My boyfriend is a lot kinkier than me?

Question

My boyfriend is very experienced and experimental, and in comparison I'm relatively inexperienced... don't get me wrong I've had my share of partners but the sex has always been very safe.

he has a lot of things he's done and tried and wants to do, and I want to do a lot of them for him, but I'm worried he's going to view my inexperience as a bad thing and move on... he also wants to do things like public nudity/exhibitionism and stuff that I'm not so comfortable with...

is this seen as a bad thing?

halekelsey · Accepted Answer

I had a boyfriend like that. One of my biggest regrets with that relationship was that i never told him the things i didn't want to do because i didn't want to make his needs feel weird. But it caused me to pretend i was interested and he got so caught up so quick in his fantasies with my false reinforcement that i just resented it. Let him know what you want to do and don't; only do what you want to do. If he gives you shit for it or tries to persuade you, leave. That just means he needs something you don't want to be, which is okay. To each their own! Xx

truthbeknown · Accepted Answer

I totally understand your point of view on the public stuff. Since a lot of that can be highly illegal and end up with a sex offender conviction, that would be not something I would be cool with. I would make sure he knows you are not into that. If that ends up being a deal breaker for him, that is pretty shallow and good riddance to him then! As for everything else, just be open minded and willing. He will like the idea he gets to train and warp your mind! LOL!

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Teaching a gal "the ropes," so to speak, is great fun. Set your boundaries and see what happens.

Metlahaed · Answer

I have been in that situation. I am SO not into exhibitionism, so I just won't do it. Do what you are curious about and don't do what you aren't. If it is so important to him then maybe you aren't a good match anyway.