My boyfriend is a dom and I almost told him my desire to be his sub, what should I say to my boyfriend?

Yesterday I almost told him that I wanted to be a sub. However on a vacation in Canada I asked my boyfriend what were his kinks where I flat out told him I’m a brat and a submissive, he responded to me with “oh I see”. Today I might tell him if I can actually be his submissive-brat but I’m too scared on what should I say to him, any advice?

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So update: Yesterday, I asked him if I could be under his control, he said yes! I’m supper happy now because I get to be his slutty submissive/brat around him….. gosh, I love my master so much 🥰
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  • “Oh I see.” Doesn’t sound very enthusiastic, heh. 😅


    I’m a Dom myself. And I personally don’t like bratty behavior. (To each their own though!)


    Since you’re already together though, it would still be good to communicate.


    And as a Dom, he should be more than happy to help you navigate things and understand yourself better.


    Also, you can get more clarity about his kinks and what kind of Dominant he is and whether he’d be open to exploring the world of BDSM and D/s together.


    https://submissiveguide.com/ Is a good resource written by submissives for submissives to understand healthy D/s dynamics.

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  • Well, better to get that conversation out of the way. If he is 100% in favor... great... you didn't waste time... if he is 100% opposed... long term that isn't going to work out, so better to find out now than later. If he's on the fence, you have time to work on him, but you don't know until you pull the trigger. Don't overthink it, don't question it. Do as you're told.

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  • Well then what do you wanna do with him?

    Wanna be a brat? There are times you can be both?

    From a submissive girl in bed you get to try everything! Talk to him about your wants playfully see what he wants also!

    Wanna be a bad girl and spanked pinned and taken? Sure

    Wanna be just pinned and taken another day go for it! Sex is always changing along with your relationship.

    Course your scared but make sure he is wonderful with you in bed! Tell him to be gentle don't force you the first few times!

    After go wild 😜

  • y'all already dating so I don't see why not

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  • If you want to be submissive, then you might as well tell him now, instead of waiting.

  • First of all that's the stuff of fantasy. I'd be on brick just hearing you say this. Hell I'm a little turned on just reading it. Hearing what does it for women out loud never gets old. I really don't think you can fuck this up.

  • When you have specific fantasies, you should talk about them with your partner, you need to have a lot of trust and above all a lot of complicity, if you are afraid to express your cravings and desires, you will live with a strong sense of frustration, my advice is to be straightforward and tell him that you like being submissive in bed.

  • Just tell him specific things you would like to try. It's very difficult to be sexually dominant with a partner who is unable to talk about their desires and limits. We can't read your mind.

  • Well. Get two pieces huge pieces of bread. Lather yourself in mayo and nom nom nom.

  • Just tell him. You're already in a relationship with him.

  • ask him how his ideal girl should be

  • That's what my girl is a total submissive an she couldn't tell me but now I've been with her a year I can see it.
    So just stay it to him an fi her is like me a real Dom he will love u for it like I do all of my girls.
    God Bless

  • I’m not into BDSM. Is it just in the bedroom, or in all aspects of a relationship? There are people who will want and try to control every part of your life.

  • Don't be scared you like what you like perfectly fine we all have kinks some of us more open about them than others

  • Talk to him openly.

  • Be honest, and ask him his desires

  • speak your mind

  • Go for it

  • Bring it up during foreplay and just be direct since it's already come up. Say "I want to be your sub tonight"

  • tell him you want to wrap barb wire around his neck and suffocate him slowly with it until he turns blue and unconscious then take a couple of railroad spikes and ram it through his eyes and balls then take a sharp razor and carve his chest the words go fuck yourself with your tiny pecker

  • Being a Professional Dominant, if that's his reaction to you telling him that you have a submissive kink

    Then I doubt whether he has even a slightest dominant kink in him or maybe doesn't even know what they are

    If the guy was a real dominant he would have instantly pinned you down and made you call him DADDY