tell him to lick your pussy or you’ll find someone who will

  • We went through this

  • Call me

    • Don’t have your number to

    • So he's never gone down on you?

    • Thats like the first thing your suppose to do.

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  • I would talk to him first and ask. Since he never tried you have no idea what is going on so don't judge until you do. But find out for sure because that oral sex is awesome. Do you give to him without hangups? Do you swallow? Maybe relate to him if you don't like to swallow and find out why he doesn't do what you want. I would drop him like a rock if he doesn't do that on principle alone. Just my 2 cents.

    • I’m kinda starting to feel a way I asked him was something wrong or something he said nothing is wrong he just doesn’t be doing it like that fr he doesn’t think about it like that fr

    • I know it’s nothing wrong with me that’s why I’m confused on why he’s not doing it he said he did it once but I know he haven’t

    • You will likely go crazy trying to figure it out and you might not agree with what he says. Trust an old guy, after licking my sig others pussy for 25 years, I love it still to this day, hairy or smooth. And she appreciates it by moaning and wriggling a lot when she cums. That is my gift every time for her. I would not want to be with someone who didn't at least care enough to try that. That is a weird hang up to me and likely something going on with that. If he doesn't love pussy in all ways, drop it like its hot. Feel free to message me if you want to chat more.

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  • many guys don't care for the stink down there

    • The stink? Lol

    • LOL yes, the smell down there

    • Lol no

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  • When he says he's done it, just say "that was then and this is now. I need some licking now. Get to it."

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