Guys, My boyfriend is my Dominant and I am his submissive and I love being choked during sex. Why did he slap me a few times during choking me?

Okay, so I'll explain this in more detail. I love to be spanked and choked. Last night during sex I grabbed his hand and put it on my throat and he proceeded to choke me which I LOVE. This time he did it a little longer and I felt like I was going into a blissful state and then he smacked me in the face with his hand. Just on my cheek but damn I loved that too! Its the first time he's ever done that. I know everyone has their own kinks but what was the point of him smacking my cheek? Then he put his fingers in my mouth as if he was feeling around. I don't know it was really hot. This morning I can't help but wonder if he was angry at me lol! I guess because we've argued a lot recently but like I said I looooved it but I just want to be inside his mind to know what he gets out of it. Any guys wanna add an opinion to this?
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  • Face slapping afficionado here. Face slapping and choking are like coffee and cake, or tea and biscuits. Not everyone likes to have cake with their coffee or biscuits with their tea, but enough people like the two together for them to be associated together.
    Your boyfriend's a dom and you're a sub, so he feels like he can do whatever he wants to you. Slapping and choking are both ways to assert dominance. He might have felt you needed to "wake up" after being choked for so long. Or maybe he just felt like treating you like a fucktoy. I think he should have asked for your consent first, because not everyone likes it - but it seems to have done no harm.

    • I have talked to him about face slapping before he did it and told him how I saw it in a porn lol. He normally will try something once to see if I like it. If I show resistance he stops. Which I don't even think I've done but once. The good thing is he reads my body language very well.

    • Ah that sounds ok then. It took me forever to get comfortable with it, despite loving seeing it in porn where the girl is obviously into it. Always hated the thought of hurting my partner. It sounds like you're both blessed with amazing sexual compatibility. Here's wishing you many more days of amazing sex.

  • You know fully well he wasn't angry at you, it's all part of the act, he knows it's hot, you know it's hot, keep doing it.

    • You're right. I over think everything lol! Thanks for responding. Can't wait to try more things

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  • Probably just got into it himself and decided to be spontaneous, so he did something different by slapping you on the cheek, not too sure.

    Since he knows you love to be dominated, maybe he just decided to be more aggressive/assertive/dominant & that was what he came up with

  • Choking and face slapping typically go hand in hand. You are already asserting your dominance by choking them and a guy can get more into it. It also takes that level of dominance up a notch. Obviously not every submissive wants to be slapped but typically if they're already being choked then slapping is something that has been explored as well. it sounds like he's continuing to explore his dominance over you and what you like as well.

  • He may have thought you were ready to pass out and figured that would bring you back out. I have a fair amount of kinks but none to do with smacking some one in the face. I don't think I could do that or choke someone during sex. Maybe smacking a but cheek. But to each thier own. I like wearing heels once in a while. So I can't say that I am vanilla.

  • Well damn to bad I’m not your boyfriend because I love that shit too, being a dom that is and reading the made me think of so many things lol. But who who knows why he did it, maybe it was something new he wanted to try but you never know

  • The choking part is called breath play and it’s when people like to be choked, have a hand over their mouth or nose to restrict their airway etc. Regarding the slapping, a lot of Doms have common fetishes like sadistic tendencies and how they like to inflict pain upon the willing participants and by doing so, they get aroused from it. When the participants are masochists they enjoy pain and sometimes they also enjoy being humiliated and being taken advantage of. With you arguing a lot lately, he probably wanted to use it as relief and it probably felt right in the moment. I know I do this when my sub gets out of hand and talks back, (I spank her, inflict pain and choke her) to put her back in her place.

  • I think it's just another action to assert dominance

  • it feels awesome doing that to a hot chick, makes us feel dominant and in control deciding how much air she can breathe plus i have pretty big hands

  • Probably wants to take it up a notch!!!
    Just make sure you have a safe word.

  • Jesus Christ you just described me. I'm a sadist, having a masochist like you is a goal.

  • he wasn't angry at you lol... he was just taking it up another level. Thank god you liked it. Sounds like you guys are in tune with each other. Have fun :)