My boyfriend is interested in doggy style but I am very shy and insecure about my body. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I am 18 years old, I started dating in march this year (my first ever boyfriend). I am overweight, I should be 56kg, but I am 68kg (height 5feet 3.5inches). I have had sexual intercourse with him 2 times. My boyfriend is interested in doggy style (we have never done it), but I am very shy and insecure about my body, and not comfortable with him seeing it. My boyfriend is great, he never made me feel bad about my body but I am the one who is very very shy about it. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Doggy position allows for the deepest penetration and most couples particularly enjoy sex in that position. There are two different insecurities that women have about this. Some of them just don't want a guy to see their butt because they are afraid that their butt is too big. owever, the size of your butt is not a very well kept secret. as he seen you in your panties? If so, he knows about the size of your butt, whatever it is. For many guys, seeing your butt will be a big turn on and you are potentially denying him that pleasure. You are also sending a signal that you do not trust him well enough to show him your behind. Trust in bed creates trust in your relationship, and that takes you in the right direction.

The other insecurity for women is they don't want a guy to see their butthole. Either they think it is offensive or unsightly, or they are afraid that the guy will want to play with their butthole or maybe even have anal sex.

What is your concern?

[Asker]

My butt is quite big (my hip is 44 inches), and I dont think it's very attractive or beautiful to look at. What if he gets disgusted or doesn't find it pretty. Although he has grabbed my butt with his hands while kissing/fingering. But I am still shy to show the back.

[Opinion Owner]

He ALREADY knows you have wide hips and a wide butt. Has he threatened to break up with you because of that?

[Asker]

NOT AT ALL. He loves me A LOT. He fell in love with me first and harder. And now, we both are in love. It's been 2 months since our relationship. For us, it's a long term relationship, we intend to get married. I am 18 and he is 29 years old. He always compliments me. He did send me 2 belly fat videos, but never said anything about me being overweight. He says I am hot and sexy, beautiful. So am I the one who is overthinking?

[Asker]

This is my first relationship ever. I have never even kissed another man, never went on a date. He is my first date, first love, first kiss. He is a teacher by profession (NOT MY TEACHER). We tried having sex on the table of a coaching classroom, he did penetrate once, but I blessed a little, so he stopped as he became concerned for me.

[Asker]

*bleeded a little

[Opinion Owner]

Be brave, try it, and you will not regret it.

[Asker]

I WILL. Thank u so much

[Opinion Owner]

The fact that you trusted him will earn you huge rewards!

[Berethor]

Why the problem is with doggy style? you ashamed of your butt more than other places?

[Asker]

to be honest, yes, I am ashamed of my butt

[Berethor]

I respect honesty, it pretty funny that you act like that even after having an intercourse.

[Anonymous]

Wait until you’re more comfortable with your situation to try things that pull you out of your comfort zone like that. There’s no rush. You could also try doing it in the dark, so he doesn’t see you but you could still experience it.

[Makeushiver]

Well mnost women actually enjoy that the position a lot. It allows for the deepest penetration and its the best position if tyou want a g-spot orgasm. Make sure you get a reacharound out of it

[Nikki1989]

Don't do anything you don't want to do.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply

[dudeinohio]

Go for it. He probably likes your body fine.

[Paulychicagoluv]

I can't just say to gain confidence, but it may come in time and you may enjoy it then, until then don't do something you aren't comfortable with

[Asker]

The only way I can gain confidence about my body is by losing some weight. I will start working on it after my exams end this month. Thank you for your reply

[Paulychicagoluv]

Good luck to you

[Cheerfull009]

Don't be afraid, this style is very enjoyable, you will really enjoy and you will appreciate it

[MasterKS]

just bend and get fucked.

[tallblondejohm]

Get face down ass up and let him pound you

[xcooldudue]

Just wake up the feminists inside of you and warm him that you are not her doggy and dare not to think about it again. Problem solved. He will never ask for doggy

[Asker]

haha... he never asked or insisted or forced me at all. It's his desire, but he never confronted or forced me about it. He is a sweetheart. Never disrespects me or my denials.

[xcooldudue]

The only advice i will give you is be yourself and in your skin. Accept your body. Don’t be insecure be bold and open. If he loves u truly he won’t judge you by body. Also being bold will add up to your personality which will make you more attractive

[Asker]

Thank you so much. Yes u r very very right. He doesn't like it when my self-esteem is low or when I am not confident about myself. He really appreciates and compliments me. and I think I should start getting more bold about myself.

[xcooldudue]

Yes confidence will make you more attractive. Low self esteem doesn’t feel’s attractive. While sex people should be fully open and bold or else the pleasure of sex is disturbed. Just realise that he loves you for your some reason. So while you are with him think of yourself as the most beautiful girl. Spread your legs and let him bang the hell out of you. He will surely love it.

[Asker]

Your words have changed my view. Thank u so much. From next time during sex, I will be fully open and bold and relaxed, and just enjoy the time. Just spread my legs and he will bang the hell out of me. can't thank u enough

[xcooldudue]

Your welcome. Glad that you feel good. One more advice. Whenever a guy is with you it’s because he thinks that you are the most beautiful and cutest. So look at yourself from his eyes and believe that you are his princess which is very true and its the reason he is with you. So you have nothing to worry about. Everything is not on body shape. Many more things could have taken his heart like your voice your nature your eyes your personality etc efc. And since he fell in love with your soul your each part is naturally attractive to him.

[Anonymous]

Try it