My boyfriend keeps lying to me about porn what should I do?

so my boyfriend and i have been dating over a year and i caught him with porn a long time ago and he swore on the bible he wouldn't do it again after he lied about it i have caught him serveral times since and every time he promises he won't do it again. he knows how it makes me feel, he knows it hurts me and makes me cry and makes me feel inferior yet he still does it over and over. what should i do? i don't want to break up with him i'm so in love with him but i also give my all to him and i couldn't even watch porn but he does and it doesn't phase him how it makes me feel. i understand he's a 16 year old boy and has need but i send him pictures, videos anything yet he still looks at other women?
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  • He's not looking at other women, he's looking at sex. He doesn't need you to cry, he needs you to be okay with it. Porn does not reflect anything serious. It's a fantasy for people to get off on. You're probably very pretty, it doesn't reflect any errors in your ability to satisfy him. Once you're 19 or 20 you'll understand the world is much more different than what you know it to be, porn is different from sex. And please change your age if you're under 25-29, people can get in trouble for giving you advice if you're under 18, I mean that respectfully. Best of luck! And don't be intimidated at all by porn.

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  • I dont see the porn as something to get upset about. Its not like the guy is out cheating or flirting with women online. I have seen men do so much worse. I understand how it must make you feel, but the guy is very young and obviously likes watching porn. You can cry a d whine to him about it but that won't change a thing. It actually may be turning him on even more.

  • Porn is a very icky subject to talk about. Most couples do not talk about it because it is a private thing. The fact that you are being nosy about his viewing of porn makes you look like his mom. Let him have his own private time and be respectful of it. He isn't looking at the girls he is looking at the action of sex.

    • maybe he is looking at the actions of sex but it will pull him away if its not controlled properly take it from someone who has been addicted from age 11 and has had many relationships while hooked porn will drawn the guy/girl away from the one they r to love and do those actions with yea porn ain't bad but when ur in a relationship its best not to even look at porn so there is no temptation of looking at other girls without sex porn in a relationship leads to cheating and cheating leads to break ups just words from an experienced addict

  • he is still young, he won't stop because he is still in the curiosity and maybe he is addicted to it. but for me he is only 16 years old. no matter what you do he will keep on doing that. so for me just understand him. at least he is not cheating on your or sleeping with others girl. just understand

  • Why is your boyfriend a child is a more relevant question

    • i lied about my age

    • And the irony of that is lost on you, isn't it.

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  • first, you should be done with this guy. He lies over and over. He has proven, without any doubt, that you can't trust him. Without trust, your relationship means nothing. One of the foundations of a GOOD relationship is trust. If you don't have that, why be in it? Find a good guy that honors his word or is honest about continuing the behavior. You would know where you stand. I wish you the best.

  • so one u r a sexual predator or u listed your age wrong. 2 u r whining about a man watching porn. that's like being upset if he watches sports. it's what men do. and 3 don't act like u don't have your little fantasies away from him that u get off on

  • leave him.

  • You should stop trying to control him.

  • 1. What is the age of consent in your jurisdiction?

    2. Drop porn from the question: "My boyfriend keeps lying to me. What should I do?" Your choices are accept his lying or leave him. You cannot make him change.

  • there's really nothing you can do about this , its a personal choice, porn. He has to groe until he feels he doesn't need it. Really, you shouldn't feel so insecure on the matter, those women dont have him, You do

  • He's not gonna change. Decide for yourself if you can spend the rest of your life with him. Decide whether he's the guy you want to be the father of your children. If either answer is negative, just dump him 'cause you're wasting your time.

  • Well my advice is someone call the cops because THIS IS RAPE!

  • Men lie to the women they are with when he believes she can't handle the truth.

    "i understand he's a 16 year old boy"
    And if this is true, you should turn yourself in to the police.

  • There is very little chance he will stop, and he will continue lying to you. There's nothing you can do, sorry :(

  • It's fuckin porn, quit crying, it's not even a big deal

  • Yep. Other women are more interesting. Welcome to adulthood.
    And really, why do you think you should have control over him anyway? Where do you think you should get his power from? Like, who put you in charge?

    That said you have to wonder where he gets his jollies. If you're giving him your all and he still likes strange, what does that tell you?

    If you're not having problems in your own romantic relationship and your sex is good, then stay out of it. If it's not good, and you're being neglected, then he has a problem and you have to decide if you can or cannot deal with it. Sometimes it's not always a match.

  • Um, watch it with him? Duh. Your insecure, its understandable.

  • Are you giving him good pussy?

  • there isn't much to do except pray one day he will snap out of it rather ur in his life or not

    • how bout everyone stop bashing her porn is a bigger deal than u all think she has a right to be concerned and ask questions so just stop bashing her for asking a honest and reasonable question I have dealt with porn from age 11 so I know a few things and it's more damaging than u all think

  • You're 25-29 and dating a 16 year old wtf?

    • lied about my age

    • Indeed, you lied. Think about that for a moment.

  • You re 25-29 years old and you re with a 16 y old boy?

    • This was the first thought that came to me as well...

    • I was like nevermind the porn, the age is what I find problematic too, in most countries 16 is underage

    • @Alexcc regardless... 16 is a kid... under 18 and you really shouldn't be going out with them esp in your late 20's. All sorts of bells went off in my head.

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  • Why would you be dating a 16 year old boy?

  • He lies because you keep shaming him for watching porn. Stop shaming him for watching porn!

  • stop trying to control him and get some self esteem damn it
    do u see normal guys sleeping with mia khalifa , alexis texas or sara jay

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