My boyfriend is very insecure about his small penis, how do I console him?

He's about 2 inches erect. I've tried and tried to reassure him that it's fine and I don't care that he's small, but he won't listen to me. Most of our sex is oral and I still enjoy it thoroughly. How do I convince him that it doesn't matter to me?
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  • yeah i don't think that is going to make a lot of difference if you for real and not a fake account. The only thing you can do it tell him sex was great and let him know your satisfied. if he is really that small then what can you do he knows he isn't doing much for you. But that should make him excel at oral. I love oral anyway. But since there is no way I will believe that I can make a woman cum from intercourse, and since most women don't cum from penetration, I became really good at oral. so by the time I have given them between 1-3+ orgasms, then I just finish myself off, they are usually too wiped out to care. I am at least 6" so length isn't an issue but still

  • I really don't know that there is anything you can do. Often times insecurities are a personal issue. I'm 7 by 6 and it feels so small to me I'm a bit ashamed of it. No matter what my girl says or how much she cums I still feel its to small. Just be as supportive as you can because its depressing

    • C'mon that's nowhere near small...

    • Its perceptions. I'm 6'3 240 with huge hands. It just feels small to me. people are just like this i have seen plenty of women with great breast who feel thy need to b bigger, or bodybuilders who no matter how large they get feel the need to be larger. Point being its something you have to work through personally sometimes, and there may not be a way for you to fix it. Just be as supportive as you can

    • I see, thanks for your input.

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  • I was with a guy who had a small penis I don't know the measurements but it was small and skinny he would never get all the way hard. You can assure him that he is satisfying you but whatever you do please don't lie to the man and tell him how much you love his big cock because that won't help.

  • Wow, I have never seen one that small, even when soft. Can he even get it inside you?

    • Not really :/

    • Oh, dose he even enjoy sex?

    • Yeah, he does.

  • Just keep showing him that you're enjoying it, eventually he'll get over it.

    • Best comment! Perhaps go out of your way a little more to want him... so that it helps build his confidence!

    • but youd leave him though. lol

    • Yup, and I was thinking about what oldanddecrepid suggested, show him that you love him the way he is, once in a while make it about him (I think the opposite would also be helpful so he understands he can pleasure a woman without the penis), let him lay down in the bed and kiss it, lick it, go at it like an ice cream in the middle of the summer, and don't mention it's size in any negative way, not even small jokes, at least until he's comfortable. If he has pleasure from sex I'd say he's just lacking confidence on his pleasure giving abilities, and that's a great opportunity for you guys to have some special, no-pressure moments of mutual understanding and teaching. When he gets you moaning and reaching orgasm and you dig your nails on his skin, he'll feel like a lion and hopefully understand he has nothing to be afraid of :) .

  • "babe your penis may feel like a tampon but you have a great personality"

    • Is it bad I laughed?

    • It'd be badder if you didn't

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  • I've never heard of a 2inch penis getting the job done. Is he your first and only sexual partner?

    • No, his oral is what's great.

    • Dildo involved?

    • Nope, fingers.

  • Don't tell him that you like it or that it's the best you've others have said here. 2 inches is not enough and he knows that. But that's it, he might never be able to pleasure a woman because of his size, but he might have something else instead. A good personality, a loving person who loves his girlfriend more than anything. So no, don't try to tell him that it's fine, instead go for his own points, a man should not be his penis, it should be the whole man.

  • tell him that you like how it directly hits your g-spot.

    because that's plausible.

    • Well I wish it did...

    • Umm the gspot is roughly 2 inches in so... is he less than 2?

    • Try anal with a dildo in front?

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  • Agree with @Chick180. Tell him all the good things you appreciate about him not being hung like a sasquatch. (eg. you never fear that he's gonna gag you so you're at ease when you have oral etc.)

  • Try talking to it (and him). As part of the lead up when you're going to initiate oral, just get down close to his little fella and give it a motivation talk... "hey there, little buddy, have you ever heard of the little engine that could? well your my special engine and I like to rev you up."

    It's all about positive vibes.

  • Damn, I'm not sure if there's anything you can say to him. XoBenxo is right though, we all know that majority of woman want a good pounding here and there. He's gonna have to dig deep (No pun intended) to feel secure with himself and play up his good traits to compensate for the lack of size. Your a real good woman to stick by him but it's gonna be a tough road.

  • Just reassure him you like the way he is
    i agree penis size is not all that matters
    too many insecure people about their
    genitals now is time for people to
    be happy with what they have not all
    genitals look the same, size, color etc
    it's all part of life and acceptance..

  • Tell him he's the best you've ever had.

    • But he's not, that'd be lying to him.

    • Is he thick, or is it short and thin?

    • Short and thin.

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  • Don't you have to burry his dick in a box before the consoling is conducted? Don't get ahead of yourself.

  • U can't. He knows the deal. Its biology & evolution. Eventually down the line you are going to need that good pounding every woman needs once in a while. He should be selfless & let u get that from someone who can give it to you. Sounds horrible & I dont mean to be mean but its true

  • what you need to do is show him how wonderful he is and how to shift that insecure into confidence, now there's nothing you can do about his insecurity about his penis but you can up his confidence in other sexual stuff you can do, be more attentive to him, make him feel wanted, he doesn't want to hear that its fine or you dont care about it. the only thing he wants from you is that you want to be with him and nothing else matters but he doesn't want you to say it, he wants to see it and when it comes to something sexual be all over him like you couldnt keeo your hands off him, sit on his face, tell him to finger you, get sex toys involved, create a bond of things you too could do with each other that cannot be broken

  • Wow, good for you for staying with him.

  • Something like that'll take time

  • Swallow i guess

  • Is he thick at least?

  • Dont tell your friends about it

  • you dont mind? wow thats a new one. so there are women like that huh?

    • No, if I love him why should that be an issue?

    • wow cool shit. maybe i should rethink the thing about giving up trying to find a woman...

    • Size doesn't matter to me either I agree with asker..

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  • Leave him for me I have a 11 inch hammer I will leave you begging for more

    • That would hurt... pain isn't always pleasurable

    • I'd rather take a small one than that.

    • Cut your dick off and shove it in your mouth for me, please. That will make me feel amazing.

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