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Guys, My boyfriend is having trouble lasting during sex, is there anything I can be doing to help?

My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about a month. I have noticed that he has a little trouble lasting. I obviously don't have a timer, but I will say about 2-3 minutes is the best he can do. I can tell he is slightly upset and embarrassed when it happens prematurely. He is actually fairly experienced but hasn't been in a relationship for a while.

I feel bad when this happens because I can tell he is not impressed with himself. Is there something I can do to help him? If I give him oral and get him off beforehand will it help him last the second time? Usually, I do it after when he is slightly worn out. Do I have the order of this wrong?

I'm not shallow, and anytime I am with him I am ecstatic. But I can tell this is bothering him...

Just wondering from guys. I've never really had this come up before.

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  • It's the other way around... Lasting long is something that comes with experience but it's not really something you can control that effectively, what you can do is work around it. Let him go down on you and foreplay before having sex, this will immediately make it last longer. Not only that it'll make it so that you're always pleased cause even if he doesn't like going down on you, if you tell him how you like it, he will be able to make you cum. Not only that him focusing on you will also help him control himself, you can touch him and blow him while he's doing the same to you that he'll most likely hold it. As for the sex, good luck xD if he doesn't last you can only hope the second round is better. The only physical thing people say can help is a cock ring, but I've never felt the need to try one so I don't know for sure

    Oh last thing, by making sure you cum beforehand, there won't be any pressure for him to last super long, which will help him enjoy it more and might relax him and make it last longer

    • by the way when I said that you'll be able to tell him how to make you finish, doesn't need to be his mouth, his fingers can do it for sure

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  • In my youth, I couldn't last as long (under five min) as I wanted to so I discovered a trick that porn stars use to prevent premature ejaculation. The speed in which a man cums is directly proportional to his excitement level. Let's use a scale of 1-10, 1 being no excitement at all and 10 being orgasm. He can have sex until he reaches 7 then he has to slow down and relax until his excitement level drops below a five, (a lot of times I will count backwards in my head until my excitement level drops) and then he can go harder and faster again. It will take several weeks of fun practice, but the fact that you are asking this question is a testament to how you care for him. Which is amazing for a guy to have support about such an potentially embarrassing issue. Besides you both win out in the end. The body is an amazing thing. You just have to put in the time to train it properly. Soon he'll be fucking for as long as he'd like, or at least to give you significantly more pleasure.

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What Guys Said

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  • Personally, second time would last longer. Even if worn out. Maybe working to build enough stamina to not be quite as worn out.


    But with time guys tend to get better and last longer.


    Just be patient with him and reassure him. If I felt bad about it, my girlfriend continuing to reassure me would definitely help me feel better on the emotional side.


    On the physical side, I’d say it’s just about time and he’ll get better. Just gotta keep working at it. And maybe trying a second time.

  • Sounds like he needs to relax probably is already worrying about lasting long before you start he needs to work on his foreplay game make sure he is giving you oral till you finish then starting, if you give him oral till finish in my experience the second time always lasts longer but I generally can cum multiple times without having to stop inbetween each it seems not many guys can do this though I wonder why🤔🤷‍♂️

  • Shouldn't this question come under " Sexuality" topic?

    • im new to this site... shouldn't you just answer the question or choose not to?

  • I have trouble lasting during sex as well. It's frustrating because I want the sex to last longer and feel I am not satisfying her.

    I usually do a lot of foreplay, kissing and give her plenty or oral sex. I usually try to give her orgasm first from oral sex.

    Some oral sex for him may help, I can't say as my does not like giving me oral sex so I don't know if this would work for me.

    During penis in vagina sex I find it helpful to slow down, stop and withdraw if I feel I'm going to come too soon. It's still hard to make it last a long time. She is usually understanding but it is hard not to feel I have been a let down after only lasting a short time.

  • Maybe just try foreplay... take things slow until you're really ready to cum.

  • Control the pace, tell him to slow down or not cum yet. Maybe make him give you some pleasure to put you on the edge then tell him to pound you till he cums.

  • Yes, you have to stop being so good in bed. It’s too much for him. If you’re not using condoms, though, that tends to help.

  • I have the opposite problem. I usually last 40-50 minutes, and the girl gets angry that she can't make me cum.

    But the thing is, my cock is really insensitive.

    He, however, has premature ejaculation. Might want to check it with a doctor.

  • Slam his dick in the closet door

  • Viagra

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