My boyfriend is making me feel extremely insecure?

My boyfriend of three years is pretty respectful and he doesn’t do anything he knows I wouldn’t be comfortable with. Now I know he likes celebrities and that’s all normal but I noticed they have big butts and I don’t have one I only have big boobs. So it’s hurt my feelings honestly and he doesn’t understand. Can guys give me some perspective? I feel like he loves big butts and I’m lacking that so he’s unsatisfied with me.

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  • You termed this correctly..."boy". Guys can be idiots for quite some time and be selfish, not thinking about the womans feelings and how much that impacts their self esteem and sense of security in the relationship. This doesn't fall on the woman, although women's self esteem is important, that would be established by her parents. But what you described most any woman would choak on.

    I have no problem with ditching idiots if there's more mature guys available, but you can choose to train them if you like. This is after all mating and reproduction, so we should let nature weed out the bad ones.

    Somehow, he needs to be converted into a "man", ideally he would learn from other men. Part of the problem is our modern society where we see all these alternatives and then compare a real person to millions of others, often "fake". It's a recipe for disaster. He has to choose you, then protect your feelings... that's his mission.

    The other part is how you feel, you need to evaluate if you can find ways to feel secure in spite of what he says. That may be a painful road if he doesn't wake up.

    You may have to "lay down the law" with him about this issue, because stupid is stupid... and it may take year for him to learn to not be an idiot. There's guys out here much older that still make mistakes like that, it isn't an age thing necessarily but training and awareness.

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  • The keyword I pulled out of your question is the term “lacking.“ You are not lacking in anything! Fake big butts as portrayed in porn and by nasty celebrities such as the Kardashians is not attractive, nor is it reality. As a man, I feel horrible for women that this stuff continues to be projected onto them as a standard they must abide or else they somehow aren’t attractive enough. Believe me, to a healthy and naturally wired man, you are more attractive than can possibly be imagined when your body is 100% natural and left alone. It’s all perspective. Why should you have to modify your body to match what he has allowed himself to be conditioned to like? Doesn’t that tell you something? What it should tell you is that he doesn’t love you as much as he claims he does if he cannot accept you the way you are. If people with fake big butts and breasts can set a standard, why can’t you also set a standard for him? When I fall in love with a woman, it won’t be due to her breast size, butt, and anything else fake or removed from her body. My love isn’t contingent on fakery. I don’t want fake, I want the real her. It’s about falling in love with the person and loving them so much that you can’t imagine life without them. Once that occurs, their natural body sets the standard, not some celebrity that has no clue who I am nor do they care. Not some porn flick that’s doctored up in a non-linear editor program. You are not like lacking anything with exception to maybe your own self-worth. Gain your self-worth. It’s intrinsic. It is not contingent on the way anyone else sees or values you. You are a daughter of God and a queen unto yourself. If he cannot see this and recognize it, then he does not deserve you a queen in his life to complete him as his equal and complementary opposite.

    • He says he loves me and my body he says all that stuff doesn’t matter but he is attracted to these girls you know makes me feel bad

    • Yes, I understand you. And I’m sorry you have to feel that way. You shouldn’t have to feel that way. It’s not fair to you. You as you come are supposed to be the authoritative standard of beauty in his life, not a celebrity. Please don’t associate it with you being the problem. You aren’t the problem.

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  • First of all don't be insecure about this bullcrap. You are okay he is with you not with them. Now hold your head high and smile.

    • Amen 100,000x Exactly what @CoolCatMar said ❤️

    • @PositiveFlight ❤️❤️

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I don’t even know where to start with this one. It’s almost like our obsession with celebrities and comparison is detrimental. Who knew.

    of course this makes you feel insecure. He’s basically saying that he’s not satisfied with you (which, by the way, reflects poorly on him and not on you). If I were with someone like that, I’d be outta there.

  • It's natural to feel insecurities when you find out your partner likes something you don't necessarily have- and when such insecurities (or ANY insecurities for that matter) come up, you should discuss them with your partner in a safe and healthy manner. Remember that he's dating you for you.

  • Celebrities are celebrities... it's a product... You aren't a product

    • They are all occultist illuminati trannies. Yes, all women kn the tv and radio are MTF trannies with surgeries and hormones. That's why they look so unnatural.

  • You are projecting because you have low self esteem.

  • He likes big butts and I cannot lie. 🤣🤣🤣